Blog 6
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THE RATE OF COLLAPSE IN MARRIAGE
d rate @ which marriages collapse now is assumin a social symbol status in our society. In few yrs time, people wil be throwin divorce parties and invite friends nd well wishers 2 celebrate their divorce anniversaries ; they wil choose aso ebi, hire a hall nd popular musicians. Even a qstn like "So when are u gettin divorced?" wil become common parlance. If u knw u cnt handle d weight nd pressures of marriage, please remain single.
If u dnt kno wot marriage is all abt,pls remain single until u do.
If u get married bcos of d tins u desire or hope 2 gain frm d oda person pls remain single.
If u kno u cnt b faithful,remain single.
If u cnt 4give one anoda's wrongs,pls remain single.
If u cnt place ur spouse above evry oda human being,pls remain single!
Dnt get married out of despiration.
If u desire a successful home,buh ur choice of frnds re dose whose marriages av collapsed,its simple-dey will make u drink frm dia poisoned chalice.Once dat happens,ur marriage is on d verge of collapse.B vry mindful of wia u go 4 advices.
Guys,if u kno u cnt put ur wife ahead ur ego,pls remain single till u mature.Dia is no way u can abandon d kia of ur family @ d xpense of ur lifestyle.dey re ur priority 7 evrytin else includng u comes last.U r d teacher,d guide,d bodyguard,d spiritual leader,d role model- u r nt a deity.So dnt xpect 2 b worshipped.U need respect,earn it by being RESPONSIBLE............
d rate @ which marriages collapse now is assumin a social symbol status in our society. In few yrs time, people wil be throwin divorce parties and invite friends nd well wishers 2 celebrate their divorce anniversaries ; they wil choose aso ebi, hire a hall nd popular musicians. Even a qstn like "So when are u gettin divorced?" wil become common parlance. If u knw u cnt handle d weight nd pressures of marriage, please remain single.
If u dnt kno wot marriage is all abt,pls remain single until u do.
If u get married bcos of d tins u desire or hope 2 gain frm d oda person pls remain single.
If u kno u cnt b faithful,remain single.
If u cnt 4give one anoda's wrongs,pls remain single.
If u cnt place ur spouse above evry oda human being,pls remain single!
Dnt get married out of despiration.
If u desire a successful home,buh ur choice of frnds re dose whose marriages av collapsed,its simple-dey will make u drink frm dia poisoned chalice.Once dat happens,ur marriage is on d verge of collapse.B vry mindful of wia u go 4 advices.
Guys,if u kno u cnt put ur wife ahead ur ego,pls remain single till u mature.Dia is no way u can abandon d kia of ur family @ d xpense of ur lifestyle.dey re ur priority 7 evrytin else includng u comes last.U r d teacher,d guide,d bodyguard,d spiritual leader,d role model- u r nt a deity.So dnt xpect 2 b worshipped.U need respect,earn it by being RESPONSIBLE............ -
DON'T GIVE UP ON YOURSELF
A MUST READ!...
One day a Man
in his 30's got fed up and
decided to quit.... "I quit my job,
my relationship, my spirituality,
Infact I want to quit my life"...
He said. Then He went to the
woods to have one last talk with
God. "God! Can you give me
just one good reason not to
quit?" He said. But God's answer
surprised him... "Look around",
God said. "Do you see the fern
and the bamboo?" "Yes",The
Man replied. Then God
continued... "When I planted the
fern and the bamboo seeds at
the same time, I took very good
care of them. I gave them light.
I gave them water. The fern
quickly grew from the earth. Its
brilliant green covered the floor.
Yet nothing came from the
bamboo seed. But I did not quit
on the bamboo. In the second
year the Fern grew more vibrant
and plentiful. And again, nothing
came from the bamboo seed.
But I did not quit on the
bamboo. In the third year, there
was still nothing from the
bamboo seed. But I would not
quit! In the fourth year, again,
there was nothing from the
bamboo seed. But I would not
quit! Then in the fifth year a tiny
sprout emerged from the earth.
Compared to the fern it was
seemingly small and
insignificant. But just 6 months
later the bamboo rose to over
100 feet tall. It had spent the
five years growing roots but 6
months to Shoot to the Sky!
Those roots made it strong and
gave it what it needed not just
to SURVIVE but to be
SIGNIFICANT amidst its peers. I
would not give any of my
creations a challenge it could
not handle because I love them
too well! " God said to
Him..."Did you know, my child,
that all this time you have been
struggling, you have actually
been growing roots." "I would
not quit on the bamboo. I will
never quit on you. Don't
compare yourself to others."
"The bamboo had a different
purpose than the fern. Yet, they
both make the forest beautiful."
Your time will come and You will
rise high! "
♦ MORAL LESSON: ♦
Dear Friends, He will never give
up on Us because We are close
His Heart. Never regret a day in
your life. Good days give you
happiness and Bad days give
you experiences. Both are
essential to life! A happy and
meaningful life requires our
continuous input and creativity.
It does not happen by chance. It
happens because of our choices
and actions. And each day we
are given new opportunities to
choose and act and, in doing so,
we create our own unique
journey...Keep going...
♦ NOTE *
Remember,GOD WILL NOT GIVE
UP ON YOU! DON'T GIVE UP ON
YOURSELF!!! U wanna ENJOY
life? ENDURE it first! -
SIN OF PRESUMPTION
MUST READ. A dog was so faithful that
the woman could leave her baby with it & go out to attend other matters. She always returned to find the child soundly asleep with d dog faithfully watching over him..
One day something tragic happened. The woman as usual, left the... baby in the "hands" of this faithful dog & went out shopping. When she returned, she
discovered rather a nasty scene, there was a total mess. The baby's cot was
dismantled; his nappies & clothes torn to shreds with blood stains all over the
bedroom where she left the child & the
dog. Shocked, the woman wailed as she began looking for the baby.
All of a sudden, she saw the faithful dog emerging from under the bed. It was covered with blood and licking its mouth as it had just finished a delicious meal.
The woman went berserk & assumed that the dog had devoured her baby.
Without much thought she beat the dog wood to death. But as she continued
searching for the"remains" of her child, she beheld another scene. Close 2 the bed was the baby who, although lying on
bare floor, was safe. & under the bed the body of a snake torn to pieces in what must have been a fierce battle between it & the dog which was now dead.
Then reality dawned on d woman who now began to understand what took place in her absence.
Dog fought to protect the baby from the ravenous snake.
■ It was too late for her now to make amends because in her impatience and anger,she had killed the faithful dog.
■ How often have we misjudged people & torn them to shreds with harsh words and deeds before we have had time to
evaluate the situation? It is called SIN OF PRESUMPTION
Presuming things our way without taking the trouble to find out exactly what the situation really is. Little patience can drastically reduce major life long mistakes. Who Are u misjudging right now. Don't think what u think others are thinking. Take time to get the whole truth. -
WHAT A GREAT LOSS
I LOST MY BELOVED YOUNGER BROTHER. MAY HIS PRECIOUS SOUL REST IN PEACE
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food for thought
You are not married not because there is no man ready for marriage as a good number of men are looking for life partners. The major reason Nigerian men are now scared of marriage is waywardness. Men are now afraid because they don’t know who to trust and also not sure if that beautiful girl they are interested in still has her womb intact.
They are also afraid because of the high mountain ladies have suddenly placed themselves on as no woman wants to date a poor man any longer but are all interested in those with good cars and houses.
A man recently told me why he does not allow his girlfriends to come to his house. According to him, he doesn’t want a case where a girl enters his house only for her to refuse leaving because of the beauty of the house and cars she will see.
Isn’t it surprising how single ladies now out-dress married women with good jobs whose husbands are very rich? You are not married because the single men around you are wondering if they will be able to meet up with your ever-demanding lifestyle. Even when they know they can afford it, what makes them believe you won’t take a walk tomorrow if anything goes wrong?
Another reason is that with your good job and salary, they are even afraid to come near you as they wouldn’t want to be turned down.
I have a female colleague, a very pretty girl who lives in her own house and drives a posh car. She also has different businesses to show for it. Recently, I advised her to calm down a bit as friends I introduce her to who ordinarily would have gone for her, all run away after meeting her and come back to me with the same word, “Amara, this one go send me go village.”
Another reason you are going to grow old in your father’s house is this: You want a ready-made man instead of a growing man with vision. Are you aware that if you have not obtained favour from God, the man will decrease instead of increasing when you enter his house? Work on your character, the words that come from your mouth, your lifestyle, the way you carry yourself, the way you dress, the places you visit and then spend time trying to find favour before God because it’s only favour that can make your husband increase the moment you step into his life.
In fact, the moment a man proposes to you, there must be some positive movements in his finance if at all you have obtained favour.
It is never your duty to find a man. While he is working trying to raise money to sustain whoever he takes home to his mother, you should get yourself busy obtaining favour from God for you to be his source of blessing. A man knows when the wife is a source of blessing and that is the only time he cherishes you.
In the previous paragraph, I said the man should take you home to his mother. I don’t understand why you get married to a man who believes it’s just between the two of you. Read the Bible; they all took their wives home to their mothers. If a man cannot take you home to his people, something is wrong. Isn’t it surprising how many of us are married without knowing our husband’s village and his mother’s bedroom? Marriage, in the African culture, is not between the man and woman alone, the two families must be involved.
Hey, you have to stop moving from one prayer house to the other in search of miracles that are not coming even after you might have emptied your pocket. Go back to your room; deal with your character and bad nature that is filled with pride and disrespect for the elderly. Cut down on frivolities and that is not all, deal with your party and aso ebi spirit. You must also deal with that thing that gets you to aimlessly move from one end of the street to the other all in search of precious souls to destroy. Change that mentality that says you use what you have to get what you want; any man you get with your ass is as filthy, unreliable and irresponsible as you are.
Common girl, go deal with yourself first before you start blaming your step mother of being the one keeping you down. Stop blaming your neighbours and friends of standing on your way to progress. I just told you the bitter truth which your Alfa, Babalawo, pastor and Imam may never tell you. Stop wasting your time chasing shadows, go and deal with yourself first before complaining.
I know of a wonderful lady who sings so well that when she comes to lead in worship, miracles take place. People love her, but this lady is unmarried till date. It is not because men don’t go to her for marriage or because she is ugly; her number one obstacle is her character. They say there are many old single ladies in our churches; I think I know the problem and not that most of them wasted their lives in frivolities only to realise the last minute that they have to run into the church where they can get a brother to marry.
I am not trying to judge anyone’s past, but the issue is that even when they join those churches, their characters don’t change. It’s really appalling how some ladies talk to men simply because they are in the same church. Some of them fight everyone in their department in church while some live their lives begging from one member to the other.
What do have to say about ladies who fight for food during church meetings? Those guys would be foolish to see the stuff you are made of and still go ahead to take you home to mama.
I always tell ladies that if by the age of 30 no man had asked to know if you are for sale, there is something wrong somewhere; its either spiritual or attitudinal, but the truth is that it is always more attitudinal than spiritual.
You have been fasting and praying and going for all levels of deliverance but it seems nothing is working. What is your character like after all the prayers and religious devotions? It is sad when I see a single girl walk up to a married woman sitting with her husband and telling the woman to get up because she was there before her. You attend functions with extra bags to pack food and drinks and when it’s time to hit the dancing floor, you do that as if there is no tomorrow. What do you expect from life when you are the source of all quarrels in your neighbourhood, church and office?
This is the moment of truth and if at all you want to be delivered, your decision to deliver yourself is the first step to your breakthrough. -
WAKE UP FROM YOUR SLUMBER!
If you are SINGLE and keep on saying "I DON'T TRUST MEN OR WOMEN!" remember... your mates are getting married every Saturday. Let me ask you, are they... marrying spirits? Wise up!If you are MARRIED and keep saying "I HATE THIS MARRIAGE!"OK! Is it not married people like you that are celebrating Gold,Silver and even Platinum jubilee?If you keep on ranting, ''I'M LEAVING MY MAN, HE CHEATED ON
ME!" Please, go to town and see allthe fine, cute, sexy, hot, hungry and desperate chicks waiting to snatch your man's money and property, they don't even mind sharing. Make it work, my friend! Stop saying "I HATE MY JOB!" Look! 20million people are jobless and can't even find any not to talk of keeping it! Do you want to join them?
You keep saying "I HATE WHERE I LIVE!" Oh please!*tears* Try visiting those locations that are flooding now, people leaving in tin/zinc shacks in winter or people living/ sleeping under the bridge at night and you will be grateful to God that you even have a place to stay! Some say "I AM TIRED OF THIS LIFE!" Well, go to the hospital and see people fighting for their lives! Go to the mortuary and take a look then tell me what you feel after that! My point is, be positive and believe in God, that's all that
matters.AS FAR AS THERE IS LIFE, THERE IS HOPE. JUST KEEP TRYING AND
TRUSTING IN GOD, EVERYTHING WILL BE ALL RIGHT MY DEAR FRIENDS AND FAMILY.
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