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Saturday, 2 August 2008 at 08:59

Ironically, the victim role is by far the preferred role of the emotions, especially in a conflict, as it actually allows for the greatest drama.
The pain, grief, and suffering the victim endures can be so heart-wrenchingly and blood-drippingly dramatic and that what makes the agony worthwhile.
Individuals and groups which may be classified as chronic victims, take it to an extent where they unconsciously encourage and manipulate situations so that they can be believable victims in the drama.
Further, being victimized once or even several times does not remedy the situation or bring “The Plot” to an end. Once the curtain comes down on one deluge, the next and more severe catastrophe is already in the making and such individuals and groups grant themselves a brief breather before performing the victim role one more time, with even more intense feelings.
The victim's emotional nature trusts that in the end, no matter how long it takes, goodness will triumph, and hence don’t really bother developing preventive measures to their lives which may cease their being victimized over and over again.
The culture of blame that emanates from a victim mentality, is one of the popular symptoms of chronic victimhood..
Denial, which may be defined as "a state of rational apprehension that does not result in appropriate action", is another symptom.

In our rapidly changing times we begin many new endeavors and we realize that anything new usually involves a learning curve. During such curve, ‘emotionally’ we are like new infants who have to learn how to crawl before running at the speed we'd like; and the technique that we develop for dealing with our upsets throughout such period, usually determines the chronic roles that our emotional selves choose later in life.

Acknowledging failure experiences as victim “status”, one is driven by negative emotions, spending time in a crisis mode, waiting until misfortune strikes so many times until one can't help noticing that something must be wrong, and eventually becomes an emotional basket case, cut off from his/her natural healthy feelings and courses of action, attitude, behavior, etc. are formed accordingly.

Liberation from the pain of past sufferings is not easy work, but worth the effort; and what applies to individuals, in a way, applies also to the groups which share the same circumstances and the same culture of dealing with such circumstances.