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who's really threatening?

annieryza — Sat, 09 Jun 2007 12:42:18 UT

Who's REALLY Threatening Your
Relationship?

No matter how well your relationship
seems to be going, there are always
threats circling: financial stresses
that send your harmony off-key.
Divergent interests and priorities
that make together-time hard to
schedule. But perhaps the most potent
threat comes in the form of the enemy
invader -- the man or woman who has
the power to lure your partner into
the tempting and dangerous world of
infidelity. And even if your partner
is a man or woman of unyielding
loyalty, your own jealousy-justified
or not-can create a relationship
hazard. So, is your jealousy
justified? Let's take a look at the
prime suspects, and see if we can't
figure out what they've been up to.

The Co-Worker

In most work settings, your partner
has maybe hundreds, probably dozens,
or at least a few opportunities to
develop good relationships with people
who could be potential lovers. In most
cases, those relationships are more
innocent than baby lambs. Still, the
average office has high potential for
trouble, because it's where your
partner will meet people who think
alike, who battle crises side-by-side,
who work in close quarters, and who
have the opportunity to really get to
know (and admire) each other. While
it's crazy to obsess over every person
your partner works with, chances are
that if you have a gut feeling about a
lurking somebody, there may be
something to it.

Potential Threat Level: 4 stars (out
of a possible 5)

The Drunk Stranger

It's the scenario we all fear. Our
partner goes out, hangs with friends,
flirts with fellow drunks, makes a bad
decision, and wakes up with their
underwear hanging from some stranger's
chandelier. While the scenario lends
itself easily to our imaginations, the
truth is that the drunk-stranger
scenario isn't as much of a threat as
we make it out to be. Why? Even drunk,
most of us can be savvy enough to know
that the momentary adrenaline that may
come from said hookup isn't worth the
long-term damage that comes later. The
exception: If your partner shows a
propensity to make bad, dangerous
decisions when drinking. In which
case, they have to change, or go.

Potential Threat Level: 1 star
(unless...)

The Ex

Tough one. Some of us want nothing
more to do with our exes once we break
up. And some of us keep have our exes
as our desktop background for years
after the split. Since we're very
sensitive about the status of the ex
(according to national surveys I did
for Men, Love & Sex, 20 percent of us
think that searching the Internet for
an ex is cheating, for example), we
all know the stakes. We know that our
current partner used to find something
attractive about the ex-so we're
vulnerable to feeling as if we'll
never live up to that prior history.
While hooking back up with an ex is
tempting, most of remember exactly why
we broke up in the first place.
Novelty is the greatest temptation
toward cheating, and that's one thing
an old flame can't offer: the lure of
something new.

Potential Threat Level: 2 stars

The Opposite-Sex Friend

Drives you crazy, eh? He meets her for
coffee every week. She IMs an old
college buddy a few times a month. The
opposite-sex friend lurks like a
hungry wolf, ready to pounce at the
next opportunity. While I'm convinced
that men and women can both be very
good at drawing the line between
friendship and romance, the truth is
that it's pretty darn easy for a long-
lasting friendship to turn into a
secretly burning romance. In the
aforementioned surveys, one-fifth of
men say they secretly love their
platonic friend, with many more
secretly lusting after them. That
doesn't mean that your partner can't
have opposite-sex friends, but it does
mean that as the friendship grows, so
do the odds of trouble.

Potential Threat Level: 5 stars

i care... do u?

annieryza — Mon, 28 May 2007 08:28:31 UT

Sweet words are easy to say,
Sweet things are easy to buy,
but sweet people are difficult to find.
Life ends when U stop dreaming,
hope ends when U stop believing,
love ends when U stop caring,
friendship ends when U stop sharing.
So share this with whom ever
U consider a friend.
To love without condition
to talk without intention
to give without reason
and to care without expectation
is the heart of a truefriend

just a memory of you!

annieryza — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 05:44:04 UT

"wat s lift s a memry of u.Lyf wud nvr b d sm agn nw dat ur gon.facin lyf wud b d hrdst prt of Lvng.dz sdnz i feL kils me slwly.i shd a ters evrtym u wr rmmbr & iv olws u evrsngle dy.ur prsnce stl Lngr on my mnd & n my hart …My heart filled with tears. no matter what i do i could nver bring bak tyms' wasted. even i cried the river i could never see you again its takes forever to heal the pain & it take no ways to forget all about you. it takes no time to remember you. i wish you are in some what beautiful place ryt now... love you always for the rest of my life...

just a memory of you!

annieryza — Sat, 28 Apr 2007 11:30:23 UT

life itself....

annieryza — Thu, 19 Apr 2007 09:23:03 UT

n Lyf, d grEatst haNdiCap s FEAR, d harDest thNg 2 d0 s MOVING ON, d m0st usEleSs asSet s PRIDE, d scaRiest thNg 2 d0 s CHANGE, aNd d grEatst msTakE S GIVIN up...

the I

annieryza — Mon, 16 Apr 2007 12:13:21 UT

"When i see ur smile. Tears roll down my face i cant explain and now that im stronger i have figure out how this world turn cold and break to my soul and i know i'll find deep inside me i can be the one. . . . l"

dreaming

annieryza — Sun, 15 Apr 2007 09:41:41 UT

I used to dream of eyes so blue
And loving arms to hold me.
I used to dream of heroic knights
And how gracious they would be.

I used to dream of how I wouldn’t settle
For anything less than best.
I used to dream of how he would majestically
Lay all fears to rest.

I used to dream of fairy tales,
How wondrous would they be
I used to dream of story books
All patterned after me.

I used to dream of a lot of things,
But the moment I met you,
I immediately stopped dreaming,
Because all of my dreams came true