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Friday, 12 June 2009 at 01:59

Why you should kiss her when you first meet her ...

I've had experience of this - so you've got a woman's point of view here.

Sometimes, it can get really hard for a guy to approach a woman. And even if you do manage to get her on a date, the longer you wait to kiss her, the harder it is for you to make that move on her.

But you know what I've found the best way to deal with it is?

Kiss her immediately you start talking with her. Even if you end up not fancying her!

It gets that hurdle 'out of the way'. It stops any embarrassment. It gets rid of the tension that you might feel about doing it in the future with her.

Make a pact with yourself. You won't ask any woman out - on a date - unless you've kissed her first.

Ok, ok, ok. So, the thought of it is making you quake in your shoes ... "How the hell am I gonna be able to do that?!"

Well, here's how it is NOT done.

A passionate embrace
A smack on the choppers
A tender look in the eye and a brief touch of the lips
A French tongue
A wet one
A tonsil teaser

ABSOLUTELY NONE OF THOSE!

If you are a shy guy and you think about doing any of those you'll only squirm with embarrassment and it will all go horribly wrong.

Here is the big issue:

Your success with the ladies is to do things to them that your gut tells you is right FOR YOU.

Some guys think that kissing a woman needs courage or strength or guts or even 'gall' to go out on a limb and do what they've never done before. Especially if they fancy the girl.

But remember, girls like guys - and if you are playful and able to be open with the girls then they'll play back and be open with you.

So, lay all your fears aside for a few minutes - spot a woman you quite like the look of and say:

"Hi, I wanted to see what happened if I just walked up and started talking. I've only got five minutes…..I'm (make up a funny name)."

When she responds - in whatever way - remember it's only her response. It's not your fault if she turns into a bitch. If she smiles and gives you a cheeky or flirty response - great ... you're on your way.

So, how is it done?

Allow her to say a few words, feel it in your gut if she's 'responsive' to you.

Then smile (with your eyes) and make an excuse to leave for a few minutes (ask her if she wants a drink - say you've just seen your friends and you need to quickly say hello - even say you've got to go to the little boys room - anything just to get away)
Take her head in your hands
Lean in
And quickly - very briefly - touch her hair with your lips

This has got to be done in a fraction of a second - don't linger!

Leave her for a bit longer than five minutes. This might go against the grain. You might think you'll lose her attention, you might think that she's calling you a bastard behind your back.

But you'd be wrong to think those things.

She'll be more likely thinking about that touch. That brief kiss, that smile in your eyes, that funny name ...

And you know what - it creates an attraction for you.

You become strong in her eyes. You become courageous.

Do this a few times to different girls and - you don't even have to go back if you don't want to - it will become a habit.

The goal is - not to care how she responds. And to build your confidence - for when you do see a woman you really want to be with.

Go for it guys. Good luck!

Kaye

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