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Friday, 30 October 2009 at 00:05

My beloved friends, and sis, and bro, i think you are not gonna believe where i went just now during my lunch break. Ok la, tak yah main teka teki, straight to the point, i went to check out the service provided by a “dating agency”. Ok, don’t say a word!

It just some crazy idea from a friend. After for the Nth time, i’m looking at the calendar, and after remembering that few weeks ago, a very dearie friend of mine, ugut tak mau be my bestie anymore if i keep on finding reason to tell myself that i don’t want to get cozy with anyone because dia tak hensem la, tak cukup tinggi la, kerja government la, gaji i lagi banyak la, dia tak suka makan western food la....dan seribu satu macam stupid alasan lain that i always manage to come up with so that the subject of’ trying to get to know someone” can be dropped from the conversation, i think there’s no harm in just tengok2 jer the dating agency punya service.

So, long story cut short, the service package was:
Package a) 3 suitable suitor, hand pick to match both party’s requirement at the price of RM 1K, over the duration of 3 years.
Package b ) 5 suitable suitor, hand pick to match both party’s requirement at the price of 1.3K, also, over the duration of 3 years.
I goes..... “ What?!!!! ...wooohoho, i’ll think about it!”, and identify the quickest excuse to get myself from the office.

I remember that i used to gave answers to people who always question me, why am i still single, available and not so ready to mingle. My standard answer template has always been “ Hhhrrrmmm kalau kat Tesco ader jual calon suami yg sesuai, skrg jugak saya gi beli, swipe kreadit card pun saya sanggup, apply loan pun sanggup, confirm saya dah ader anak tiga dah!’
So, when the real situation really do exist, i’m stunned and ask my self back, “ How much did i really willing to pay for love”.

To tell u the truth, i don’t mind paying, its not because i’m terribly desperate kalau tak kawen esok boleh mati bunuh diri, but, face the fact, most of us, are so busy and occupied with works and by the end of the day, we are too exhausted to socialised, day in day out, we see the same old face everyday, sometimes we meet new people, but most of the time, this new people that we meet is either tak sesuai, conflict of work interest or simply “ TAKEN”. So tell me, biler la ader masanyer nak mencari Mr or Miss Right?. Nak suruh parents?...hhhrrrmmmm let me recall my Abah’s answer when i told him, “ Abah jer la carikan, lepas tu, bagitau tarikh, masa & tempat, saya datang la utk hari nikah saya”, he said “ Kepala hotak ko!”..

Back to the topic, like i said, i don’t mind paying, infact, if its gonna coz me 50K pun i sanggup, provided, the candidate is 100% guarantee, is my Mr Right. The problem is, i tak tau pun kalau he’s gonna turn out to be the 1. Even calon yg free ni pun i tak sure boleh pakai ker tak, inikan plak yg harga 50K, wow, that’s a very risky investment.

I think, i’m fairly a simple person, takder la requirement yang melampau-lampau sgt. Normal jer macam perempuan lain (when i say perempuan normal, that’s exclude perempuan materilistik, rupalistic, perempuan plastic dan perempuan spastic)

Financially, i think, i would feel ok to settle with a guy, where during the 1st couple of years of our marriage, we just tinggal in a small apartment jer, dah namer pun duduk berdua jer, buat aper la rumah nak besar2 sgt. But the moment, our babies had grown up and dah mula jadi hero & heroin, maybe its wise to move to a bigger place, say a corner lot,double storey terrace house. I would love to have the assurance that my kids could go out and have fun under the sun, playing, jumping climbing, without the fear of being chase or bite by anjing gila, or being kidnap by orang giler. Duit tu plak, tak yah la banyak sangat, cukup makan pakai, ader lebih utk parents and saving for the rainy days & other auxiliaries, then its fine by me. But kalau boleh, biar la gaji tu lagi banyak dari saya, bukan kerana aper, Cuma taknak la nnt my hubby asyik ulang ayat “ Yerla, gaji u kan lagi banyak dari i”. As much as i hate to say it, admit it guys, u do sometimes feel less superior with ladies who earned more than u, rite?.

Dari segi agama nyer pulak....hhrrmmmm, sepatutnyer mmg la nak carik pasangan yg tip top dlm department ni, tapi, ukur baju di badan sendiri la yer. My religious point ni agak liberal sikit, tapi masih improving, so, utk org yg macam saya ni, lulusan University Al Azhar ni, maybe bermasalah la plak nnt. Bukan aper, takut plak nnt lepas kawen dia cakap “ Ente kene berenti kerja sbb ana rasa, gaji ana banyak ini sudah cukup nak bagi ente hidup, ente kene terima hakikat, ente kene hidup dgn ana secara zuhud, naik motor sudah cukup, makan nasi dgn ikan masin hari2 sudah cukup. Jangan pergi kerja sbb ente kene pergi platform, kalau ente mau pergi platform jugak, ente kene pakai purdah 24-7, atau kita bercerai.”....Hrrrmmmm adoi, ader gak yg “ana” nangis 7 keturunan tak berenti ni kang. Iman yang terlalu perfect tu, maybe tak sesuai dgn saya pada masa ini, tapi at least someone yg tau halal & haram, mana yg tuhan mmg dah ckp “ NO” tu, sila la jauhi, mana yg tuhan suruh buat tu, selagi dapat, cuba la penuhi. Yang penting hati kene baik & ikhlas. Insya allah, biler hati tu ikhlas, and slalu ingat pd Allah, mudah-mudahan iman makin kukuh.
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Dari segi rupa plak....hehehehh....mesti la semua org nak yang cantik jer, or yang hansem jer, but over the years, i’ve realised that the requirement for man with good looks ni actually merbahaya. I rasa, i mesti tak sanggup kalau ader perempuan giler, keep on bugging our marriage, just because she’s think my hubby is super hensem. Biasa-biasa jer dah la, asalkan i tak muntah 7 baldi everytime i look at him, than that should be sufficient. (ader ker org yg hodoh sgt sampai i muntah 7 baldi,...eermmm tak pernah plak rasanyer)

The most crucial factor i would have to say, is the compatibility factor. Someone who accept u & love u for who u r. Being the crazy, sassy ,don’t mess with me type of girl, i knew a lot of man out there feels like i ni tak sesuai nak di jadikan bini. But news flash abang oi, saya bukan nak jadi bini, saya nak jadi “ Isteri”. Marriage for me, is not about “own” ing someone’s life, its about 2 people who shares their life together. There might be things that both person share in common, but definitely lots of other things that both party did not, but at least, both party have to “agree to disagree”. And its also about respect, understanding and being fair.

I want to be with someone who bought me 1 pint of Baskin Robbin Choc ice cream not because i ask him to buy me 1, but because he enjoy looking at my jovial & delighted face when i open the fridge and found my favourite ice cream there. And i want to be with someone, whom when someone else says to him “ Eh, bini ko ni ganas lasak betul, tak feminine langsung!”, he would reply “ hhrrmmm bagus la, at least kalau aku takder, aku tak risau, kalau ader orang berani culik anak aku”. And i definitely wanted to be with someone whom agrees that the simple happiness means, waking up together on Saturday morning, spending hours just smooching, talking, giggles about lots of things in bed, rather than being overly obsess with trying to add another BWM on the existing fleet of Bentley’s, BMW’s or Ferrari’s in the garage.

I definitely wanted to be with someone who understand that relationship demands for sacrifices, some day, when my partner come home to me and said “ B, i got a great job offer and i really want it, but we have to move to Africa, would you leave your job and go with me”, I would want to say “ Yes” to him, coz i know he had sacrifice his career years before just to make room for me to establish my career.

So, friends, amacam.....? Should i give this dating agent a try???