dazrul
male - 37 years, Bandar Sri Permaisuri, Malaysia
Blog 25
Perasaan Manusia Sukar Difahami
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Haji Menuju ALLAH
KETABAHAN SITI HAJAR
ALLAH S.W.T. memerintahkan Nabi Ibrahim memindahkan isterinya Siti Hajar bersama bayi kecilnya ke negeri Makkah, yang pada waktu itu henyalah sebuah padang pasir yang tandus. Siti Hajar patuh.
Nabi Ibrahim berkata, "Aku tinggalkan kamu Hajar dan Ismail di sini... bukan untuk dibiarkan tetapi untuk dipelihara Allah s.w.t. yang maha kuasa" .
Hari demi hari berlalu. Akhirnya bekalan makanan telah kehabisan. Anak kecilnya mula menangis. Air susu sudah tiada lagi untuk diberikan. Siti Hajar memandang sekeliling. "Tiada apa yang ada di sini kecuali padang pasir tandus. Tapi aku mesti dapatkan air. Jika tidak, Ismail akan mati!" kata Siti Hajar.
Siti Hajar mula berlari-lari ke sana ke mari untuk mencari air.Tanpa disedari, Siti Hajar telah berulang-alik antara dua tempat yang dikenali sebagai Safa dan Marwa sebanyak tujuh kali. Siti Hajar mula cemas. Tetapi hatinya teguh. Kepada Allah, yakin sekali. Sedang dia mencari-cari air, tiba-tiba terpancar air dari tendangan kaki anaknya Ismail.
Siti Hajar lalu melutut dan mengucapkan rasa syukur kepada Allah s.w.t. kerana membantunya pada ketika dia tiada ternpat lagi untuk mengadu. Siti Hajar lalu mengumpul air sambil menyebut "Zam Zam! Zam Zam!" yang bermakna "Berkumpullah! Berkumpullah!"
Mata air itu tidak pernah kering-kering. Sebaliknya ia terus mengalir hingga ke hari ini. Itulah air zam zam yang terletak di sisi Kaabah di Makkah al-Mukarramah. Begitulah cantik dan indahnya Allah atur sesuatu perkara. Allah datangkan rahmat, bantuan dan per tolongan pada saat akhir kerana hendak menguji keimanan Siti Hajar. Siti Hajar telah menghadapi ujian tersebut dengan penuh tawakal tanpa sangsi sedikit pun akan kehebatan dan maha pengasihinya Allah. -
Mungkir Bahagia
Bagaimana Mengatasi Kekecewaan?
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Fahami punca masalah
Fahami betul-betul sebab-sebab yang menyebabkan anda menjadi kecewa. Selagi anda tidak benar-benar pasti punca yang menyebabkan anda kecewa, pastilah sukar untuk anda mencari jalan keluar dari ekekcewaan tersebut. Adalah lebih mudah untuk mengatasi sesuatu perkara yang kita sendiri faham. Oleh itu setelah betul-betul memahami punca-puncanya, maka mudahlah kita untuk cuba mencari jalan keluar daripada masalah itu.
Fahami perasaan anda
Perasaan kecewa yang kita alami adalah umpama mimpi. Kadangkala ianya kurang berasas dan tidak bertapak. Oleh itu kenali benar-benar perasaan kita yang sebenarnya itu. Cuba hayati tekanan yang kita hadapi itu. Apabila kita mengetahui sifat sebenar perasaan kecewa kita itu, maka barulah mudah untuk kita cuba melakukan sesuatu untuk mengatasinya.
Ikhlas dengan perasaan sendiri
Jangan cuba menipu perasaan sendiri. Ini kerana kadangkala kita berasa kecewa bukan pada tempatnya. Misalnya, seseorang itu mungkin berasa kecewa kerana rakannya lebih berjaya dalam peperiksaan. Tapi sebenarnya dia kecewa kerana rakannya itu juga adalah lebih cantik darinya. Malah kekecewaan kerana kurang cantik itu jauh lebih mengatasi kekecewaan kerana prestasi yang kurang baik dalam peperiksaan. Dalam hal ini, kita sengaja menokok-tambah beban-beban kekecewaan itu. Oleh itu cuba ikhlas dengan perasaan sendiri. Cuba fokuskan punca sebenar kekecewaan. Apabila kita teliti dengan hati yang tenang, mungkin kita akan berasa bahawa punca sebenar kekecewaan itu adalah tidak berasas.
Fahami punca-punca kekecewaan
Cuba cari punca asas kita berasa kecewa dan cuba fahami benar-benar keadaan sebenar punca-punca itu. Tanya persoalan berikut: adakah punca-punca itu tidak akan dapat diatasi? akan sentiasa berulang? akan berulang jika tidak melakukan sesuatu? salah diri sendiri? dianiaya? tidak akan berlaku lagi?
Bolehkah berlaku lagi atau dielakkan terus?
Setelah memahami punca sebenar kekecewaan, dan sifat-sifat perkara yang menyebabkan kita kecewa itu, cuba fikirkan sama ada kekecewaan itu boleh disekat daripada berlaku lagi atau tidak? Sekiranya kita dapat membuat kesimpulan bahawa kekecewaan itu mungkin boleh dihindari pada masa-masa akan datang, maka ini bermakna kita sentiasa masih mempunyai harapan.
Apakah cara untuk mengatasi kekecewaan?
Ini adalah antara ubat kekecewaan. Apabila kita rasa kita sudah mahu bertindak untuk mengatasi kekecewaan, kita sebenarnya telah berjaya, iaitu berjaya dalam perjuangan untuk menguasai diri kita. Sebaliknya juga, apabila kita gagal memulakan langkah-langkah ke arah mengubati hati luka itu, selagi itulah kita dianggap masih gagal. Lantaran itu cuba atasi kekecewaan tersebut. Antaranya adalah:
Menumpukan perhatian kepada aktiviti lain yang lebih berfaedah.
Melupakan kekecewaan tersebut dan menanam tekad baru untuk tidak kecewa lagi.
Meluahkan perasaan kepada orang yang kita percayai
Minta nasihat orang lain
Cuba minta nasihat daripada orang lain yang kita hormati atau segani. Jangan minta nasihat dari orang yang kita benci atau orang yang selalu sakitkan hati kita. Dalamk kata lain, jangan tambah penyakit. Tidak kiranya apa nasihatnya, namun biasanya kesediaan orang lain itu memberi nasihat pun sudah cukup untuk melegakan perasaan kita.
Jangan manjakan perasaan
Jangan terlalu dibawa oleh perasaan. Perasaan kita kalau dilayan sangat memang semakin menjadi. Oleh itu janganlah dilayani perasaan kekecewaan itu sepanjang masa. Cuba keluar dari alam kekecewaan itu. Cuba lakukan aktivi lain yang dapat mengalihkan pemikiran anda dari masalah yang menimbulkan rasa kecewa itu. Bercampurlah dengan rakan-rakan yang lain dalam aktiviti luaran. Secara beransur-ansur, kita akan dapat melupakan perasaan kecewa itu. Walaupun kita akan memikirkannya semula setelah balik ke rumah, namun tahap kekecewaan itu pasti akan berkurangan.
Luahkan perasaan, jangan disimpan
Perasaan kecewa samalah seperti tekanan perasaan. Perasaan ini perlu diluahkan. Kajian sains menunjukkan bahawa perasaan tekanan yang disimpan dalam diri akan membentuk toksin. Oleh itu perasaan tersebut perlulah diluahkan. Lain orang menggunakan cara yang tersendiri untuk meluahkan perasaan. Ada yang menghempuk meja. Ada yang menangis. Ada yang menjerit kuat-kuat. Ada yang mencoretkan rasa hatinya dalam diari kesayangannya. Walau apa pun yang dilakukan, perasaan tekanan itu akan sedikit berkurangan setelah diluahkan. Namun cara yang terbaik untuk meluahkan perasaan adalah dengan menceritakannya kepada orang yang dapat memahaminya dan dapat pula memberi kita jalan keluar kepada masalah tersebut. Orang yang dimaksudkan ini termasuklah cikgu, kaunselor, emak. kakak atau rakan-rakan yang kita rasa cukup dewasa dan cukup memahami kita.
Biar pemikiran beransur-ansur mengatasi perasaan
Cuba menenangkan perasaan sehingga perasaan yang menguasai diri kita mula diatasi oleh pemikiran. Apabila pemikiran (otak) mula mengatasi perasaan (hati) maka mudahlah untuk kita mula melihat jalan yang lebih lurus dan bertapak di bumi nyata. Malah kalau anda beruntung, anda tidak perlu mencari jalan untuk mengatasinya lagi kerana pemikiran rasional anda telah mengatasi rasa kecewa itu.
Tiada jalan pendek atasi kekecewaan
Ingatlah bahawa tiada jalan pintas untuk berjaya. Malah kejayaan yang manis itu perlu mengharungi pelbagai ranjau. Oleh itu anda perlu faham bahawa jalan-jalan yang anda akan lalui untuk mengelakkan daripada berlaku lagi kekecewaan itu memerlukan masa yang cukup untuk dilaksanakan. Adakalanya langkah-langkah tersebut adalah berperingkat-peringkat dan hanya akan membuahkan hasil dalam jangka panjang juga. Misalnya, pokok yang ditanam tidak akan berbuah esok pagi! Sekiranya ini difahami, maka dapatlah kita menghindari kekecewaan berganda iaitu kecewa kerana langkah-langkah yang dijalankan kurang memberi hasil. Banyak bersabar. Ingat pepatah Melayu Ikut rasa, binasa. Ikut hati, mati. Ikut nafsu, lesu. Ikut perasaan? Boleh pengsan! Oleh itu apabila kita telah tenang, ikutlah akal supaya kita jadi cekal.
Bertawakal
Bertawakal bermakna menyerahkan segala nasib kepada Allah setelah kita melakukan apa yang terdaya. Nabi Muhammad s’a.w memberi contoh supaya menambat unta dan selepas itu bertawakal. Ini bermakna jika unta itu tidak diikat, bertawakal pun tak guna. Dalam kes untuk menghindari kekecewaan ini, kita pasrah kepada nasib hanya setelah kita melakukan segala usaha yang kita rasa mencukupi. Apabila kita yakin dengan tawakal kita itu, maka kita tidak akan kecewa lagi apabila mengalami kegagalan. Ini kerana kita yakin bahawa semuanya itu adalah ketentuan Allah dan adalah hikmahnya.
Tanam keyakinan diri
Kekecewaan sering timbul dan berlarutan apabila kira kurang mempunyai keyakinan diri. Apabila kita kalah misalnya, kurang keyakinan diri menyebabkan kita rasa yang kita akan sentiasa kalah lagi. Ini menyebabkan kekecewaan kita sentiasa meningkat. -
Check out your life!
There are just a few simple steps you can take to preserve your chances of staying healthy.
WE are all guilty, guilty of continuously neglecting our health, one way or another, even if we do not intend to.
Moms and dads spend long hours at work to finance the many obligations and bills. Teens forgo sleep to finish a project or school paper. We so often compromise our health to meet life’s daily necessities. Subsequently, we suffer from insufficient sleep and even pick up unhealthy diets along the way.
In our quest to strive for a better life, we often sacrifice our health and medical condition. Most of the time, people learn about their health and medical condition when it might already be too late to be treated. This goes to show why nearly 5%1 and 8%2 of the Malaysian population suffer from cardiovascular diseases and diabetes, respectively, and these numbers are increasing fast.
No matter how busy you might be, you should always make time for regular check-ups. Regular check-ups are a valuable tool in maintaining good health.
It’s normal for us to visit the doctor when we feel that there’s something wrong. But the thing is, not all symptoms of deadly illnesses can be easily felt and seen. Taking proper care of your health at the right time can prevent a lot of problems in the future. So appropriate tests should be done at the right time.
For instance, a woman who has breast cancer may never notice the small lump in her right breast until she takes some time to self-assess her breasts. We may think we’re perfectly fine until we unexpectedly breakdown and find out that we’re not in tip-top condition after all.
Aside from general health and medical check-ups, women have to undergo pap smears annually to prevent cervical cancer or diseases related to the reproductive system. It is also a must for women in their 40s to go for regular mammogram.
Pregnant and lactating mothers should also undergo pre- and post-natal check-ups. Health and medical experts also advice parents to bring their children to the doctor for necessary immunisations and proper healthcare.
Since regular health check-ups is indispensable, you should see to it that you have a family doctor. A family doctor is the one who holds all your medical records for future reference.
The main aim of a check-up is to detect illness at an early stage, or better still, prevent illness occurring in the first place. Younger people should undergo general medical check-ups with special attention on blood pressure or blood sugar to prevent the onset of heart diseases and diabetes.
In adults up to about 40 years, a check-up every two years is appropriate. Older adults should be seen every year.
Fitness and exercise is part of healthy living. The more times you work to improve your health, the better your chances are of surviving life in a much healthier environment.
Maintaining a healthy weight is also important to ensuring good health as it contributes to: Improving your blood cholesterol levels, blood pressure and blood glucose levels.
Reducing your risk of heart disease and other health related problems.
Improving your self confidence and self esteem therefore giving you good mental health.
Making it easier to be physically active.
We also often pay little attention to another key element in preserving our health – nutrition!
Nutrition refers to the nurturing of your body with all the necessary food, vitamins, and minerals in a complete and balanced proportion in order to keep it healthy and functioning as it is supposed to do and to continue to thrive in our daily lives.
A balanced nutrition is consuming macronutrients, namely carbohydrate, fat, protein and water, in the right amounts with relation to your lifestyle while complete nutrition means making sure that your body gets all the important micronutrients such as vitamins and minerals. A complete and balanced supply of nutrition in your body is vital for:
Supply of energy
Physical growth and cell maintenance
Protection against diseases
As we start being responsible towards our own health, we also set an example to our family and friends, which speaks volumes to them about their own responsibilities in maintaining their health.
It also puts us in the right physical form and state of mind to lead happy and quality lives with our family and friends whilst getting the best out of every day.
You owe it to yourself to look after your health and the health of those closest to you. Many diseases are preventable, and early detection of a disease is more cost-effective than treating the disease itself. In short, prevention is better than care.
A basic health screening programme may include:
Full physical exam: Examine major body systems
Height and weight - calculate Body Mass Index (BMI): Healthy BMI is between 18.5 and 24.9
Blood pressure: Recommended every two years for those above 18 years old. More frequently, high blood pressure is indicated. An ‘ideal’ blood pressure varies from 110/70 to 130/90 mmHg.
Pulse reading: Normal pulse rate is 72-80 beats per min, at rest
Review of medical history
Hearing test
Vision examination
Skin examination: Visual inspection of skin for abnormal or pre-cancerous conditions.
Cervical cancer screening by PAP smear: Recommended every one to three years in all women who are or have been sexually active or those who are 21 years of age or older.
Colorectal cancer screening
Breast cancer screening: Mammogram every one to two years for ages 40 to 49, every year for those above 50 years old.
Blood Screening
ECG (Resting test or stress test)
Urine Analysis
Chest x-ray
Osteoporosis: Bone mineral density ages 65 and above, every two years.
References:
1. http://cureresearch.com/c/coronary_heart_disea... ;
2. http://www.diabetes.org.my/article.php?aid=110... ; This article is courtesy of Abbott Laboratories. -
Your 7 Days Program To Positive Thinking
"Enlightenment" Your 7 days Program To Positive Thinking
I'm sure you have a bright idea hidden somewhere in the back of your mind that you just can't wait to test out. Of course you're not the only one with the bright idea. So what motivates you to churn those creative, or even inspiring juices to its utmost flavor?
It's always best to set up a personal goal where you can accomplish the most in record time, maybe like mowing the lawn in an hour before the big game on TV. A correct and positive attitude in whatever you do will make things easier, and even enjoyable.
Here are some tips to make it through the week even if you're just sitting in your favorite couch. An idea takes time to form in your head and is always at work while you are busy sitting.
Having a bit of positive thinking can help you realize things that are never thought possible. Thinking big is indeed the Malaysian Way and that what made our country prosperous.
1. Take passionate action towards living your life by design. Talk is cheap. Action = deposits in the bank of a passionately authentic future. Without it, passion is void.
This is a perfect example where dreams are made of where you start by tinkering with your mind, then with your hands. And if the idea weakens, you can always go back to it later until you finish it.
2. Commit to yourself as well as those you love to create powerfully a life you can love. Instead of reacting, commit to creating from your heart and soul, out of love rather than fear. The Malaysian Dream will always be there, but a dream will still be a dream without motion. Be amazed as the transformation begins.
3. Recognize and embrace the thought that each moment is perfect regardless of its outcome. Every time you hit on something that may appear too extreme, why not give it a shot and see if it will work. You will be surprised to see of there are other ways to get the task done in time. If you are not pleased with the outcome, decide to use that moment to learn from and make the appropriate shift.
4. Dwell completely in a place of gratitude. Learn to utilize what you have in your hands and make use of it in the most constructive way. Slipping into neediness will become less of a habit when you repeatedly shift towards gratitude, away from poverty consciousness.
5. Use a Passion Formula of Recognize/Reevaluate/Restore in place of the Shoulda/Woulda/Coulda whirlwind. The former is based in increased knowledge and abundance while the latter focuses on scarcity and lack. As you face people or tasks that may seem harder than scaling the summit of the Himalayas, allow yourself to realize that the task is just as important as giving out orders to your subordinates. You would rather be richly passionate!
6. Keep humor at the forefront of thought, laughing at and with yourself when possible. You may find yourself quite entertaining when you loosen up! I am yet to see a comedian ever go hungry even though his jokes are as 'old as great-grandma'. Life has so much to offer to allow you to mope around in self pity. Humor is very attractive, very passionate: life-giving.
7. Believe that you are the architect of your destiny. No one can take your passionate future from you except for you! Create your life authentically. As long as there's still breath in your body, there is no end to how much you can accomplish in a lifetime. The concept of thinking big is all about enjoying your work, which would lead to celebrate a discovery that is born within your hands. Watch everything flow into place with perfect, passionate precision.
It's interesting how people get wallowed up by something trivial as learning to use a computer, when nowadays that top computer companies are manufacturing software that even the kids can do it. I don't mean to be condescending, but that's the idea of not having any positive thinking in your life-you'll just end up as a dim bulb in a dark corner. So instead of subjecting yourself to what you will be doomed for, make your path by taking the first step with a positive attitude. -
Making Money Thru Currency Exchange
Many people don't know about the largest traded market in the world. Currently over 1.2 trillion dollars is traded on a daily basis in the forex market. Forex, or the foreign currency exchange market was a market that only large investors could play in and until just recently has become available to smaller investors.
For those of you that don't know, here is an example of how the forex market works. If one were to take a vacation to Europe from the United States , you would have to exchange your US dollars into the Euros. When you came back to the United States , you would then have to exchange your Euros back to US dollars. During the time you were on vacation market news may have caused the US dollar to strengthen against the Euro. Therefore, when exchanging your Euros back to US dollars, you may have made a bit of money.
What makes the forex arena so popular is the leverage one can use when trading in this market. Most brokers offer a 100:1 leverage. Traditionally a trader needs 100,000 US dollars or we say 1:1 leverage (trading cash). However, with 100:1 leverage, a currency trader is only required to deposit 1/100th of the amount needed, 1,000 US dollars. Some brokers offer as much as 400:1 leverage.
Learning how to trade forex and using the leverage available, it is very possible to make good money. However at the same time it's very possible to lose a lot of money. Approximately 95% of forex traders lose when they decide to play in the forex market. There are many reasons for this, your psychology, discipline, greed and fear will have a major impact to your trading success.
When looking at the forex market, the price is constantly changing every second. Forex traders measure the price fluctuation in pips also known as the minimum fluctuation or smallest increment of price movement. One pip could be $1, $5, $50, or $100, whatever you decide to risk on each trade.
Using good money management with a well thought out plan can easily turn into profits in the forex arena. Learning to cut your losses and let your winners run is the key to success. A simple money management system to follow is to always look to win 3 times the amount you plan to lose. Yes, you will lose and it's important to accept losses when trading. For example, if you set a stop-loss to 10 pips, you need to look to win 30 pips. If you set a stop-loss to 20 pips, then you need to look to win 60 pips. This way you only have to be right 33% of the time to be profitable in this market.
