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TheRoseHeart

Trust female - 56 years, Cheektowaga, United States

Blog / An Explanation for My Absence

Saturday, 2 August 2008 at 22:01

Those of you who know me or followed my blogs may remember that early last November my then husband assaulted me and was arrested for it. The divorce isn't final yet but his abusive behavior hasn't stopped. Shortly after he was again permitted by the courts to speak with me again, he let me know he'd created a Netlog ID and was watching what I do on here. He has also vowed that he will do everything he can to make my life as miserable as he can because he had to spend the night in jail. I've been told by experts that it's common behavior for abusers to blame everyone but themselves for what happened. That's easier than taking responsibility for their behavior.

For that reason, I haven't felt comfortable being active here. I still log on a few times a week to check for messages and to chat with one good friend who can't chat elsewhere. I apologize to those of you that I've neglected. If you'd like my yahoo or MSN id's so we can chat, send me a pm and I'll give them to you as well as my email address. A few of you have found where I'm hanging out these days. Please don't give that information to anyone you don't know well or who isn't in my friends list! Thanks!

I miss you all!!!!

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  • http://netlog.com/TheRoseHeartSherry NOYBNOYBSherryTheRoseHearthttp://en.netlogstatic.com/p/tt/011/128/11128397.jpgUnited StatesNew York TheRoseHeart 56

    Sherry NOYB Trust  (Saturday, 10 January 2009 at 02:01)

    - dieselduster:
    here's hoping that that guy will grow up sometime and treat you the way you deserve to be treated...some ppl are such "upper thigh"holes :)     It's too late for that now Mike. All I want from him now is a wave goodbye at a distance and "have a nice life." It won't happen though. He's not mature enough for that.

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    Mike (Wednesday, 7 January 2009 at 04:39)

    here's hoping that that guy will grow up sometime and treat you the way you deserve to be treated...some ppl are such "upper thigh"holes :)

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    Osyks (Saturday, 25 October 2008 at 07:59)

    Don't let it get to you. He is a emotional potato preying on your wellbeing. Live your life and be happy and don't let thoughts of him into your mind.. As one that was abused also, I can tell you when you have 'fear or concerns' about what the abuser 'may' do. you are allowing that person to have power over your life. DON'T DO IT.. If he wants to threaten you and say he watches your online life.. so what.. he can see you are enjoying your life and have many friends. And IF he crosses the line of threats he can go spend many nights in jail. Men who abuse woman are less than human and he deserves nothing -don't even think of him. You have the POWER. Be Strong. :)

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    Kathy (Friday, 22 August 2008 at 05:14)

    You know how to reach me if you ever need to ((huggss))

    I know what its like to have Cyber Bullies & the mistrust of everyone that can develop from it

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    Pamela Waller (Thursday, 21 August 2008 at 04:40)

    I haven't been here for some time and thought to come by today to see what has been going with you. Gosh, I am so sorry to read all of this, Sherry. You take care and i will keep you in my prayers that everythng works out well for you. ((hugs))

  • http://netlog.com/TheRoseHeartSherry NOYBNOYBSherryTheRoseHearthttp://en.netlogstatic.com/p/tt/011/128/11128397.jpgUnited StatesNew York TheRoseHeart 56

    Sherry NOYB Trust  (Saturday, 16 August 2008 at 02:43)

    - missy_52:
    Sorry for what you are going through. Just hang on it sounds like things are starting to get better. Remember that abuse is never the victim's fault.
    Thank you so much for your caring words of support. I'm sorry it took me so long to respond. *hugs*

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    Pauline (Monday, 11 August 2008 at 05:36)

    Sherry, Just wanted you to know not to let him get to you. I know easier said then done. Life will get easier for you. God Bless you

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    Lea Quito (Friday, 8 August 2008 at 19:17)

    :) Be steadfast and keep your faith to the Only One who'll ever love us truthfully & unconditionally, our Lord God. We'll understand your absence especially if it concerns your safety.

    Just keep believing in yourself, in your strengths & in your potentials. Abusers of women really got no self-esteem, not even a fleck, and as a defense mechanism, they project it on their victims. Their sick attitude really makes them incapable of maintaining healthy, intimate relationships because they are aware, that sooner or later, their partners will realize that even they (the abusers), do not have respect for themselves.

    Stay safe and happy, Sherry! :)

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    Ems (Friday, 8 August 2008 at 17:56)

    You are in a difficult period Sherry, just have enough faith and try to focus on the positive side. Prayers will help alot. Soon it will pass and one day it will only be a bad dream for you. As I told you before, I was there, and it was only my faith and my love for my kids that keep me going. Now I am contented and happy and looking forward to a more brighter future. You are not alone dear, you have friends around to support and listen to you...God bless you on your Birthday....ems

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