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What Makes a diet SuccessFuL ...?

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The field of weight loss is like the ancient fable about the blind men and the elephant. Each man investigates a different part of the animal and reports back, only to discover their findings are bafflingly incompatible.

The various findings by public-health experts, physicians, psychologists, geneticists, molecular biologists, and nutritionists are about as similar as an elephant's tusk is to its tail. Some say obesity is largely predetermined by our genes and biology; others attribute it to an overabundance of fries, soda, and screen-sucking; still others think we're fat because of viral infection, insulin, or the metabolic conditions we encountered in the womb. "Everyone subscribes to their own little theory," says Robert Berkowitz, medical director of the Center for Weight and Eating Disorders at the University of Pennsylvania School of Medicine.

But within this fractured tableau, a few patterns now stand out clearly. A consensus is emerging that the conventional wisdom—eat less, exercise more—is inadequate at best. A quick look at our collective waistline makes it painfully clear the old equation—calories in minus calories out equals weight change—is fundamentally flawed. Research shows not every calorie is created equal, and different bodies use calories in different ways. We're programmed to hang onto the fat we have, and some people are predisposed to create and carry more fat than others. Diet and exercise help, but in the end the solution will inevitably be more complicated than pushing away the plate and going for a walk. "It's not as simple as 'You're fat because you're lazy,'" says Nikhil Dhurandhar, an associate professor at Pennington Biomedical Research Center in Baton Rouge. "Willpower is not a prerogative of thin people. It's distributed equally."

Science may still be years away from giving us a miracle formula for fat-loss. Until then, it's up to us, one paunchy individual at a time, to shed our extra flab. It's easier said than done, especially since we may have been doing it wrong all this time. But the newest, most unexpected findings from the front lines of diet research may yet help tip the scales in your favor.

Evolution: Your body wants you to be fat

If you've ever tried to lose weight—be it 5 pounds or 50—you don't need to be told the human body resists weight change. We're each born with a predetermined set point—a weight range that typically spans about 10 to 20 pounds—and the further we push our weight away from it, the more intensely the body fights its way back. Hence the yo-yo effect: You diet and lose weight, only to gain it all back once you stop your diet. The culprit isn't lack of willpower, it's evolution.

The command center for the body's weight-management system resides in the hypothalamus—and it's calibrated to favor the preservation, rather than the elimination, of fat. That's accomplished through the hormone leptin, a crucial player in the brain's weight-management circuitry. Leptin is produced by the body's fat cells and signals the brain to regulate appetite and satiety—and, therefore, weight. If you lose body fat and leptin, it triggers hunger and the urge to eat; if you gain fat and increase leptin, you eat less. The more leptin your body produces, the leaner you tend to be; the less leptin you make, the higher your set point and the fatter you stay. Voilà, the secret to set-point maintenance.

But things don't always go according to plan. The regulatory system can go awry: Some people produce too little leptin; others become desensitized to it. And when obese people lose weight, their leptin levels plummet along with their metabolism. The body becomes more efficient at using fuel and conserving fat, which makes it tough to keep the weight off. Obese dieters' bodies go into a state of chronic hunger, a feeling Rudolph Leibel, an obesity researcher at Columbia University, compares to thirst. "Some people might be able to tolerate chronic thirst, but the majority couldn't stand it," says Leibel. "Is that a behavioral problem—a lack of willpower? I don't think so."

Then what is it? In short, DNA. How the body maintains its regulatory mechanism may be largely under the influence of genes. According to some researchers, 70 percent of variation in people's weight may come from defects on genes, and many of those genes act on a common hunger-satiety pathway in the hypothalamus. One such gene is the melanocortin 4 receptor (MC4R), which communicates with leptin and triggers a feeling of fullness. When MC4R malfunctions, it causes overeating and obesity in animals and humans. Researchers estimate 6 percent of obese children and adults can trace their condition to a genetic defect that interferes with MC4R. But genes aren't destiny. When MC4R is disabled in mice, it causes overeating and obesity—unless they're allowed to exercise early on. In the end, weight is the result of a subtle dance between genes and environment.
Exercise: Why the evening walk isn't enough

The government has long espoused moderate daily exercise—of the evening-walk or take-the-stairs variety—but that may not do much to budge the needle on the scale. A 150-pound person burns only 150 calories on a half-hour walk, the equivalent of two apples. It's good for the heart, less so for the gut.

"Radical changes are necessary," says Deirdre Barrett, a psychologist at Harvard Medical School and author of Waistland. "People don't lose weight by choosing the small fries or taking a little walk every other day." Barrett suggests taking a cue from the members of the National Weight Control Registry (NWCR), a self-selected group of more than 5,000 successful weight-losers who have shed an average of 66 pounds and kept it off 5.5 years. Some registry members lost weight using low-carb diets; some went low-fat; others eliminated refined foods. Some did it on their own; others relied on counseling. But when it came to keeping weight off over the long term, they had one thing in common: vigorous exercise for at least an hour most days of the week. Most also participated in at least one other activity or sport. "People in the NWCR exercise a lot," says Barrett. She estimates they burn an extra 2,800 calories a week.

That said, not everyone can lose 66 pounds and not everyone needs to. The goal shouldn't be getting thin, but getting healthy. It's enough to whittle your weight down to the low end of your set range, says Jeffrey Friedman, a geneticist at Rockefeller University. Losing even 10 pounds vastly decreases your risk of diabetes, heart disease, and high blood pressure. The point is to not give up just because you don't look like a swimsuit model. "We focus on appearance because that's what everyone notices," says Friedman. "If there were no stigma, we wouldn't be worried about an unachievable goal. We'd just be worried about our health."

The womb: Go ahead, blame your mother

The negotiation between your genes and the environment begins on day one. Your optimal weight, writ by genes, appears to get edited early on by conditions even before birth, inside the womb. If a woman has high blood-sugar levels while she's pregnant, her children are more likely to be overweight or obese, according to a study of almost 10,000 mother-child pairs.

Maternal diabetes may influence a child's obesity risk through a process called metabolic imprinting, says Teresa Hillier, an endocrinologist with Kaiser Permanente's Center for Health Research and the study's lead author. The mother's high blood sugar may mean the baby in the womb gets overfed, possibly pre-programming it for obesity. Even mothers whose blood sugar was at the upper end of the normal range had elevated risks of having overweight babies. The good news is that high blood sugar during pregnancy, known as gestational diabetes, is entirely avoidable: Children born to women who sought treatment for diabetes during pregnancy ended up no fatter than their peers.

The implication is clear: Weight may be established very early on, and obesity largely passed from mother to child. Numerous studies in both animals and humans have shown that a mother's obesity directly increases her child's risk for weight gain.

The best advice for moms-to-be: Get fit before you get pregnant. You'll reduce your risk of complications during pregnancy and increase your chances of having a normal-weight child. But if you think you're still at risk for gestational diabetes, make sure you get screened for hyperglycemia during pregnancy. If your blood sugar is high, talk to your doctor about treating it by modifying your diet and exercise. If that doesn't work, your doctor may prescribe insulin.

Insulin: The great diet bake-off

It's the $64,000 question: Which diets work? A yearlong government-funded study comparing Atkins, the Zone, Ornish, and LEARN (Lifestyle, Exercise, Attitudes, Relationships and Nutrition, based on the U.S. government's food pyramid) found all four work more or less, leading to short-term modest weight loss in overweight women. People on Atkins lost the most weight—an average of about 10 pounds—while participants on the other diets lost between 3.5 to 5.7 pounds on average.

Not exactly huge numbers. It got people wondering: Isn't there a better way to diet? Two months later, another study seemed to offer an answer. The paper compared two groups of adults: those who, after eating, secreted high levels of insulin, a hormone that sweeps blood sugar out of the bloodstream and promotes its storage as fat, and those who secreted less. Within each group, half were put on a low-fat diet and half on alow-glycemic-load diet.

Onaverage, thelow-insulin-secretinggroup fared the same on bothdiets, losing nearly 10poundsin thefirst6months—butthey gained about half of it back by the end of the 18-month study. The high-insulin group didn't do as well on the low-fat plan, losing about 4.5 pounds, and gaining back more than half by the end.

But the most successful were the high-insulin-secretors on the low-glycemic-load diet. They lost nearly 13 pounds and kept it off. Their diet was designed to mitigate swings in blood sugar by replacing easily digested simple carbs—white bread, potatoes, fruit juice, cookies, and other refined foods—with vegetables, low-sugar fruits, and legumes.

Why were they so successful? The hormone insulin, which is secreted by the pancreas, is like a natural appetite suppressant. It's released when blood sugar rises, and it signals the brain that it's time to stop eating. When blood sugar and insulin drop too quickly, the brain takes it as a signal that it's time to feed, and so people feel hungry again sooner after eating—leading to overeating and weight gain.

How does your own insulin response measure up? Only a blood test can tell you for sure, but in general, low-secretors tend to be pear-shaped, carrying excess fat around the hips; high-secretors are apple-shaped, storing flab around the midsection.

The study's authors say it's too soon to give specific diet advice based on their findings, but health experts agree that regardless of your body shape, you'd do well to reduce or eliminate simple sugars and refined foods, like cookies, candy, and sugary sodas. Don't eliminate carbs altogether—even low-glycemic-load dieters got 40 percent of their calories from carbohydrates. Just replace easily digestible carbs with complex ones like fibrous veggies and fruits, brown rice, and whole grains.
Germs: Is obesity contagious?

What if your fat is caused not by diet or genes, but by germs—say, a virus? It sounds like a sci-fi horror movie, but research suggests some dimension of the obesity epidemic may be attributable to infection by common viruses, says Dhurandhar.

The idea of "infectobesity" came to him 20 years ago when he was a young doctor treating obesity in Bombay. He discovered that a local avian virus, SMAM-1, caused chickens to die, sickened with organ damage but also, strangely, with lots of abdominal fat.

In experiments, Dhurandhar found that SMAM-1-infected chickens became obese on the same diet as uninfected ones, which stayed svelte. He also found that nearly 1 in 5 overweight humans in his Bombay clinic showed antibodies—proving prior infection—and that they were about 33 pounds heavier than those never exposed.

He later moved to the U.S. and onto a bona fide human virus, adenovirus 36 (AD-36). In the lab, every species of animal Dhurandhar infected with the virus became obese—chickens got fat, mice got fat, even rhesus monkeys at the zoo that picked up the virus from the environment suddenly gained 15 percent of their body weight after exposure.

The virus naturally infects 15 percent to 17 percent of the human population, says Dhurandhar, and is present in 30 percent of obese people—even nonobese people who have it have higher BMIs than their uninfected peers. "Even within that group, they were fatter," says Dhurandhar. "It could mean that's how they'll stay, or it could mean they were pre-obese."

For people who want to know whether they're infected, a Richmond, Virginia, company called Obetech offers an AD-36 antibody test. Although there's no way to rid your body of the virus, what the test can give you is a warning flag: If you find out you're infected, you can start eating healthfully and exercising now to try to stave off obesity later.

In his latest studies, Dhurandhar has isolated a gene that, when blocked from expressing itself, seems to turn off the virus's fattening power. Stem cells extracted from fat cells and then exposed to AD-36 reliably blossom into fat cells—but when stem cells are exposed to an AD-36 virus with the key gene inhibited, the stems cells don't differentiate. The gene appears to be necessary and sufficient to trigger AD-36-related obesity, and the goal is to use the research to create a sort of obesity vaccine.

Researchers have discovered 10 microbes so far that trigger obesity—seven of them viruses. It may be a long shot, but for people struggling desperately to be thin, even the possibility of an alternative cause of obesity offers some solace. "They feel better knowing there may be something beyond them that could be responsible," says Dhurandhar. "The thought that there could be something besides what they've heard all their lives—that they are greedy and lazy—helps."
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Do You Need to Lose Weight?
Being overweight or obese carries extra health risks.
If your BMI is above 25—classifying you as “overweight” or “obese”—it may be advisable to lose weight to reduce your health risks. Body mass index is a measure meant to reflect the amount of total body fat you may carry. The more extra body fat you have, especially around your waist, the higher your health risks for certain diseases may be.

Do you need to lose weight?

Whether you should lose weight depends on how at risk you are. Simply having a higher than normal BMI suggests that you are at risk of developing type 2 diabetes, high blood pressure and cardiovascular disease. Risks increase with waist sizes larger than 40 inches for men and 35 inches for women.

Your health risks are considered to be even higher if you have three or more of the following risk factors: cigarette smoking, hypertension or using blood pressure medications, abnormal cholesterol, impaired fasting blood glucose levels, a family history of coronary heart disease, and/or if you are 45 years or older (men) or 55 years or older (women). Your doctor may advise you to undergo cholesterol control and blood pressure management.

Weight loss may be one way to help lower blood pressure and to improve abnormal cholesterol levels.

Your risk of developing co-morbidities or other obesity-related conditions is considered to be very high if you already have established coronary heart disease or any other atherosclerotic diseases such as peripheral arterial disease, type 2 diabetes, and/or sleep apnea.

Even if you don't have any problems right now, if your BMI is in the “obese” range at 30 or above, your health risks may still be considered high if you aren’t physically active on a regular basis, or if you have high serum triglycerides (a component of a cholesterol blood test).

For any of these scenarios, it may also be advisable to lose weight to improve your health risks.

How losing weight can improve your health

If you are “overweight” or “obese” according to your BMI and you are over-fat, you are at increased risk of disease from high blood pressure, abnormal cholesterol, type 2 diabetes, cardiovascular disease, gallbladder disease, osteoarthritis, sleep apnea, and cancers of the breast, endometrium, prostate and colon. Losing weight can help improve some of your risk factors, which may decrease your risks of disease.

For example, losing weight can often lower blood pressure and improve cholesterol numbers. These improvements reduce the risk of illness such as cardiovascular disease, which is related to hypertension and abnormal cholesterol.

Sometimes a person who is extremely heavy wishes to lose 50 to 100 pounds or more. While such significant weight loss may bring a person closer to a normal body weight, it’s not always easy to lose that much weight. The good news is that you may not have to: Health improvements can be seen with just a little bit of weight loss. Losing just 5 to 10 percent of body weight has been shown to lead to lower blood glucose and improved cholesterol. So, a 250-pound person may hope to lose up to 100 pounds, but they can still become healthier by losing 13 to 25 pounds.
You can improve your health without losing weight

Although weight loss in an overweight or obese person often results in physiological improvements to health, you can also improve your health in ways that do not necessarily lead to weight loss. Both eating better and becoming more active in daily life can improve health risks.

For example, eating more healthfully can provide nutrients your body may be lacking, take away foods that may be negatively impacting your health, or add nutrients that may improve your metabolic profile. Eating more fruits and vegetables may lower your cancer risk because you are adding more fiber and nutrients such as vitamin C and vitamin K into your diet—substances associated with lower cancer rates.

Cutting out saturated animal fats such as red meat—and adding more healthful unsaturated fats from plant sources such as avocados, nuts and seeds, or oils like walnut oil and olive oil—can improve your cholesterol numbers and lower your risk of heart disease.

Incorporating more physical activity into your day by walking more, running or exercising to a fitness video can strengthen your heart and lungs and the efficiency of your energy metabolism. This can help lower your blood pressure, improve your HDL, or “good” cholesterol, and reduce your risks of type 2 diabetes and cardiovascular disease, even if you do not lose weight.

Easy steps to weight loss

Although there may be medical reasons why some people gain weight easily or find it difficult to lose weight, most people who are overweight simply consume more calories in food than they use. As a result, the extra calories get stored in the body as body fat. This is known as the energy balance equation—take in more energy than you burn and you gain weight; take in less energy (by eating less) than you use, or burn more energy (by moving more) than you take in, and you’ll lose weight.

Experts recommend that 500 to 1,000 calories per day be cut out through diet and/or used up through increased physical activity to cause a weight loss of one to two pounds per week.

It’s best to combine both approaches: eat fewer calories and become more active. You’ll feel less deprived if not all of your weight loss comes from cutting out calories. Plus, you will get health benefits from exercise regardless of weight loss. Adding exercise is a good long-term weight maintenance strategy because exercise can help you prevent the loss of muscle mass that often comes with dieting, and it can help prevent weight gain that usually occurs once you stop dieting
Burning more calories from physical activity

Walking for 30 minutes to one hour per day can use about 200 to 500 calories, depending on how fast you walk and how heavy you are. (Heavier people burn more calories per minute of exercise; walking faster also burns more calories, no matter what your weight is.) It is more important to do some type of exercise every day—even if it’s only a little bit—than to try to perform a mega-workout that you might only be able to fit in every few weeks.

Although moderate- to vigorous- exercise burns more calories in a shorter amount of time, it may not always be practical . You can still burn extra calories by simply increasing your everyday physical activity. Cleaning the house, doing yard work, parking the car farther away and walking the dog for longer periods can all contribute significantly to your daily calorie burn. Simply taking a few flights of stairs every day instead of an elevator or escalator could be enough to stop the gradual, creeping weight gain that many people experience with each passing year. Watching less TV and spending less time on the computer can help you burn more calories. That’s because you are more likely to become less sedentary and, by default, more active by cutting out couch-potato pastimes.

Cutting calories without effort

You don’t need to follow an extreme diet to lose weight. Cutting calories from what you eat can be easier than you might think. The key is to modify what you regularly eat so that you consistently lower your calorie intake. If you only eat ice cream once every two weeks, then giving up ice cream won’t have much of an effect. But if you eat two scoops of ice cream every night after dinner, simply choosing a fruit-only dessert instead could knock out 200 to 400 calories a day (depending on the size of your scoop and the flavor).

Look for simple ways to shave off calories. Do you drink one or more sodas or sweetened juice drinks or other beverages every day? Do you have a beer or glass of wine (or more) every evening? Simply substituting a lower-calorie—or no-calorie—beverage choice, such as water, could eliminate the need to diet at all! That’s because if you fill up on liquid calories, you can cut them out but still eat what you normally eat and lose weight.

Other easy ways to reduce calories are to eat smaller portions of what you normally eat, or to choose lower-calorie substitutions. So choose grilled over fried foods, and choose low-fat cheese or skim milk, for example.

What if you’re fit (and heavy), but not fat?

Even if your BMI is above 25, you may not need to lose weight because not everyone who is classified as “overweight” is actually over-fat.

BMI is not a highly accurate measure of fatness, since the formula only takes height and weight into account instead of offering an actual measure of how much body fat you have. Some muscular people can have lower levels of body fat but still weigh a lot. So people who are highly athletic, and therefore have more muscle mass, may creep into the “overweight” category—suggesting that their health risks are increased. In fact, because they are fit and not fat, they may have lower health risks than even a lighter-weight person who carries more body fat or a thinner person who is unfit.

So it may not be necessary or even advisable for you to lose weight if you are in the lower ranges of the overweight category. Other risk factors should be taken into account by your doctor before recommending weight loss.
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Eat and Think Your Way Thin Being Fit and Fat is Healthier Than Being Thin and Unfit.
While other fitness buffs are thinking about toned legs and arms, women doing this plan can revel in their own little secret: Not only will it give you a flat belly, but it'll boost your sex drive—in an hour. Studies show women's sexual satisfaction directly correlates to their exercise quotient.

"Working out boosts endorphins that get you in the mood," says Laura Berman, PhD, founder of the Berman Center, a sexual health clinic in Chicago. She teamed up with Prevention to devise this exclusive libido-boosting routine, based on her new book, The Passion Prescription.

Her Rx: daily Kegels, plus, on alternating days, five more sex-enhancing moves designed to target the pelvic floor and abs. "Increasing the circulation to the pelvic area is a key component of better sex," says Berman. Just be forewarned: The aphrodisiac effect of this plan might kick in immediately.

Pelvic Connecting Crunch

Works your Kegel muscles, transverse abdominals (deeper ab muscles), and inner and outer thighs.

"Combining abdominal and Kegel exercises allows you to squeeze your Kegel muscles in and up and in and back and even side to side—moves that will ultimately help you and your partner experience a broader range of sensations," explains Berman. To begin, lie back with knees bent, feet flat on floor. Place a pillow between knees and let hands rest at sides, palms down. Engage your Kegel muscles, focusing on squeezing them in, up, and back. Engage abs to lift head and shoulders several inches off floor. Hold for three deep breaths, expanding your stomach as you breathe in, contracting as you breathe out. Do 10 reps.

The (Private) Move You Need Daily: Kegels

Improves blood circulation to the genitals, which makes you more aroused; increases vaginal response and bladder control.

To locate your pelvic floor muscles, imagine trying to interrupt your urine stream. Slowly tighten and hold for 10 seconds; then relax for 10 seconds. Repeat 10 times. Next, try a quicker squeeze and release of the same muscles-a faster move that works different muscle fibers. Squeeze and release in rapid succession 10 times. Do one set of fast and one set of slow Kegels each day, working up to three sets of both daily.

The Windmill

Increases flexibility and works abs and thighs. You'll need a scarf or a band to assist with stretching. (Skip this exercise if you have sensitive hips or knees.)

Lying on back, bring right knee to chest and place scarf in middle of foot. Holding ends, extend right leg up toward ceiling. Squeeze pelvic floor muscles while lowering right leg out to side toward floor. Hold for 10 breaths, using inner and outer thighs and pelvic floor muscles to keep pelvis anchored on floor. Slowly return to start, then switch sides.

The Belly Dancer

This move starts with a set of Kegels to help you engage your pelvic floor and then works your butt and abs, giving you full range of motion in your pelvis.

Kneel so torso and lower legs form a right angle. (Place pillow under knees, if more comfortable.) Place hands on hips and do one set of Kegels, keeping butt relaxed. Next, squeeze butt muscles, tuck tailbone in underneath hips, and do Kegels while tilting pelvis forward. Relax rear and allow pelvis to move backward, letting rear come slightly up toward ceiling. Next, move pelvis side to side, engaging Kegel muscles and lower abs. (To move to the right, engage right side butt muscles as you do Kegels.)

Couples Straddle

Increases flexibility.

For this beginner partner move, sit on floor, facing each other, with legs open in straddle position and feet touching, knees and toes facing up. (If he's much taller, press your feet against his legs.) Grasp each other's forearms as you press backs of knees toward floor, lengthen spine, and breathe in and out while holding pose for 1 minute. (To further increase the stretch, scoot slowly toward your partner.

Nighttime Goddess

Teaches you to relax your pelvic floor, which helps with pain prevention and muscle control (you should be able to relax and tighten at will), and loosens your hips, which will give you more flexibility during sex.

Lie on back with knees bent, feet flat on floor, and arms overhead with elbows slightly bent and palms up. Open knees to sides and as they drift toward floor, bring soles of feet together. (If necessary, place a pillow beneath each knee for support. For a deeper stretch, bring feet in closer to groin.) Feel the release in your chest, hips, thighs, and pelvis as you take three deep breaths.

Get sweaty for better sex.

Forget dinner and a movie. Whether you bike, run, or play tennis, aerobic exercise is a great way for couples to connect, turn on—and get in shape. "Watching your partner get sweaty can ignite sparks," says Becky Jeffers, fitness director at the Berman Center in Chicago. Choose a cardiovascular activity you can do for at least a half-hour 3 to 5 days a week.

Studies show women's sexual satisfaction directly correlates to their exercise quotient.

"Working out boosts endorphins that get you in the mood," says Laura Berman, PhD, founder of the Berman Center, a sexual health clinic in Chicago. She teamed up with Prevention to devise this exclusive libido-boosting routine, based on her new book, The Passion Prescription.

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What Makes a diet SuccessFuL ...?

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المضغ السليم
هناك الكثير من الأشياء التى يمكنك القيام بها لضمان الهضم السليم. المضغ من أهم هذه الأشياء. اقضم قضمات صغيرة، امضغ الطعام جيداً وابلع ببطء. المضغ ليس مسئولاً عن تفتيت الطعام فقط، ولكنه أيضاً يعطى إشارات للجسم لكى يستعد لاستقبال هذا الطعام عن طريق إفراز العصارات الهضمية. المضغ يبطئ من تناولك للطعام، يقلل من كمية الهواء الذى تبتلعه، يجعلك أكثر وعياً بالإشارات التى تخبر معدتك بأنها على وشك الامتلاء، ويساعد على نزول قطع الطعام للمعدة بسهولة أكبر. إذا لم يتم مضغ الطعام جيداً، تبقى قطع الطعام كبيرة ولا تُهضم تماماً.
لا يعنى هذا فقط عدم امتصاص الجسم للعناصر الغذائية، لكن أيضاً الطعام المتبقى سيظل فى القولون مسبباً غازات وأعراض سوء الهضم.
الجمع بين الأطعمة المختلفة؟
إن فكرة الجمع بين أنواع معينة من الأطعمة لا تستخدم فقط للمساعدة على فقدان الوزن لكن أيضاً لكى تساعد على تخفيف مشاكل الهضم. مبدئياً، لا يجب الجمع فى نفس الوجبة بين الكربوهيدرات البسيطة (النشويات مثل الخبز، الأرز، البطاطس، والسكريات، بما فى ذلك الفواكه حيث أنها تحتوى على فركتوز) والكربوهيدرات المركبة أو البروتينات (اللحوم، منتجات الألبان، المكسرات). تناولى إما الكربوهيدرات البسيطة وحدها أو البروتينات وحدها، مع خضروات أو سلاطة لا تحتوى على نشويات.
تقوم نظرية الجمع بين أطعمة معينة على أساس أن مجموعات الطعام المختلفة تتطلب أوقات هضم مختلفة وإنزيمات هضم مختلفة. عند الجمع بين الكربوهيدرات البسيطة والبروتينات، يحدث تعارض فى استجابة الجسم ونتيجة ذلك أن أى من النوعين لا يتم هضمه جيداً. قد يؤدى هذا إلى عسر هضم، انتفاخ، غازات، تعب فى البطن، وعدم امتصاص جيد للعناصر الغذائية. أى أطعمة سريعة الهضم (مثل الأرز أو الخبز الأبيض) لن تستطيع ترك المعدة قبل أن تتركها الأطعمة بطيئة الهضم (مثل اللحوم) مما قد يستغرق 6 إلى 8 ساعات.
فى هذا الوقت، يبدأ الأرز أو الخبز الأبيض فى التحلل مما يؤدى إلى حدوث غازات، أحماض، وعسر هضم.
12 نصيحة لهضم صحى
• تناول إفطاراً جيداً لتبدأ عملية التمثيل الغذائى.
• تناول خمس وجبات صغيرة يومياً بدلاً من ثلاث وجبات كبيرة. إن ملء المعدة بكميات كبيرة من الطعام قد يؤدى إلى عسر هضم.
• ابق هادئ وفى وضع الجلوس لمدة 30 دقيقة بعد الأكل. التحرك الكثير بعد الأكل يؤدى إلى اضطراب أحماض المعدة.
• لا تنام ومعدتك ممتلئة حيث قد يؤدى هذا إلى حدوث انتفاخ. تناول عشاءك مبكراً واحرصى على أن يكون منخفض الدهون.
• استرخ وأنت تتناول الطعام. التوتر يؤدى إلى إفراز كميات زائدة من أحماض المعدة مما يعوق الأمعاء من امتصاص العناصر الغذائية بشكل جيد.
• تناول وجبات متوازنة تحتوى على كميات كبيرة من الفواكه والخضروات (5 حصص يومياً على الأقل). الفواكه والخضروات الطازجة الغير مطهية تحتوى على إنزيمات هضم تساعد على الهضم. ابدء الوجبة بالسلاطة لكى تضمن إفراز كمية كافية من أحماض المعدة. من علامات انخفاض الأحماض المعدية شعور بالامتلاء بعد الأكل، انتفاخ، غازات زائدة، عسر هضم، حساسية الطعام، وجود طعام غير مهضوم بالبراز، وتقشر/تكسير فى أظافر اليد.
• تناول أطعمة غنية بالألياف. الألياف تمتص الشوائب وتساعد على تكوين البراز بشكل يسمح بمرور أسهل وأسرع فى القولون. الأطعمة الغنية بالألياف تشمل أغلب الحبوب، الفواكه، والخضروات. من المصادر الجيدة للألياف: الفواكه المجففة (مثل التمر، التين، القراصية)، البقول، والشوفان.
• اشرب 8 – 10 أكواب ماء يومياً. يساعد الماء على تليين المجرى الهضمى، ينظف ويحفز الأمعاء، يخفف من السموم الموجودة بالطعام، ويساعد الجسم على التخلص من الفضلات بسرعة. اشرب كوب من الماء مع الوجبة، لكن تناول معظم كمية الماء فيما بين الوجبات على مدار اليوم. شرب كميات كبيرة من الماء أثناء الوجبات أو شرب مياه مثلجة أكثر من اللازم يمكن أن يعوق الهضم.
• الكافيين يمكن أن يؤدى إلى إفراز كميات زائدة من الأحماض، لذا يجب تجنبه. تناول الأعشاب المفيدة بدلاً منه.
• تجنبى الأطعمة المكررة أو المصنعة، المواد المضافة، والأطعمة الدسمة.
• تناول الحلويات بعد الوجبات مباشرةً يجعلها تبقى فى المعدة بدون هضم وتتخمر، كما أن الطعام الذى تناولته لتوك لن يهضم جيداً. إذا كنت ترغب فى تناول حلويات بعد الأكل، من الأفضل الانتظار لمدة ساعة على الأقل.
• الزبادى يحتوى على البكتيريا النافعة الهامة للجهاز الهضمى. قد تظهر مشاكل صحية إذا زادت كمية البكتيريا الضارة عن كمية البكتيريا النافعة فى القولون. تناول الزبادى يساعد على الحفاظ على مستوى البكتيريا متوازن. الزبادى يساعد بوجه خاص فى حالة الأمعاء المضطربة، الإسهال، الغازات، الانتفاخ، وكثرة الريح.
مشاكل الهضم الشائعة
• الحموضة تحدث عندما يصعد حمض المعدة إلى المرئ. يؤدى هذا عادةً إلى الشعور بحرقان فى الصدر، تجشؤ، أو طعم حمضى فى الفم. يمكن أن تنتج الحموضة أيضاً عن الاستلقاء على الظهر، الانحناء، ارتداء ملابس ضيقة، الإفراط فى الأكل، وتناول أطعمة معينة. تناول أطعمة صحية مثل الفواكه والخضروات، وتجنب القهوة، الأطعمة الدسمة، المقلية، والحارة. إذا كنت تعاني من حموضة فى الليل، حاول تناول عشائك قبل النوم بأربع ساعات على الأقل.
• الإمساك. يمكن تخفيفه بسهولة بتناول أطعمة غنية بالألياف وبشرب كميات كبيرة من السوائل. زيد تدريجياً كمية الألياف التى تتناولها على مدار عدة أسابيع. الزيادة المفاجئة فى تناول الألياف قد تسبب انتفاخ. الخضروات والفواكه – خاصةً التفاح، والمشمش المجفف – تساعد على منع الإمساك وتمنح الجسم سوائل.

• الريح والغازات تأتى من الهواء الذى نبتلعه أثناء الأكل أو من الأطعمة أو المشروبات التى تحتوى على هواء (مثل المشروبات الغازية). تحدث الغازات أيضاً نتيجة الأطعمة التى لم تهضم جيداً. لأن الألياف لا تهضم، فيمكن أن تسبب غازات إذا لم يتم تناول كمية كافية من السوائل. كلى واشرب ببطء، وامضغ جيداً. الحبهان، القرفة، والكراوية تساعد على الحماية والتخفيف من الريح بتدفئة وإراحة المجرى الهضمى. الزبادى أيضاً يفيد فى هذه الحالة.
• الإسهال والقئ. دليل على أن الجسم يحاول التخلص من مواد ضارة مثل المخدرات، بكتيريا، أو فيروس. احرص على تدفئة نفسك واشرب الكثير من السوائل لتجنب حدوث جفاف. الزنجبيل يمكن أن يساعد على الوقاية من وتخفيف الغثيان والتقلصات. الثوم، العسل، والتفاح علاج جيد للإسهال. الجرجير يمكن أن يحمى من معاودة الإسهال والقئ. يمكن أن يساعد الزبادى الأمعاء خلال مرحلة الشفاء.
• عسر الهضم له العديد من الأسباب بما فى ذلك الضغط العصبى والنفسى، الإفراط فى الأكل أو الأكل بسرعة، وتناول المأكولات الدسمة أو الحارة. قلل من الدهون التى تتناولها حيث أنها تجهد الجهاز الهضمى. من الأطعمة المفيدة لعسر الهضم، الجرجير لأنه يحفز إفراز العصارات الهضمية. يمكن أن يساعد الأناناس فى هضم البروتينات.
الشوفان يحتوى على مادة لزجة يمكن أن تساعد على إراحة المجرى الهضمى. الزنجبيل والقرفة لهما تأثير دافئ ويساعدان على تخفيف الألم. الإسباراجوس يمكن أن يساعد فى عسر الهضم عن طريق سرعة إفراغ المعدة. شرب النعناع يحفز الإفرازات المعدية. تناول فنجان نعناع قبل الأكل بنصف ساعة. مشروب الكاموميل يخفف من التهابات وتقلصات المعدة. اشرب فنجان كاموميل بين الوجبات.
أغلب المشاكل الصحية التى تظهر غالباً ما تكون بسبب الإفراط فى الأكل، تناول وجبات غير متوازنة، وقلة النوم. لا يجب الإفراط فى الأكل . فى أوقات الجوع، يخفض الجسم معدل تمثيله الغذائى ويستخدم مخزون الدهون الخاص به. أيضاً أغلب الناس يكونون أقل نشاطاً أثناء النهار، لذا فوجبة متوازنة بكميات أقل من المعتاد ستكون كافية.
• تناول كميات عادية من مجموعات الطعام الرئيسية. عندما تكون جائع فأنت تميل لتناول كمية أكبر من المطلوب. الإفراط فى الأكل قد يسبب عسر هضم ويجعلك تشعر بالإرهاق والخمول. إن احتياج الجسم الفورى هو الحصول على طاقة فى شكل سكريات مثل البلح والعصائر. العصير والشوربة يساعدان على إمداد الجسم بالسوائل ويحافظان على التوازن المائى والمعدنى فى الجسم. تناول فواكه بعد الوجبة، لكن لهضم أفضل، يفضل الانتظار لمدة ساعة على الأقل قبل تناولها.
• احرص على عدم تناول كمية كبيرة من الطعام قبل النوم لأن الجسم سيحتاج وقت لكى يهضم الطعام ويتعامل معه بدلاً من أن يأخذ قسطاً من الراحة. ، يفضل تناول الكربوهيدرات المركبة والبروتينات حيث أنها من الأطعمة بطيئة الهضم (بما فى ذلك الأطعمة الغنية بالألياف) و لكى يستمر الطعام لفترة أطول (8 ساعات تقريباً)، مما يقلل من شعورك بالجوع أثناء النهار. قلل من الأطعمة والمشروبات التى تحتوى على السكر لأن ذلك سيجعل الجسم يفرز كثير من الإنسولين مما يؤدى إلى انخفاض السكر فى الدم. من الأطعمة المناسبة للعشاء، الفول، البيض، الزبادى، البليلة، الشوفان، والخبز البنى أو الخبز البلدى.
• الكربوهيدرات المكررة أو الأطعمة سريعة الهضم مثل الأطعمة التى تحتوى على سكر ودقيق أبيض، تبقى فقط لمدة 3 أو 4 ساعات ومن الأفضل أن يتم تناولها لكى تعيد مستوى السكر فى الدم سريعاً إلى حالته الطبيعية.
• البلح من المصادر الممتازة للسكر، الألياف، والكربوهيدرات، وهو لذلك مناسب لتناوله عند كسر الصيام لأنه لا يؤدى إلى انخفاض مفاجئ فى ضغط الدم. البلح المجفف يحتوى على الصوديوم، الكالسيوم، الماغنيسيوم، الفوسفور، الحديد، النحاس، الكبريت، المنجنيز، السيليكون، والكلورين. البوتاسيوم أيضاً وهو ضرورى للحماية من الجفاف موجود بكميات كبيرة فى البلح. البلح الطازج يحتوى أيضاً على الثيامين، النياسين، الريبوفلافين، حمض الأسكوربيك، والبيتا كاروتين.
• أبعد بين الوجبات لكى تعطى فرصة للهضم الجيد.
• الأطعمة المحمرة والأطعمة الحارة وتلك التى تحتوى على الكثير من السكر يجب الحد منها. فهى قد تؤدى إلى حدوث عسر هضم، حموضة، ومشاكل فى الوزن.
• تناول كميات كافية من الماء والعصائر من الغداء وحتى النوم لكى يأخذ الجسم الوقت الكافى لضبط مستوى السوائل فى الجسم لتجنب حدوث جفاف ولضمان الهضم الجيد. تجنب تناول المشروبات التى تحتوى على الكافيين مثل الكولا، القهوة، والشاى خاصةً فى العشاء. الكافيين مدر للبول مما يؤدى إلى فقدان معادن قيمة يحتاجها الجسم أثناء فترة النهار. الانخفاض المفاجئ فى الكافيين قد يؤدى إلى حدوث صداع، تقلبات مزاجية، وعصبية.

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التأمين على الدنيا والآخرة
التأمين الثلاثي

التأمين الأول:
قال رسول الله صلي الله عليه وسلم:
من صلى الصبح فهو في ذمة الله

التأمين الثاني:
قال رسول الله صلي الله عليه وسلم:
من قرأ آية الكرسي دبر كل صلاة مكتوبة لم يمنعه من دخول الجنة إلا أن يموت

التأمين الثالث:
قال رسول الله صلي الله عليه وسلم: أن تقول
اللهم أنت ربي لا اله إلا أنت خلقتني
وأنا عبدك وأنا على عهدك ووعدك ما استطعت
أعوذ بك من شر ما صنعت
أبوء لك بنعمتك علي وأبوء بذنبي
فاغفر لى فإنه لا يغفر الذنوب إلا أنت
قال: من قالها من النهار موقنا بها فمات من يومه قبل أن يمسي فهو من أهل الجنة ومن قالها من الليل وهو موقن بها قبل أن يصبح فهو من أهل الجنة

التأمين الشامل:
هذا تأمين شامل ضد مخاطر الحياة وشرورها ومن المصائب الفجائية
قال رسول الله صلي الله عليه وسلم:
من قال حين يمسي
' بسم الله الذي لا يضر مع اسمه شيء في الأرض
ولا في السماء وهو السميع العليم“ ثلاث مرات
لم يصبه فجأة بلاء حتى يصبح ومن قالها حين يصبح ثلاث مرات لم يصبه فجأة بلاء حتى يمسي

التأمين على أموالك وممتلكاتك:
احرص علي أداء الزكاة
والصدقات تحفظ أموالك وتنميها
قال رسول الله صلي الله عليه وسلم:
ما من يوم يصبح العباد فيه إلا ملكان ينزلان فيقول احدهما اللهم أعط منفقا خلفا
ويقول الآخر اللهم أعط ممسكا تلفا
ويقول صلي الله عليه وسلم أيضا
ما نقص مال من صدقة

التأمين على أولادك:
أن تعمل صالحا في حياتك وتتق الله في تصرفاتك
قال الله سبحانه وتعالى في سورة الكهف:
'وأما الجدار فكان لغلامين يتيمين في المدينة وكان تحته كنزلهما وكان أبوهما صالحا'
قال ابن عباس: حفظ الكنز بصلاح أبيهما
وقال ابن المنكدر: إن الله يحفظ بصلاح العبد ولده وولد ولده

التأمين ضد الأعطال العارضة:
قال رسول الله صلي الله عليه وسلم:
إذا مرض العبد أو سافر كتب الله تعالي له من الأجر مثل ما كان يعمل صحيحا مقيما
فإذا حرصت على الطاعات وأعمال الخير وصلة الرحم والنوافل وجعلتها من برنامجك اليومي فإن الله سيكتبها لك كاملة إذا انقطعت عنها لمرض أو سفر

التأمين على المكان:
قال رسول الله صلي الله عليه وسلم:
من نزل منزلا ثم قال
”أعوذ بكلمات الله التامات من شر ما خلق“
لم يضره شيء حتى يرتحل من منزله ذلك

التأمين على الصحة:
هل تعلم أن الضغوط اليومية والهموم تؤثر علي صحة الإنسان وتجعل مقاومته ضعيفة للأمراض
أما إذا كان الإنسان يملك قلبا هادئا مطمئنا اكتسى جسمه بالصحة والعافية
يقول المولى عز وجل ' ألا بذكر الله تطمئن القلوب' فأكثر من ذكر الله يطمئن قلبك ويقوى جسمك وتكمل صحتك
قال رسول الله صلي الله عليه وسلم:
”داووا مرضاكم بالصدقة“
فالصدقة أفضل وسائل الوقاية من الأمراض والعلل

التأمين على الدعاء:
إذا أحببت أن يستجاب دعاؤك
فأدع لأخيك المسلم بمثل ما تريد
قال رسول الله صلي الله عليه وسلم:
دعوة المرء المسلم لأخيه بظهر الغيب مستجابة عند رأسه ملك موكل كلما دعا لأخيه بظهر الغيب
قال الملك الموكل به آمين

التأمين على النوم:
حتى لا تصاب بالقلق والأرق والاحلام المزعجة احرص علي قراءة أذكار النوم وأهمها قراءة آية الكرسي
قال رسول الله صلي الله عليه وسلم:
إذا آويت إلي فراشك فاقرأ آية الكرسي فإنه لا يزال معك ملك من الله تعالى حافظ ولا يقربك الشيطان حتى تصبح
وكذلك قال رسول الله صلي الله عليه وسلم:
من قرأ الآيتين من آخر سورة البقرة في ليلة كفتاه

التأمين ضد الشيطان:
قال رسول الله صلي الله عليه وسلم:
من قال حين يخرج من بيته
بسم الله توكلت علي الله ولا حول ولا قوة إلا بالله

كرر [لا حول ولا قوة إلا بالله ] فإنها تشرح البال وتصلح الحال , وتحمل بها الأثقال , وترضي ذا الجلال
•أكثر من الأستغفار , فمعه الرزق والفرج والذرية والعلم النافع والتيسير وحط الخطايا .
•اعلم أن مع العسر يسراً ، وأن الفرج مع الكرب وأنه لا يدوم الحال ، وأن الأيام دول .
•تفاءل ولا تقنط ولا تيأس , وأحسن الظن بربك وانتظر منه كل خير وجميل .
•افرح باختيار الله لك , فإنك لا تدري بالمصلحة فقد تكون الشدة لك خير من الرخاء .

•البلاء يقرب بينك وبين الله ويعلمك الدعاء ويذهب عنك الكبر والعجب والفخر .

مهما كان حزنك حاول رسم الابتسامة على وجهك
سبحان الله وبحمده ..سبحان الله العظيم

فالرسول عليه الصلاه والسلام يقول
مامن ساعه تمر بأبن ادم ولم يذكر الله فيها الا تحسر عليها يوم القيامه"

سبحان الله ، والحمدلله ، ولا اله الا الله ، والله اكبر ، ولاحول ولاقوة الا بالله

أفضل وثيقة تأمين على وجه الأرض

اللهم صلي على محمد وعلى آل محمد كما صليت على إبراهيم وعلى آل إبراهيم إنك حميد مجيد

اللهم صلي على محمد وعلى آله كلما ذكره الذاكرون وغفل عن ذكره الغافلون
.. أفضل وثيقة تأمين على وجه الأرض

"What Kind of Man Are You LooKing For?

DREAMMAKER777 — Sat, 15 Aug 2009 03:11:14 UT

In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question ;
The question "What Kind of Man Are You LooKing For?"
She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye and asking.
"Do you really want to know?"
Reluctantly, he said, "Yes."
She began to expound... As a woman in this day and age,
I am in a position to ask a man what he can do for me that I can't do for myself.
I pay my own bills.
I take care of my household without the help of any man.
I am in the position to ask, "What can you bring to the table?"

The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money.
She quickly corrected his thought and stated, "I am not referring to money.
I need something more.
" I need a man who is striving for perfection in every aspect of life".

He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, and asked her to explain.

She said, "I am looking for someone who is striving for perfection mentally
because I need conversation and mental stimulation.
I don't need a simple-minded man".

" I am looking for someone who is striving for perfection spiritually
because I don't need to be unequally yoked... believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster".

I" need a man who is striving for perfection financially
because I don't need a financial burden".

I am looking for someone
who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman,
but strong enough to keep me grounded.

I am looking for someone who I can respect.
In order to be submissive, I must respect him.
I cannot be submissive to a man who isn't taking care of his business.

I have no problem being submissive... God made woman to be a helpmate for man.

I can't help a man if he can't help himself.

When she finished her spill, she looked at him. He sat there with a puzzled look on his face.

He said, "You're asking a lot."

She replied, "I'm worth a lot."
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___ After marriage, husband and wife become two sides of a coin;
they just can't face each other, but still they stay together.

___ By all means marry.,, If you get a good wife,,, you'll be happy
,,,If you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher.

___ Woman inspires us to great things,
,, and prevents us from achieving them.

_The great question,,? Which I have not been able to answer.,, Is
,,,,"What does a woman want? ??

--- I don't worry about terrorism
,, I was married for two years.

--There's a way of transferring funds that is even faster than electronic banking.
,, It's called marriage.

-- I've had bad luck with both my wives. The first one left me
,,, and the second one didn't.

--- A good wife always forgives her husband when she's wrong.

__ Women are like phones ... They Like to be Held and Talked too,,,
.. But if You Press the Wrong Button You will be Disconnected .

--- Marriage is the only war where one sleeps with the enemy.
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_ الصور التى لا يحبها الزوج في المرأه
....هل ترغب المرأة في أن تجعل حلم زوجها حقيقة.....
.......... عليها أن تقترب من وجدانه
وتتعايش مع أحلامه لتعرف تصوراته وآرائه وتتآلف مع فكره

وهذه بعض ملامح الزوجة التي تسكن فؤاد زوجها أن تجنبت ثلاث صور لا يحبها الزوج.
.
.... الصورة الأولى
................... ( الأسرار الزوجية )

نجد بعض النساء إذا حلت بهن مشكلة قمن بإذاعتها ونشرها بين الأهل

والأصدقاء بحجة المشورة أو الفضفضة عن النفس ويقمن أثناء السرد بإخراج ما في جعبتهن من مساوئ الزوج..

فترتسم في الأذهان صورة مشوهة لذلك الزوج المسكين مما يؤدي إلى نفور الأهل والأصدقاء منه وقد تعود المياه إلى

مجاريها بين الزوجين ولكن الصورة السيئة لذلك الزوج تظل في الأذهان كما أن كثرت الاستشارات والآراء في المشكلة

قد تؤدي إلى تعقيدها لان كل من يدلي برأيه يكون بعيدا عن العواطف التي تربط الزوجين كما أنها قد تؤدي إلى

التندر بالمشتكية واتخاذها وحياتها الأسرية مصدرا للتفكه مع لومها في غيبتها على إذاعتها لأسرارها ومن النساء من

تصب كل صغيرة وكبيرة في إذن أمها حتى تصبح الابنة آلة توجه برادار الأم فكان الحياة حياة أمها وليست حياتها

الخاصة وقد فات الزوجة أن الرجل يريد أن يتعايش مع زوجته وان يتعامل مع عقليتها لا مع عقلية أمها وهذا من أقوى

الأسباب التي تدفع الزوج إلى الهروب من البيت فالزوجة العاقلة هي التي تحفظ أسرار بيتها وتقوم بحلها بينها وبين

زوجها ولكن إذا تأزمت الحال ونفدت كل الخطط لها أن تلجا من يوثق بدينها وخلقها وأمانتها فتستشيرها ومن

المستحسن أن تعرض المشكلة على أنها لشخص "ما" دون البوح بخصوصيتها

.... الصورة الثانية:
................... ( النزيف المادي )

يكد الزوج ويتعب لجمع قوت العيال وتأتي الزوجة في خفة ودلال لتضيع في ساعة ما جمعه الزوج

(( فقد قال صلى الله عليه وسلم حين سئل أي النساء خير (( التي تسره إذا نظر وتطيعه إذا أمر ولا تخالفه في نفسها ولا في ماله بما يكره

........ الصورة الثالثة:
..................... ( الغيرة الحمقاء )

الغيرة في الحياة الزوجية أمر مطلوب من كلا الطرفين فهي دليل على الحب فهي تشعر الطرف الأخر بمكانته مما يثري

العلاقة الزوجية وينميها هذا إذا كانت الغيرة تسير في مسارها الطبيعي أما إذا تعدته إلى تكبيل الطرف الآخر بالقيود

والحد من التصرفات الشخصية والسؤال عن كل كبيرة وصغيرة وأخيرا الوصول إلى مرحلة الشك التي تدفع صاحبها إلى

تتبع العورات فيتحرك الخيال المريض ويمد صاحبه بصورة وهمية ليس لها أساس في الواقع فهي غيرة حمقاء ومذمومة

وكثيرا ما تقع الزوجة نتيجة عاطفتها الفياضة في شباك مرض الغيرة فما أن تنبس شفاه زوجها باسم امرأة في موضوع

عارض إلا ويصور لها خيالها أن بين صاحبة الاسم وزوجها علاقة وتبدأ في تصيد حركاته وسكناته والاتهامات الصريحة

لزوجها وعفته وأمام هذه الغيرة يشعر الزوج انه سجين محاصر فيحاول الهروب من هذا الجحيم وبهذا تكون الزوجة قد

هدمت بيتها وحرمت نفسها السعادة التي تصبو إليها وتعتقد المرأة التي تتصيد خطوات زوجها أن الفضل في ذلك يعود الى ذكائها

.... وهي لا تدري بان ذكائها هو أول ما يذهب عنها إذا اشتدت غيرتها ....

- - - - - - - -قال صلى الله عليه وسلم: الدنيا متاع . وخير متاع الدنيا المرأة الصالحة ____

.___.(.... المرأة الفاضلة صندوق مجوهرات يكشف كل يوم عن جوهرة جديدة ....)____

-- ___ المرأة الفاضلة كتاب مغلق ، لا يقرؤه إلا الرجل الذى اختارته ليشاركها حياتها -----

>....( المرأة الفاضلة تلهمك ، والذكية تثير اهتمامك ، والجميلة تجذبك ، والرقيقة تفوز بك) ....<

__.....لأن الفاضلة لا تأتي إلا بالخير .

........ولآن الذكية تنقص أنوثتها .

........ولأن الجميلة قطعة حلوى...

___ ***........ المرأة هي التي تقود الرجل إلى السعاده
___ المرأة نصف الحياة إن أخلصت لزوجها -----

___ المرأة كوكب يستضئ به الرجل ودونه يبيت في الظلام

--__ المرأة العاقلة تضع السكر في كل ما تقوله للرجل .. وتنزع الملح من كل ما يقوله لها الرجل __

......( عظمة الرجل من عظمة المرأة وعظمة المرأة من عظمة نفسها ) ....<

..... ما من رجل عظيم يصادفني في الحياة إلا وأجزم في الحال __ إن والدته أكثر عظمة .. منه ,,,,

__ (أحسن طريقة لتجعل أمرأة تغير رأيها هو أن توافق عليه ... )

_ .. أول أغراض الحب الصادق فى الرجل هو الخجل .. وفى المرأة الجرأة -----
__ .... لكى تكسب المرأة كن حليماً فى الاستماع إلى كلماتها ، حالماً فى الحديث إليها
_____ المرأه كالقمر تعكس ضوء الرجل الذي تحبه
>... من الممكن ان تشعل المرأه اصابعها العشرهللرجلشموع...<
......في حاله واحده فقط .,,,,,,..
.....اذا احست انه يستاهل ان تحرق اصابعها من اجله..
... ولا يكفيها احراق الاصابع.......بل من الممكن ان تحرق عمرها من .. أجله.. فقط. .. أثبت لها أنك رجل عظيم بتعاملك
__......المرأة كالشعلة إذا عرف الرجل كيف يمسكها أضاءت طريقه ، وإذا أخطأ فى مسكها حرقت يديه
____ ... إذا أحبتك المرأة أعطتك الدنيا وإذا كرهتك أحرقت بك الدنيا ,,,

----- سمعة المرأة كالمرآة النقية اللامعة ___ تتأثر من اقل نفس يُقرب منها ___
-- (.. المرأة لم تخلق لتكون محط إعجاب الرجال جميعاً __ بل لتكون مصدراً لسعادة رجل واحد فقط)--
.__الوردة لتي يشمها الكثيرون تفقد عبيرها ----

--- إن المرأة قد تنقصها الشجاعة الكافية للانتحار لكنها لاتزال تلح عليك وتضايقك حتى تنتحر O
- ---- قد تتزوج أنثى طلبا للاستقرار وأخرى تطلقها لنفس السبب _____

-- أغلق باب السعادة في البيت الذي يرتفع فيه صوت الزوجة على صوت الزوج

-- _ دائماً استشر زوجتك .. ثم نفذ ما تراه أنت

***......... الحياء والصمت أجمل زينات المرأة .........***

-- تعرف المرأة الطيبة مما تفعل , و الرجل الطيب مما لا يفعل
___--- خلال فترة ألخطوبة يتكلم الشاب .. وتصغى الفتاة وعند فترة الزواج تتكلم العروس .. ويصغى العريس وبعد الزواج يتكلم الزوج والزوجة __ ويصغى الجيران
---- تتحدث الفتاة للشاب قبل الزواج .. بقلبها وبعد .. الزواج بلسانها ___

__ .لا تطلب الفتاة من الدنيا إلا زواجاً ، فإذا جاء طلبت كل شىء ----

-- كانت المراه الاغريقيه تحصي عمرها من يوم زواجها لا من يوم ولادتها O

___ يعيش ألرجل حياتة بدون قلق الى أن يتزوج ----
____ تعيش ألمراة حياتها قلقة الى أن تتزوج -- فيتحمل ألرجل المسكين قلقهما معا -------

... قبل الزواج تعرف المرأة كل الأجوبة .. بعد الزواج تحفظ المرأة كل لأسئلة -------
__ السر في نظر المرأة نوعان : نوعٌ تافه لا يستحق أن تحتفظ به ..ونوعٌ آخر مهم جدًّا.. بحيث لاتستطيع ألآحتفاظ بة

الشبه بين النساء والصحف ..أن كلاهما ينشر الأخبا ر حيث ذهب.
_____..-- أعطي المرأة الخرساء سرا تنطق --
_____ ..... المرأة متقلبة كريشة في مهب الريح

___المرأه الواحده تحمل كل التناقضات ^^^

__.???.. ؟؟؟...اما التناقضات فهي
--- فكل أمرأه قد _تكون..ذكية..غبية ..فاضله ..شجاعه
---- جبانه ...قويه...ضعيفه....تناقضات غريبة
--- عندما تغضب المرأة تفتح فمها وتغلق عينيها

___ * ثلاث نساء في حياة الرجل أمراه لا يستطيع الحياة بدونها ، وامرأة لا يستطيع الحياة معها ،وامرأة تشاركه الحياة -----
------- تغفر المرأة عندما تكون فقط هى المخطئة ----
_____ المرأة القبيحة مرض للمعدة والمرأة الجميلة وجع للرأس

---- يقول الرجل في المرأة ما يريد .. لكن المرأة تفعل في الرجل ما تريد __
___ حيلة الرجال : الأدب وحيلة النساء : ما يلبسونه --------

· قد ترى المرأة الرجل بأُذنيها . . قبل أن تراه بعينيها

المرأة تميز الرجل بعينيها -----والرجل يميز المرأة بعقله ----

.... عندما تتحدث إلى امرأة ----أنصت إلى ما تقوله عينيها -. )

___المرأة تستمع إلى حديث الرجل باهتمام في نفس الوقت الذي تفكر فيه في ثوبها الجديد
___ إذا أخلصت المرأة في حبك أعطتك كل شئ تملك ---ه

***... (المرأة مثل العشب الناعم ينحني أمام النسيم ولكنه لا ينكسر للعاصفة )... ^

,,,, .على قدر حب المرأة يكون انتقامها

,,,,,,,, وعلى قدر غباء المرأة يكون سقوطها .. !!! __

.........( أغبى امرأة تستطيع أن تخدع أذكى رجل )

!!!!,,,, وأذكى امرأة تنخدع بسهولة من أهبل رجل ....!!!

... المرأه ...تغلب أقوى الرجال بدمعه

المرأه ...تصرع أشجع الرجال بنظرة .

المرأه ...تسيطر على أقسى الرجال بهمسه.

يعتقد الرجل أن المرأه طريده وصيد سهل
__ فيجمع أسلحته ليصطادها ..فتصطاده برمشة عين ...

___ المرأة __ نحلة تهبك العسل ولكنها تلسعك.

__ تظهر المرأة ذكاءها لتحصل على عمل وتظهر غباءها لتحصل على زوج ----

...( المرأة قد تصفح عن الخيانة ولكنها لا تنساها )

( قلب المرأة لؤلؤة يحتاج إلى صياد ماهر )

.. (........عبقرية المرأة تكمن في قلبها وقلبها هو نقطة ضعفها ....)

.....عندما تبكي المرأة ..تتحطم قوة الرجل ...

( المرأة قلعة كبيرة إذاسقط قلبها سقطت معهم )

(الرجل لا ينسى أول امرأة أحبها،، والمرأة لا تنسى أول رجل خانها....)..

___ الحب يبني بيوتاً عالية ___ ومن ألممكن أن يحطم صروحاً شامخة على من فيها

* (... من يتزوج امرأة لأجل جمالها كمن يشتري بيت الجمال طلاء واجهته

* المرأة بهجت الحياة

ألمراة تحفة الكون الرائعة

.. أيته التفاح ليس لك اسم آخر غير المرأة
* قلب الفتاة وردة لا يفتحها الاالحب

* المرأه تكتم الحب اربعين عاما ولا تكتم البغض يوما

* المرأه قلعه كبيره اذا سقط قلبها سقطت

إذا رأيت في عيني المرأة نوراً ---- فاعلم أن في قلبها ناراً ---
* مهما تكن المرأه ثرثاره ..الحب يعلمها السكوت

***... المرأه مخلوق رقيق ..شفافه .. هادئه ان احبت الهدوء ..عاصفه ان جرح كبريائها ..
بركان ان حطم شموخها ...شمعه ذائبه ان فقدت حبها

*** ....... المرأه كالورده ..ان احبت بصدق نجدها تكبر وتنمو وينتشر عبيرها لمن حولها ..
وان كرهت تجد العبير يتحول الى اشواك تؤذي نفسها قبل ان تؤذي من حولها ..

* المرأه كالبركان ..بهدوئها يظل خامد ..وعندما تتعرض لأي هزه ..
ينفجر هذا البركان
--__ تنسى ألمراة كل حسنات الرجل وتتذكر اساءة واحدة
-------- الزوجة كالدائن تتذكر كل ما قدمته لزوجها
____ الحب ---- سيناريو تقوم المرأة بتمثيله ___ ويقوم الرجل بتمويله.

----- اختيار المرأة كالحرب تكفى غلطة واحدة لجر الويل والخراب
تفضل المرأة أن يموت الرجل ( فيها ) أولا ، وأن يموت ( منها ) بعد ذلك __؟؟؟ ***

* ... ( المرأة : كائن ( جغرافي ) يحاول دائما إخفاء ( تاريخه ) ,,,
* . .. إن هذه الفتاة كالموت إذا عرفتها فلن تعرف بعدها
..... يغرق الرجل في الحب بعينيه والمرأة بأذنيها .........???

.... تتحدث الفتاة للشاب قبل الزواج بقلبها وبعده بلسانها ------
*,,,, لا تقل احبها لكذا ، بل قل أحبها رغم كذا وكذا وكذا .

.......... من الحكمة أن تعتذر لرجل إذا كنت مخطئاً .. وان تعتذر لامرأة حتى ولو .. كنت على صواب
.....محاولتك التفاهم مع امرأة تبكى أشبه شئ بمحاولتك تقليب أوراق الصحيفة أثناء عاصفة.
.. تتسلط المرأة بدموعها وضعفها ، ولكن سلطانها لا يدوم إذ أن قوة الدموع إذا افرط استعمالها تدعو إلى جمود القلب بدلاً من إذابته
____ النساء يحملن سيوفهن فى أفواههن
___ آخر ما يموت فى الرجل قلبه .. وآخر ما يموت فى المرأة لسانها.

* تضيع عشرين عاماً لتُُِحول ابنها إلى رجل ، امرأة أخرى تجعله أحمق في عشرين دقيقة ...

______الأم النشيطة تعلم ابنتها الكسل

..... إذا أحبت المرأة ضحت بنفسها من أجل قلبها وإذا كرهت ضحت بغيرها.

* ( الزواج ليس ( قسمة ونصيب ) بل إنه ( قسمة) و( ونصيب من ضرب ) ^
* ......(علاقة المرأة بالصابون وثيقة جداً لأنه مثلها ( ترغي ) ... * إن زوجته غاية في الإنسانية لأنها تسمح له بزيارة أمه كلما أراد ، بل وتذهب معه حاملة لها زهوراً كثيرة لتضعها على قبرها __
* ....... للقط سبعه أرواح .. للمرأة أرواح سبع قطط ____
* أسعد سيدة تتزوج عالم آثار فكلما تقدمت في السن زاد تقديره لها ...

* أروع الجنون جنون المرأة في الحب ..........
__لا تسال المرأة عمن تحب بل عمن تكره __

__لا تجادل امرأة غاضبة فأنت بذلك تضيع وقتك ولا تجادل امرأة راضية فإنك بذلك تضيع وقتها
__ *... إذا قالت لك المرأة إني أحبك فاعلم أنها رأفت بك ..

____ الرجل المتفائل ____ الذى يترك محرك سيارته دائراً ____ ينتظر زوجته عند دخولها متجراً للشراء .

__ *** ....يختبر الذهب بالنار . . و تختبر المرأة بالذهب ..... ويختبر ألرجل بألمرآة

__ .... وراء كل عظيم امرأة خصوصاً إذا كانت محفظته فى جيبه الخلفى.

........ فى عروض الأزياء تستعرض المرأة أناقتها ويستعرض الرجل حافظة نقوده.

__ * لماذا يدفع الرجل دائما للمرأة ؟ يدفع كرامته حينما يغازلها ، وراحته عندما يفكر فيها ، وأعصابه عندما يحبها ، ونقوده عندما يخطبها، ونقوده وغذاءه وأسمه عندما يتزوجها
___ .. تضحك المرأة عندما تستطيع .. وتبكي عندما تريد

· إذا عُدمت المرأة جمال الأسنان . . ضحكت بعينيها

· إذا رأيت في عيني المرأة نوراً . . فاعلم أن في قلبها ناراً
· أكبر لص تحت قبة السماء . . هو الجمال الكائن في عيني المرأة
أي شعر يفوق عيني المرأة في السحر
في ابتسامة المرأة: عظمة الحياة وجمالها . .

وفي عينيها: دهاؤها وعمقها

· إنك تستطيع قراءة قصة المرأة . . في عينيها
إن لعين المرأة بريقاً يخترق حُجب الخيال بأشعته تارة، ويتلقى إيحاءات الخلود المنتظرة تارة أخرى
· معنى الفتنة في الجمال . . أنك تحب من المرأة عينيها، ولكنك مع ذلك لا تعرف لونهما
· السواد . . لآلئ في عيون النساء
· إن الكلمات التي تقولها المرأة بعينيها تحتاج الى عدة قواميس لتفسيرها
· عندما تتحدث الى امرأة . . أنصت الى ما تقوله عينيها
· أجمل العيون وأكذبها . . عيون النساء
عندما تغضب المرأة تفتح فاها، وتغمض عينيها
· عيون المرأة بحيرة تستطيع أن تسقط أعظم السباحين
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· إنني أحب المرأة التي تظهر النعمة في جميع خطواتها . . وصفاء السماء في عينيها . . والكرامة والحب في كل بادرة منها

يقول أحد الحكماء : " إن الإنسان الذي يظن أنه يستطيع .. أن يكون سعيداً طوال حياته ليس إلا مجنوناً .. فنحن جميعاً نعرف أن الدليل الوحيد على تمتعنا بكامل قوانا العقلية يكمن في قدرتنا على الشعور بالتعاسة , عندما نفاجأ بحدث يُعكر صفو حياتنا .. إن الحياة الحقيقية هي السعادة التي نشعر بها من بعد حزن .. هي في صفاء النفوس من بعد خلاف .. هي في الحب بعد العراك الذي ينشب بين الزوجين .. هي في النجاح الذي نصل إليه
الذي نصل إليه من بعد فشل .. هي في الأمل الذي يملأ صدورنا بعد أن نكون قد يئسنا من حياتنا وكل ما تحمله لنا الحياة .. هذه هي الحياة , وهذه هي فلسفتها
----- سمعة المرأة كالمرآة النقية اللامعة ___ تتأثر من اقل نفس يُقرب منها ___
-- (.. المرأة لم تخلق لتكون محط إعجاب الرجال جميعاً __ بل لتكون مصدراً لسعادة رجل واحد فقط)--
.__الوردةالتي يشمها الكثيرون تفقد عبيرها ----

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أعرف ألصورة تحصل على مليون

DREAMMAKER777 — Sat, 15 Aug 2009 00:17:14 UT

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..........أعرف ألصورة تحصل على مليون

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Can birth control pill be a divorce pill?

DREAMMAKER777 — Sun, 14 Jun 2009 12:47:36 UT

Pill Users Choose 'Wrong' Sex Partners
Women on Birth Control Pill May Be Attracted to 'Wrong' Sex Partner
-- A woman is sexually attracted to men who smell like a good genetic match, but birth control pills make her desire the wrong men, a U.K. study shows.
Who is the right man? Studies suggest women are attracted to men whose genetic makeup differs from their own. Having a genetically different mate increases the chances for a healthy pregnancy and a healthy baby.
If this really happens in the real world, women on the pill would end up choosing a more genetically similar mate than she would otherwise choose and the implications go on from there study researcher S. Craig Roberts, PhD,
Roberts notes that in an earlier U.S. study, women who were genetically similar to their partners reported being less satisfied in their sexual relationship with their partner -- and were seeking more new sex partners -- than were women with genetically dissimilar partners.
Animal studies show that female mammals can smell out males whose MHC genes are different from their own. MHC genes affect important immune responses. By mating with males who have different MHC genes, females give their offspring a better disease-fighting repertoire.
It's true of humans, too. In laboratory studies, women who sniff men's sweaty T-shirts find them more attractive when they come from men whose MHC genes don't match theirs. It's not that certain MHC genes smell better to women -- it's the difference that counts.
Rachel Herz, PhD, author of The Scent of Desire and a faculty member at Brown University, says there is a real connection between body odor, MHC, and the mates a woman chooses.
My own research says the way a man smells to a woman is the main determinant of sexual attraction
In earlier T-shirt-sniffing studies, women taking birth control pills seemed to be attracted to the wrong men. Intrigued, Roberts and colleagues took a closer look.
They paid 37 women to smell men's T-shirts before and after going on the pill. Then they compared the women's before- and after-pill ratings of the odors to those of 60 women who did not use oral contraceptives.
The result: After taking the pill, women shifted toward preferring genetically similar men. Women who did not take the pill slightly increased their preference for genetically different men.
Why? Roberts notes that when they become pregnant, female animals switch to preferring the scent of genetically similar males. This may allow them to seek out males that will help them protect and raise the baby. Claus Wedekind, PhD, who performed the original T-shirt-sniffing studies, has suggested that birth control pills somehow mimic this process.
The question, of course, is what happens when a woman taking birth control pills marries a man to whom she's attracted -- and then stops taking the pill.

Herz says marriage counselors who have never heard about these studies tell her that the No. 1 complaint among women no longer sexually interested in their husbands is that they can no longer stand how he smells.
If you can't stand how someone smells, you cannot become intimate Herz says.
Does this mean the birth control pill is a divorce pill? Herz says it's not that simple.
A woman's response to a man's natural body odor will be colored by her feelings for him she says. So if you fell in love with a man online, it would be hard to be repelled by his smell
Roberts and colleagues report their findings in the Proceedings of the Royal Society B: Biological Sciences.

The Biology of Love: Your Brain in Love
More Clues than Ever about the Biology of LoVe -- Why We're Attracted, Why We FaLL so Hard, and What Makes Us Stay
Scientists peeking inside our brains and psyches have more clues than ever about the biology of love -- why we're attracted, why we fall so hard, and what makes us stay

analytical, driven, not very verbal, and not always compassionate.
She's gregarious, intuitive, whimsical, warm, and compassionate.

Before you say ;not a chance ; hear another view.

It's probably a good match, says Helen Fisher, PhD, a cultural anthropologist from Rutgers University and a leading researcher on love, attraction, and romance. One of her findings: Biology matters, and these two people's biology -- their chemical "profiles" -- may complement each other nicely.

In recent years, Fisher and a host of other researchers have been looking deep into our psyche and brains -- helped by high-tech imaging and genetic analysis. They've come up with some intriguing information about what makes us become attracted to someone, what underlies the crazy-in-love feeling, what's up with the transition from butterflies to a more comfortable relationship, and what keeps us attracted.

"It's all much less of a mystery than it was five years ago and certainly 30 years ago says Arthur Aron, PhD, a professor of psychology at the State University of New York at Stony Brook and another top researcher in the field. The science of the biology of love is relatively new. Research picked up steam in the 1980s, Aron says, and since then experts have made multiple discoveries. Here's a sampling of their findings:

The Biology of Love: Biology Matters
When it comes to whom you are attracted to, ;your biology plays a role,'' says Fisher, who wrote Why We Love and several other books. It's not only a similar socioeconomic status, level of education and family backgrounds that make people attractive to you, she says, but also hormones -- ones that differ from your own.

We're attracted, Fisher says, to those with a chemical "profile ; for estrogen, testosterone, dopamine, and serotonin that's different from our own, yet complements it. For instance, she says, ;If you tend to be high estrogen, you will gravitate to the high testosterone type.''

That explains why Mr. Analytical and Driven and Ms. Gregarious and Warm are a match. He's probably a ''high testosterone'' type, Fisher says, and she is probably a high estrogen" type. ;For good Darwinian reasons, they are very complementary ; says Fisher. She can likely see many ways of doing things and become indecisive. To the rescue, the analytical man. Likewise, she might inspire more compassion in him.

The Biology of Love: Your Brain in Love
Love involves three basic brain circuits, according to Fisher. There's the sex drive, which motivates us to seek out partners; romantic love, the in-the-clouds feeling when you first fall in love; and the attachment phase, the comfortable-but-fewer-fireworks stage.

The sex drive is a very simple drive; Fisher says. It's simply the craving for sexual gratification, driven largely by testosterone in both men and women

The Biology of Love: Your Brain in Love
The three brain systems, however, don't always come into play in any kind of order. They can kick in separately of be intertwined. Or they can trigger each other. For instance: you can have sex with someone but not fall in love, of course; you can be in love with someone with whom you've never had sex.

Of these three systems, in many respects I think the most powerful one is intense romantic love Fisher says. With Aron and others, Fisher has used functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRIs) to examine the brains of people in love and get clues about romantic love.

In one study, 17 people who were newly in love and asked to look at a photo of their beloved showed intense activity in two brain regions associated with reward and motivation -- called the ventral tegmental area and the right caudate nucleus. The findings led Fisher's team to suggest that the crazy-in-love feeling is more a motivation system than an emotion. The report was published in 2005 in The Journal of Comparative Neurology.

Both the VTA and the caudate nucleus are part of the brain reward system Fisher says. And the VTA, she says, is a mother lode for cells that make dopamine, a brain chemical important for controlling emotional response and the ability to feel pleasure and pain. As dopamine levels in the madly-in-love increase, she says, it accounts for focused attention on the new partner, motivation to get the reward -- and the lover's high.

In this romantic love phase, Fisher says, lovers are motivated to win each other over. Obsessive thinking is part and parcel.

What we are seeing is activation in the same area as when you expect to receive a large reward Aron says. It's the same area that ;lights up in cocaine users, he says, as they anticipate using the drug.

What we think is what's going on when one falls in love is, one perceives incredible opportunities for one's life to be enriched Aron says. Perhaps the most important reward for most people is falling in love

The Biology of Love: Smell Counts
Aside from biology and brain activity, body odor is important and help may dictate who we are attracted to and our romantic behavior.;It may be one of the first things that inspires us to say yes or no; says Charles Wysocki, PhD, a researcher at Monell Chemical Senses Center in Philadelphia.

Preference for human body odors is influenced by both gender and sexual orientation, Wysocki and his colleagues found in their research, published in 2005 in Psychological Science. When his study participants of different orientations and genders were asked to choose between distinct odors -- straight men, gay men, straight women, lesbian women -- each picked the odor of a partner of the preferredgender and orientation.

''A person's body odor is determined by anumber of factors," Wysocki says and among them is a set of genes that regulate the immune system This cluster of genes iscalledthe majorhistocompatibility complex or MHC. This MHC confers onanindividual an odor print ; says Wysocki, citing others' research. And experts have found that aperson will seek out a partner with an MHC different than his or her own;MHC is so variable, no two are alike Wysocki says

The Biology of Love: The Script Counts
Once you're initially attracted to someone -- helped along by hormones, odor, or other unconscious factors -- what the other person does or doesn't do counts, too. You become more attracted to people who are attracted to you Fisher says.

For instance, one research participant told Aron: I sort of liked this woman and she came over and sat by me Things developed.

A woman told Aron she was talking to a friend about her piano instructor and the friend said, You know he likes you At that moment, the woman told Aron, she realized she had feelings for him, too.

When people fall in love, that is the most common scenario Aron says. We are looking for the opportunity to love and be loved back

The Biology of Love: From Butterflies to Comfortable
After people have been in love a while, the activity in the brain reward areas wanes, Fisher has found in further research. As the relationship matures, it links in new brain areas associated with emotion she says. We aren't exactly sure what is going on, but everyone knows romantic love changes over time

Still, she says, "chemistry" can persist. We have started a new study, of those in long-term marriages she says. Only five people have undergone the fMRI imaging so far, but it looks promising for those who yearn for long-term chemistry. They still show activity in some brain regions associated with romantic love and also with some associated with attachment Fisher says.

Two other hormones -- oxytocin and vasopressin -- may come into play once you are settling into a more comfortable relationship. At least it's true in small rodents called prairie voles, according to Sue Carter, PhD, a professor of psychiatry at the University of Illinois at Chicago, who has studied the monogamous animals for decades. Both hormones seem important in the animals' attachments to one other vole, she says.

Oxytocin, sometimes called the hormone of love, is plentiful in women in labor and in lactating women and is released by men and women during orgasm. Some human studies have suggested it plays a role in maintaining interpersonal relationships. Vasopressin is released by the pituitary gland.

In voles, at least, Carter says, the hormones seem to play a role in social bonding, and perhaps in reducing fear, making them feel less anxious. So that may play a role in the voles' decision to mate with just one other vole.

The Biology of Love: Making it Last
Avoiding boredom is crucial for the health of a relationship, In a study, he randomly assigned couples to participate in activities both considered highly exciting but moderately pleasant or highly pleasant but moderately exciting.

The group who did highly exciting but only moderately pleasant activities had a much bigger increase in marital satisfaction , he says. The study was published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.

Meanwhile, another expert is tracking the long-term effect of picking a partner with a different major histocompatibility complex. Martie Haselton, PhD,apsychologist and researcher atthe University of California LosAngeles,isworkingtotracknewlyweds,noting the effect of different MHC patterns between partners.

There is some evidence that fertility is higher in those with dissimilar MHC genes , says Haselton. And children who inherit different MHC genes from each parent are thought to have broader immunity, she says. She also wants to determine if picking someone with different MHC genes than your own bodes well for the relationship long term.

Women in a relationship with a man with very different MHC genes are more sexually responsive to that partner and less likely to be attracted to other men than are women who pair up with a guy with not-so-different MHC genes, says Haselton, citing a study by other researchers published in 2006 in Psychological Science. How that plays out long term will be Haselton's focus as she follows couples for five years or so.

The Biology of Love: What Part Chemistry?
So how much of a role does all this chemistry going on in our brains play in all this? Chemistry isn't quantifiable . Fisher says. In the making of a relationship, she says, several variables come into play -- such as personality, which includes your character and your temperament. Your character is formed by everything you grew up with, she says. And your temperament is built by your biology. Together they create who you are

So it's difficult to put a percent or a number on the role of chemistry in a relationship. And like some of us, it can be fickle. One moment chemistry rules and the next moment your upbringing will rule , Fisher says. As in: ;I'm madly in love with this guy ; to What I am thinking? He's a different religion

One thing's for sure. There's much more to discover about the biology of love, guaranteeing that relationship scientists will have jobs for years to come.

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فتوى سعودية في رضع ألكبار

DREAMMAKER777 — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 19:10:58 UT

فضيلة الشيخ عبد الرحمن
?ظهرت فتوى في مصر تجيز رضاع البنت الكبيرة لزميلها بالعمل ليصبح ابنها من الرضاعة ويصبح محلل عليها فما هو رأي الشرع بذلك ؟؟
الجواب: أعانك الله .
أكثر الصحابة وأكثر أمهات المؤمنين وجماهير أهل العِلْم من بعدهم على أن الرَّضَاع الْمُحَرِّم ما كان في الْحَوْلَين ، أي : خلال السنتين الأوليين .
وحَمَلوا حديث سهلة بنت سُهيل – زوجة أبي حذيفة – في رضاع سالم – مولى أبي حذيفة – على الخصوصية ، أو على النَّسْخ .

وذهب بعض أهل العِلْم إلى أن رَضَاع الكبير يُحَرِّم ، وتحصل به الْمُحْرَمِيَّة ، وقَيَّدُوا هذا بِقيود ، منها : أن تقوم الحاجة الماسة لِمن ابتُلِي بمثل حال سالم مع أبي حذيفة . فلا يكون عامًّا لكل أحد . وأن لا يكون الرضاع مُباشِرا ، لأن المرأة قبل الرضاع أجنبية عن الْمُرتَضِع .

قال شيخ الإسلام ابن تيمية رحمه الله بعد أن ذكر قول أم سلمة لعائشة : إنه يدخل عليك الغلام الأيفع . قال :
وهذا الحديث أخَذَت به عائشة وأَبَـى غيرها من أزواج النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم أن يأخذ به ، مع أن عائشة رَوَتْ عنه عليه الصلاة والسلام أنه قال : الرَّضاعة مِن الْمَجَاعة ، لكنها رأت الفرق بين أن يقصد رضاعة أو تغذية ، فمتى كان المقصود الثاني لم يُحَرِّم إلاَّ ما كان قبل الفطام ، وهذا هو إرضاع عامة الناس ، وأما الأول فيجوز أن احتيج إلى جَعله ذا مَحْرَم ، وقد يجوز للحاجة مَا لا يَجُوز لِغيرها ، وهذا قول متوجِّـه . اهـ .

فقوله : وأما الأول ، يعني به أن يُقصد بالرضاع : الرضاع لذاته لا للتغذية .

وقال ابن القيم في أوجه حَمْل أهل العلم لحديث سهلة بن سُهيل : المسلك الثالث : أن حديث سهلة ليس بمنسوخ ولا مخصوص ، ولا عام في حق كل أحد ، وإنما هو للحاجة لمن لا يَستغني عن دخوله على المرأة ، ويَشُقّ احتجابها عنه ، كحال سالم مع أبي حذيفة ، فمثل هذا الكبير إذا أرضعته للحاجة أثَّـر رَضَاعه

وأما مَن عداه فلا إلاَّ رَضَاع الصغير ، وهذا مسلك شيخ الإسلام ابن تيمية رحمه الله تعالى ، والأحاديث للرَّضَاع في الكبير إما مُطْلَقة ، فَتُقَيَّد بحديث سَهْلة ، أو عامة في الأحوال ، فتخصيص الحال مِن عمومها ، وهذا أولى من النسخ ودعوى التخصيص بشخص بعينه ، وأقرب إلى العمل الأحاديث من الجانبين ، وقواعد الشرع تشهد له . والله الموفق . اهـ .

وقال ابن عبد البر : هكذا إرضاع الكبير كما ذُكِر يُحلب له اللبن ويُسقاه ، وأما أن تُلقمه المرأة ثديها كما تصنع بالطفل فلا ؛ لأن ذلك لا يحل عند جماعة العلماء . اهـ .

وقال النووي رحمه الله : قوله صلى الله عليه وسلم " أرضعيه " قال القاضي : لعلها حلبته ثم شربه من غير أن يمس ثديها ولا الْتَقَتْ بشرتاهما ، وهذا الذي قاله القاضي حَسَنٌ ، ويحتمل أنه عُفي عن مسه للحاجة ، كما خص بالرضاعة مع الكبر ، والله أعلم . اهـ .

أقول : ما قاله القاضي هو المتعيِّن ؛ لأن الكبير قبل الرضاع بمنـزلة الأجنبي عن المرأة .

فمن قال به مِن أهل العِلْم لم يُطلِقه كما في هذه الفتوى ، ولم يفتحوا الباب على مصراعيه ، ولم يُعالِجوا فسَادا بِفسَاد آخر !

تنبيه : إذا سأل سائل فلا يسأل عن حُكم الشرع ، ولا عن حُكم الله في مسألة مُعينة ؛ لأن الذي يُفتي في مسألة قد يُصيب حُكم الله ، وقد لا يُصيبه ، وقد يُواِفق الشرع ، وقد لا يُوافِقه ، ولذلك قال عليه الصلاة والسلام :

وَإِذَا حَاصَرْتَ أَهْلَ حِصْنٍ فَأَرَادُوكَ أَنْ تُنْزِلَهُمْ عَلَى حُكْمِ اللَّهِ فَلا تُنْزِلْهُمْ عَلَى حُكْمِ اللَّهِ ، وَلَكِنْ أَنْزِلْهُمْ عَلَى حُكْمِكَ ، فَإِنَّكَ لا تَدْرِي أَتُصِيبُ حُكْمَ اللَّهِ فِيهِمْ أَمْ لا . رواه مسلم .
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.لا شك أن الأكل فى حد ذاته متعة، لكن قد تتحول هذه المتعة إلى مشكلة صحية تؤرقنا إذا لم نحافظ على جهازنا الهضمى من أجل الحصول على أفضل هضم ممكن. . ألمحافظة على وزن متوازن نصائح لهضم أفضل.
-- المضغ السليم
هناك الكثير من الأشياء التى يمكنك القيام بها لضمان الهضم السليم. المضغ من أهم هذه الأشياء. اقضم قضمات صغيرة، امضغ الطعام جيداً وابلع ببطء. المضغ ليس مسئولاً عن تفتيت الطعام فقط، ولكنه أيضاً يعطى إشارات للجسم لكى يستعد لاستقبال هذا الطعام عن طريق إفراز العصارات الهضمية. المضغ يبطئ من تناولك للطعام، يقلل من كمية الهواء الذى تبتلعه، يجعلك أكثر وعياً بالإشارات التى تخبر معدتك بأنها على وشك الامتلاء، ويساعد على نزول قطع الطعام للمعدة بسهولة أكبر. إذا لم يتم مضغ الطعام جيداً، تبقى قطع الطعام كبيرة ولا تُهضم تماماً.
لا يعنى هذا فقط عدم امتصاص الجسم للعناصر الغذائية، لكن أيضاً الطعام المتبقى سيظل فى القولون مسبباً غازات وأعراض سوء الهضم.
-- الجمع بين الأطعمة المختلفة؟
إن فكرة الجمع بين أنواع معينة من الأطعمة لا تستخدم فقط للمساعدة على فقدان الوزن لكن أيضاً لكى تساعد على تخفيف مشاكل الهضم. مبدئياً، لا يجب الجمع فى نفس الوجبة بين الكربوهيدرات البسيطة (النشويات مثل الخبز، الأرز، البطاطس، والسكريات، بما فى ذلك الفواكه حيث أنها تحتوى على فركتوز) والكربوهيدرات المركبة أو البروتينات (اللحوم، منتجات الألبان، المكسرات). تناولى إما الكربوهيدرات البسيطة وحدها أو البروتينات وحدها، مع خضروات أو سلاطة لا تحتوى على نشويات.
تقوم نظرية الجمع بين أطعمة معينة على أساس أن مجموعات الطعام المختلفة تتطلب أوقات هضم مختلفة وإنزيمات هضم مختلفة. عند الجمع بين الكربوهيدرات البسيطة والبروتينات، يحدث تعارض فى استجابة الجسم ونتيجة ذلك أن أى من النوعين لا يتم هضمه جيداً. قد يؤدى هذا إلى عسر هضم، انتفاخ، غازات، تعب فى البطن، وعدم امتصاص جيد للعناصر الغذائية. أى أطعمة سريعة الهضم (مثل الأرز أو الخبز الأبيض) لن تستطيع ترك المعدة قبل أن تتركها الأطعمة بطيئة الهضم (مثل اللحوم) مما قد يستغرق 6 إلى 8 ساعات.
فى هذا الوقت، يبدأ الأرز أو الخبز الأبيض فى التحلل مما يؤدى إلى حدوث غازات، أحماض، وعسر هضم.
-- نصيحة لهضم صحى
• تناول إفطاراً جيداً لتبدأ عملية التمثيل الغذائى.
• تناول خمس وجبات صغيرة يومياً بدلاً من ثلاث وجبات كبيرة. إن ملء المعدة بكميات كبيرة من الطعام قد يؤدى إلى عسر هضم.
• ابق هادئ وفى وضع الجلوس لمدة 30 دقيقة بعد الأكل. التحرك الكثير بعد الأكل يؤدى إلى اضطراب أحماض المعدة.
• لا تنام ومعدتك ممتلئة حيث قد يؤدى هذا إلى حدوث انتفاخ. تناول عشاءك مبكراً واحرصى على أن يكون منخفض الدهون.
• استرخ وأنت تتناول الطعام. التوتر يؤدى إلى إفراز كميات زائدة من أحماض المعدة مما يعوق الأمعاء من امتصاص العناصر الغذائية بشكل جيد.
• تناول وجبات متوازنة تحتوى على كميات كبيرة من الفواكه والخضروات (5 حصص يومياً على الأقل). الفواكه والخضروات الطازجة الغير مطهية تحتوى على إنزيمات هضم تساعد على الهضم. ابدء الوجبة بالسلاطة لكى تضمن إفراز كمية كافية من أحماض المعدة. من علامات انخفاض الأحماض المعدية شعور بالامتلاء بعد الأكل، انتفاخ، غازات زائدة، عسر هضم، حساسية الطعام، وجود طعام غير مهضوم بالبراز، وتقشر/تكسير فى أظافر اليد.
• تناول أطعمة غنية بالألياف. الألياف تمتص الشوائب وتساعد على تكوين البراز بشكل يسمح بمرور أسهل وأسرع فى القولون. الأطعمة الغنية بالألياف تشمل أغلب الحبوب، الفواكه، والخضروات. من المصادر الجيدة للألياف: الفواكه المجففة (مثل التمر، التين، القراصية)، البقول، والشوفان.
• اشرب 8 – 10 أكواب ماء يومياً. يساعد الماء على تليين المجرى الهضمى، ينظف ويحفز الأمعاء، يخفف من السموم الموجودة بالطعام، ويساعد الجسم على التخلص من الفضلات بسرعة. اشرب كوب من الماء مع الوجبة، لكن تناول معظم كمية الماء فيما بين الوجبات على مدار اليوم. شرب كميات كبيرة من الماء أثناء الوجبات أو شرب مياه مثلجة أكثر من اللازم يمكن أن يعوق الهضم.
• الكافيين يمكن أن يؤدى إلى إفراز كميات زائدة من الأحماض، لذا يجب تجنبه. تناول الأعشاب المفيدة بدلاً منه.
• تجنبى الأطعمة المكررة أو المصنعة، المواد المضافة، والأطعمة الدسمة.
• تناول الحلويات بعد الوجبات مباشرةً يجعلها تبقى فى المعدة بدون هضم وتتخمر، كما أن الطعام الذى تناولته لتوك لن يهضم جيداً. إذا كنت ترغب فى تناول حلويات بعد الأكل، من الأفضل الانتظار لمدة ساعة على الأقل.
• الزبادى يحتوى على البكتيريا النافعة الهامة للجهاز الهضمى. قد تظهر مشاكل صحية إذا زادت كمية البكتيريا الضارة عن كمية البكتيريا النافعة فى القولون. تناول الزبادى يساعد على الحفاظ على مستوى البكتيريا متوازن. الزبادى يساعد بوجه خاص فى حالة الأمعاء المضطربة، الإسهال، الغازات، الانتفاخ، وكثرة الريح.
-- مشاكل الهضم الشائعة
• الحموضة تحدث عندما يصعد حمض المعدة إلى المرئ. يؤدى هذا عادةً إلى الشعور بحرقان فى الصدر، تجشؤ، أو طعم حمضى فى الفم. يمكن أن تنتج الحموضة أيضاً عن الاستلقاء على الظهر، الانحناء، ارتداء ملابس ضيقة، الإفراط فى الأكل، وتناول أطعمة معينة. تناول أطعمة صحية مثل الفواكه والخضروات، وتجنب القهوة، الأطعمة الدسمة، المقلية، والحارة. إذا كنت تعاني من حموضة فى الليل، حاول تناول عشائك قبل النوم بأربع ساعات على الأقل.
• الإمساك. يمكن تخفيفه بسهولة بتناول أطعمة غنية بالألياف وبشرب كميات كبيرة من السوائل. زيد تدريجياً كمية الألياف التى تتناولها على مدار عدة أسابيع. الزيادة المفاجئة فى تناول الألياف قد تسبب انتفاخ. الخضروات والفواكه – خاصةً التفاح، والمشمش المجفف – تساعد على منع الإمساك وتمنح الجسم سوائل.

• الريح والغازات تأتى من الهواء الذى نبتلعه أثناء الأكل أو من الأطعمة أو المشروبات التى تحتوى على هواء (مثل المشروبات الغازية). تحدث الغازات أيضاً نتيجة الأطعمة التى لم تهضم جيداً. لأن الألياف لا تهضم، فيمكن أن تسبب غازات إذا لم يتم تناول كمية كافية من السوائل. كلى واشرب ببطء، وامضغ جيداً. الحبهان، القرفة، والكراوية تساعد على الحماية والتخفيف من الريح بتدفئة وإراحة المجرى الهضمى. الزبادى أيضاً يفيد فى هذه الحالة.
• الإسهال والقئ. دليل على أن الجسم يحاول التخلص من مواد ضارة مثل المخدرات، بكتيريا، أو فيروس. احرص على تدفئة نفسك واشرب الكثير من السوائل لتجنب حدوث جفاف. الزنجبيل يمكنأنيساعدعلىالوقاية منوتخفيف الغثيان والتقلصات. الثوم، العسل،والتفاح علاج جيد للإسهال.الجرجير يمكن أن يحمى من معاودة الإسهال والقئ. يمكن أن يساعد الزبادى الأمعاء خلال مرحلة الشفاء.
• عسر الهضم له العديد من الأسباب بما فى ذلك الضغط العصبى والنفسى، الإفراط فى الأكل أو الأكل بسرعة، وتناول المأكولات الدسمة أو الحارة. قلل من الدهون التى تتناولها حيث أنها تجهد الجهاز الهضمى. من الأطعمة المفيدة لعسر الهضم، الجرجير لأنه يحفز إفراز العصارات الهضمية. يمكن أن يساعد الأناناس فى هضم البروتينات.
الشوفان يحتوى على مادة لزجة يمكن أن تساعد على إراحة المجرى الهضمى. الزنجبيل والقرفة لهما تأثير دافئ ويساعدان على تخفيف الألم. الإسباراجوس يمكن أن يساعد فى عسر الهضم عن طريق سرعة إفراغ المعدة. شرب النعناع يحفز الإفرازات المعدية. تناول فنجان نعناع قبل الأكل بنصف ساعة. مشروب الكاموميل يخفف من التهابات وتقلصات المعدة. اشرب فنجان كاموميل بين الوجبات.
أغلب المشاكل الصحية التى تظهر غالباً ما تكون بسبب الإفراط فى الأكل، تناول وجبات غير متوازنة، وقلة النوم. لا يجب الإفراط فى الأكل . فى أوقات الجوع، يخفض الجسم معدل تمثيله الغذائى ويستخدم مخزون الدهون الخاص به. أيضاً أغلب الناس يكونون أقل نشاطاً أثناء النهار، لذا فوجبة متوازنة بكميات أقل من المعتاد ستكون كافية.
• تناول كميات عادية من مجموعات الطعام الرئيسية. عندما تكون جائع فأنت تميل لتناول كمية أكبر من المطلوب. الإفراط فى الأكل قد يسبب عسر هضم ويجعلك تشعر بالإرهاق والخمول. إن احتياج الجسم الفورى هو الحصول على طاقة فى شكل سكريات مثل البلح والعصائر. العصير والشوربة يساعدان على إمداد الجسم بالسوائل ويحافظان على التوازن المائى والمعدنى فى الجسم. تناول فواكه بعد الوجبة، لكن لهضم أفضل، يفضل الانتظار لمدة ساعة على الأقل قبل تناولها.
• احرص على عدم تناول كمية كبيرة من الطعام قبل النوم لأن الجسم سيحتاج وقت لكى يهضم الطعام ويتعامل معه بدلاً من أن يأخذ قسطاً من الراحة. ، يفضل تناول الكربوهيدرات المركبة والبروتينات حيث أنها من الأطعمة بطيئة الهضم (بما فى ذلك الأطعمة الغنية بالألياف) و لكى يستمر الطعام لفترة أطول (8 ساعات تقريباً)، مما يقلل من شعورك بالجوع أثناء النهار. قلل من الأطعمة والمشروبات التى تحتوى على السكر لأن ذلك سيجعل الجسم يفرز كثير من الإنسولين مما يؤدى إلى انخفاض السكر فى الدم. من الأطعمة المناسبة للعشاء، الفول، البيض، الزبادى، البليلة، الشوفان، والخبز البنى أو الخبز البلدى.
• الكربوهيدرات المكررة أو الأطعمة سريعة الهضم مثل الأطعمة التى تحتوى على سكر ودقيق أبيض، تبقى فقط لمدة 3 أو 4 ساعات ومن الأفضل أن يتم تناولها لكى تعيد مستوى السكر فى الدم سريعاً إلى حالته الطبيعية.
• البلح من المصادر الممتازة للسكر، الألياف، والكربوهيدرات، وهو لذلك مناسب لتناوله عند كسر الصيام لأنه لا يؤدى إلى انخفاض مفاجئ فى ضغط الدم. البلح المجفف يحتوى على الصوديوم، الكالسيوم، الماغنيسيوم، الفوسفور، الحديد، النحاس، الكبريت، المنجنيز، السيليكون، والكلورين. البوتاسيوم أيضاً وهو ضرورى للحماية من الجفاف موجود بكميات كبيرة فى البلح. البلح الطازج يحتوى أيضاً على الثيامين، النياسين، الريبوفلافين، حمض الأسكوربيك، والبيتا كاروتين.
• أبعد بين الوجبات لكى تعطى فرصة للهضم الجيد.
• الأطعمة المحمرة والأطعمة الحارة وتلك التى تحتوى على الكثير من السكر يجب الحد منها. فهى قد تؤدى إلى حدوث عسر هضم، حموضة، ومشاكل فى الوزن.
• تناول كميات كافية من الماء والعصائر من الغداء وحتى النوم لكى يأخذ الجسم الوقت الكافى لضبط مستوى السوائل فى الجسم لتجنب حدوث جفاف ولضمان الهضم الجيد. تجنب تناول المشروبات التى تحتوى على الكافيين مثل الكولا، القهوة، والشاى خاصةً فى العشاء. الكافيين مدر للبول مما يؤدى إلى فقدان معادن قيمة يحتاجها الجسم أثناء فترة النهار. الانخفاض المفاجئ فى الكافيين قد يؤدى إلى حدوث صداع، تقلبات مزاجية، وعصبية--------------------------------------- - - ---------

What Makes a diet SuccessFuL?
Five Stealth Forces in Weight Loss ,
The field of weight loss is like the ancient fable about the blind men and the elephant. Each man investigates a different part of the animal and reports back, only to discover their findings are bafflingly incompatible.

The various findings by public-health experts, physicians, psychologists, geneticists, molecular biologists, and nutritionists are about as similar as an elephant's tusk is to its tail. Some say obesity is largely predetermined by our genes and biology; others attribute it to an overabundance of fries, soda, and screen-sucking; still others think we're fat because of viral infection, insulin, or the metabolic conditions we encountered in the womb. "Everyone subscribes to their own little theory," says Robert Berkowitz, medical director of the Center for Weight and Eating Disorders at the University of Pennsylvania School of Medicine.

But within this fractured tableau, a few patterns now stand out clearly. A consensus is emerging that the conventional wisdom—eat less, exercise more—is inadequate at best. A quick look at our collective waistline makes it painfully clear the old equation—calories in minus calories out equals weight change—is fundamentally flawed. Research shows not every calorie is created equal, and different bodies use calories in different ways. We're programmed to hang onto the fat we have, and some people are predisposed to create and carry more fat than others. Diet and exercise help, but in the end the solution will inevitably be more complicated than pushing away the plate and going for a walk. "It's not as simple as 'You're fat because you're lazy,'" says Nikhil Dhurandhar, an associate professor at Pennington Biomedical Research Center in Baton Rouge. "Willpower is not a prerogative of thin people. It's distributed equally."

Science may still be years away from giving us a miracle formula for fat-loss. Until then, it's up to us, one paunchy individual at a time, to shed our extra flab. It's easier said than done, especially since we may have been doing it wrong all this time. But the newest, most unexpected findings from the front lines of diet research may yet help tip the scales in your favor.

Evolution: Your body wants you to be fat

If you've ever tried to lose weight—be it 5 pounds or 50—you don't need to be told the human body resists weight change. We're each born with a predetermined set point—a weight range that typically spans about 10 to 20 pounds—and the further we push our weight away from it, the more intensely the body fights its way back. Hence the yo-yo effect: You diet and lose weight, only to gain it all back once you stop your diet. The culprit isn't lack of willpower, it's evolution.

The command center for the body's weight-management system resides in the hypothalamus—and it's calibrated to favor the preservation, rather than the elimination, of fat. That's accomplished through the hormone leptin, a crucial player in the brain's weight-management circuitry. Leptin is produced by the body's fat cells and signals the brain to regulate appetite and satiety—and, therefore, weight. If you lose body fat and leptin, it triggers hunger and the urge to eat; if you gain fat and increase leptin, you eat less. The more leptin your body produces, the leaner you tend to be; the less leptin you make, the higher your set point and the fatter you stay. Voilà, the secret to set-point maintenance.

But things don't always go according to plan. The regulatory system can go awry: Some people produce too little leptin; others become desensitized to it. And when obese people lose weight, their leptin levels plummet along with their metabolism. The body becomes more efficient at using fuel and conserving fat, which makes it tough to keep the weight off. Obese dieters' bodies go into a state of chronic hunger, a feeling Rudolph Leibel, an obesity researcher at Columbia University, compares to thirst. "Some people might be able to tolerate chronic thirst, but the majority couldn't stand it," says Leibel. "Is that a behavioral problem—a lack of willpower? I don't think so."

Then what is it? In short, DNA. How the body maintains its regulatory mechanism may be largely under the influence of genes. According to some researchers, 70 percent of variation in people's weight may come from defects on genes, and many of those genes act on a common hunger-satiety pathway in the hypothalamus. One such gene is the melanocortin 4 receptor (MC4R), which communicates with leptin and triggers a feeling of fullness. When MC4R malfunctions, it causes overeating and obesity in animals and humans. Researchers estimate 6 percent of obese children and adults can trace their condition to a genetic defect that interferes with MC4R. But genes aren't destiny. When MC4R is disabled in mice, it causes overeating and obesity—unless they're allowed to exercise early on. In the end, weight is the result of a subtle dance between genes and environment.
Exercise: Why the evening walk isn't enough

The government has long espoused moderate daily exercise—of the evening-walk or take-the-stairs variety—but that may not do much to budge the needle on the scale. A 150-pound person burns only 150 calories on a half-hour walk, the equivalent of two apples. It's good for the heart, less so for the gut.

"Radical changes are necessary," says Deirdre Barrett, a psychologist at Harvard Medical School and author of Waistland. "People don't lose weight by choosing the small fries or taking a little walk every other day." Barrett suggests taking a cue from the members of the National Weight Control Registry (NWCR), a self-selected group of more than 5,000 successful weight-losers who have shed an average of 66 pounds and kept it off 5.5 years. Some registry members lost weight using low-carb diets; some went low-fat; others eliminated refined foods. Some did it on their own; others relied on counseling. But when it came to keeping weight off over the long term, they had one thing in common: vigorous exercise for at least an hour most days of the week. Most also participated in at least one other activity or sport. "People in the NWCR exercise a lot," says Barrett. She estimates they burn an extra 2,800 calories a week.

That said, not everyone can lose 66 pounds and not everyone needs to. The goal shouldn't be getting thin, but getting healthy. It's enough to whittle your weight down to the low end of your set range, says Jeffrey Friedman, a geneticist at Rockefeller University. Losing even 10 pounds vastly decreases your risk of diabetes, heart disease, and high blood pressure. The point is to not give up just because you don't look like a swimsuit model. "We focus on appearance because that's what everyone notices," says Friedman. "If there were no stigma, we wouldn't be worried about an unachievable goal. We'd just be worried about our health."

The womb: Go ahead, blame your mother

The negotiation between your genes and the environment begins on day one. Your optimal weight, writ by genes, appears to get edited early on by conditions even before birth, inside the womb. If a woman has high blood-sugar levels while she's pregnant, her children are more likely to be overweight or obese, according to a study of almost 10,000 mother-child pairs.

Maternal diabetes may influence a child's obesity risk through a process called metabolic imprinting, says Teresa Hillier, an endocrinologist with Kaiser Permanente's Center for Health Research and the study's lead author. The mother's high blood sugar may mean the baby in the womb gets overfed, possibly pre-programming it for obesity. Even mothers whose blood sugar was at the upper end of the normal range had elevated risks of having overweight babies. The good news is that high blood sugar during pregnancy, known as gestational diabetes, is entirely avoidable: Children born to women who sought treatment for diabetes during pregnancy ended up no fatter than their peers.

The implication is clear: Weight may be established very early on, and obesity largely passed from mother to child. Numerous studies in both animals and humans have shown that a mother's obesity directly increases her child's risk for weight gain.

The best advice for moms-to-be: Get fit before you get pregnant. You'll reduce your risk of complications during pregnancy and increase your chances of having a normal-weight child. But if you think you're still at risk for gestational diabetes, make sure you get screened for hyperglycemia during pregnancy. If your blood sugar is high, talk to your doctor about treating it by modifying your diet and exercise. If that doesn't work, your doctor may prescribe insulin.

Insulin: The great diet bake-off

It's the $64,000 question: Which diets work? A yearlong government-funded study comparing Atkins, the Zone, Ornish, and LEARN (Lifestyle, Exercise, Attitudes, Relationships and Nutrition, based on the U.S. government's food pyramid) found all four work more or less, leading to short-term modest weight loss in overweight women. People on Atkins lost the most weight—an average of about 10 pounds—while participants on the other diets lost between 3.5 to 5.7 pounds on average.

Not exactly huge numbers. It got people wondering: Isn't there a better way to diet? Two months later, another study seemed to offer an answer. The paper compared two groups of adults: those who, after eating, secreted high levels of insulin, a hormone that sweeps blood sugar out of the bloodstream and promotes its storage as fat, and those who secreted less. Within each group, half were put on a low-fat diet and half on alow-glycemic-load diet.

Onaverage, thelow-insulin-secreting group fared the same on both diets, losing nearly 10 pounds in thefirst 6 months—but they gained about half of it back by the end of the 18-month study. The high-insulin group didn't do as well on the low-fat plan, losing about 4.5 pounds, and gaining back more than half by the end.

But the most successful were the high-insulin-secretors on the low-glycemic-load diet. They lost nearly 13 pounds and kept it off. Their diet was designed to mitigate swings in blood sugar by replacing easily digested simple carbs—white bread, potatoes, fruit juice, cookies, and other refined foods—with vegetables, low-sugar fruits, and legumes.

Why were they so successful? The hormone insulin, which is secreted by the pancreas, is like a natural appetite suppressant. It's released when blood sugar rises, and it signals the brain that it's time to stop eating. When blood sugar and insulin drop too quickly, the brain takes it as a signal that it's time to feed, and so people feel hungry again sooner after eating—leading to overeating and weight gain.

How does your own insulin response measure up? Only a blood test can tell you for sure, but in general, low-secretors tend to be pear-shaped, carrying excess fat around the hips; high-secretors are apple-shaped, storing flab around the midsection.

The study's authors say it's too soon to give specific diet advice based on their findings, but health experts agree that regardless of your body shape, you'd do well to reduce or eliminate simple sugars and refined foods, like cookies, candy, and sugary sodas. Don't eliminate carbs altogether—even low-glycemic-load dieters got 40 percent of their calories from carbohydrates. Just replace easily digestible carbs with complex ones like fibrous veggies and fruits, brown rice, and whole grains.
Germs: Is obesity contagious?

What if your fat is caused not by diet or genes, but by germs—say, a virus? It sounds like a sci-fi horror movie, but research suggests some dimension of the obesity epidemic may be attributable to infection by common viruses, says Dhurandhar.

The idea of "infectobesity" came to him 20 years ago when he was a young doctor treating obesity in Bombay. He discovered that a local avian virus, SMAM-1, caused chickens to die, sickened with organ damage but also, strangely, with lots of abdominal fat.

In experiments, Dhurandhar found that SMAM-1-infected chickens became obese on the same diet as uninfected ones, which stayed svelte. He also found that nearly 1 in 5 overweight humans in his Bombay clinic showed antibodies—proving prior infection—and that they were about 33 pounds heavier than those never exposed.

He later moved to the U.S. and onto a bona fide human virus, adenovirus 36 (AD-36). In the lab, every species of animal Dhurandhar infected with the virus became obese—chickens got fat, mice got fat, even rhesus monkeys at the zoo that picked up the virus from the environment suddenly gained 15 percent of their body weight after exposure.

The virus naturally infects 15 percent to 17 percent of the human population, says Dhurandhar, and is present in 30 percent of obese people—even nonobese people who have it have higher BMIs than their uninfected peers. "Even within that group, they were fatter," says Dhurandhar. "It could mean that's how they'll stay, or it could mean they were pre-obese."

For people who want to know whether they're infected, a Richmond, Virginia, company called Obetech offers an AD-36 antibody test. Although there's no way to rid your body of the virus, what the test can give you is a warning flag: If you find out you're infected, you can start eating healthfully and exercising now to try to stave off obesity later.

In his latest studies, Dhurandhar has isolated a gene that, when blocked from expressing itself, seems to turn off the virus's fattening power. Stem cells extracted from fat cells and then exposed to AD-36 reliably blossom into fat cells—but when stem cells are exposed to an AD-36 virus with the key gene inhibited, the stems cells don't differentiate. The gene appears to be necessary and sufficient to trigger AD-36-related obesity, and the goal is to use the research to create a sort of obesity vaccine.

Researchers have discovered 10 microbes so far that trigger obesity—seven of them viruses. It may be a long shot, but for people struggling desperately to be thin, even the possibility of an alternative cause of obesity offers some solace. "They feel better knowing there may be something beyond them that could be responsible," says Dhurandhar. "The thought that there could be something besides what they've heard all their lives—that they are greedy and lazy—helps."
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Do You Need to Lose Weight?
Being overweight or obese carries extra health risks.
If your BMI is above 25—classifying you as “overweight” or “obese”—it may be advisable to lose weight to reduce your health risks. Body mass index is a measure meant to reflect the amount of total body fat you may carry. The more extra body fat you have, especially around your waist, the higher your health risks for certain diseases may be.

Do you need to lose weight?

Whether you should lose weight depends on how at risk you are. Simply having a higher than normal BMI suggests that you are at risk of developing type 2 diabetes, high blood pressure and cardiovascular disease. Risks increase with waist sizes larger than 40 inches for men and 35 inches for women.

Your health risks are considered to be even higher if you have three or more of the following risk factors: cigarette smoking, hypertension or using blood pressure medications, abnormal cholesterol, impaired fasting blood glucose levels, a family history of coronary heart disease, and/or if you are 45 years or older (men) or 55 years or older (women). Your doctor may advise you to undergo cholesterol control and blood pressure management.

Weight loss may be one way to help lower blood pressure and to improve abnormal cholesterol levels.

Your risk of developing co-morbidities or other obesity-related conditions is considered to be very high if you already have established coronary heart disease or any other atherosclerotic diseases such as peripheral arterial disease, type 2 diabetes, and/or sleep apnea.

Even if you don't have any problems right now, if your BMI is in the “obese” range at 30 or above, your health risks may still be considered high if you aren’t physically active on a regular basis, or if you have high serum triglycerides (a component of a cholesterol blood test).

For any of these scenarios, it may also be advisable to lose weight to improve your health risks.

How losing weight can improve your health

If you are “overweight” or “obese” according to your BMI and you are over-fat, you are at increased risk of disease from high blood pressure, abnormal cholesterol, type 2 diabetes, cardiovascular disease, gallbladder disease, osteoarthritis, sleep apnea, and cancers of the breast, endometrium, prostate and colon. Losing weight can help improve some of your risk factors, which may decrease your risks of disease.

For example, losing weight can often lower blood pressure and improve cholesterol numbers. These improvements reduce the risk of illness such as cardiovascular disease, which is related to hypertension and abnormal cholesterol.

Sometimes a person who is extremely heavy wishes to lose 50 to 100 pounds or more. While such significant weight loss may bring a person closer to a normal body weight, it’s not always easy to lose that much weight. The good news is that you may not have to: Health improvements can be seen with just a little bit of weight loss. Losing just 5 to 10 percent of body weight has been shown to lead to lower blood glucose and improved cholesterol. So, a 250-pound person may hope to lose up to 100 pounds, but they can still become healthier by losing 13 to 25 pounds.
You can improve your health without losing weight

Although weight loss in an overweight or obese person often results in physiological improvements to health, you can also improve your health in ways that do not necessarily lead to weight loss. Both eating better and becoming more active in daily life can improve health risks.

For example, eating more healthfully can provide nutrients your body may be lacking, take away foods that may be negatively impacting your health, or add nutrients that may improve your metabolic profile. Eating more fruits and vegetables may lower your cancer risk because you are adding more fiber and nutrients such as vitamin C and vitamin K into your diet—substances associated with lower cancer rates.

Cutting out saturated animal fats such as red meat—and adding more healthful unsaturated fats from plant sources such as avocados, nuts and seeds, or oils like walnut oil and olive oil—can improve your cholesterol numbers and lower your risk of heart disease.

Incorporating more physical activity into your day by walking more, running or exercising to a fitness video can strengthen your heart and lungs and the efficiency of your energy metabolism. This can help lower your blood pressure, improve your HDL, or “good” cholesterol, and reduce your risks of type 2 diabetes and cardiovascular disease, even if you do not lose weight.

Easy steps to weight loss

Although there may be medical reasons why some people gain weight easily or find it difficult to lose weight, most people who are overweight simply consume more calories in food than they use. As a result, the extra calories get stored in the body as body fat. This is known as the energy balance equation—take in more energy than you burn and you gain weight; take in less energy (by eating less) than you use, or burn more energy (by moving more) than you take in, and you’ll lose weight.

Experts recommend that 500 to 1,000 calories per day be cut out through diet and/or used up through increased physical activity to cause a weight loss of one to two pounds per week.

It’s best to combine both approaches: eat fewer calories and become more active. You’ll feel less deprived if not all of your weight loss comes from cutting out calories. Plus, you will get health benefits from exercise regardless of weight loss. Adding exercise is a good long-term weight maintenance strategy because exercise can help you prevent the loss of muscle mass that often comes with dieting, and it can help prevent weight gain that usually occurs once you stop dieting
Burning more calories from physical activity

Walking for 30 minutes to one hour per day can use about 200 to 500 calories, depending on how fast you walk and how heavy you are. (Heavier people burn more calories per minute of exercise; walking faster also burns more calories, no matter what your weight is.) It is more important to do some type of exercise every day—even if it’s only a little bit—than to try to perform a mega-workout that you might only be able to fit in every few weeks.

Although moderate- to vigorous- exercise burns more calories in a shorter amount of time, it may not always be practical . You can still burn extra calories by simply increasing your everyday physical activity. Cleaning the house, doing yard work, parking the car farther away and walking the dog for longer periods can all contribute significantly to your daily calorie burn. Simply taking a few flights of stairs every day instead of an elevator or escalator could be enough to stop the gradual, creeping weight gain that many people experience with each passing year. Watching less TV and spending less time on the computer can help you burn more calories. That’s because you are more likely to become less sedentary and, by default, more active by cutting out couch-potato pastimes.

Cutting calories without effort

You don’t need to follow an extreme diet to lose weight. Cutting calories from what you eat can be easier than you might think. The key is to modify what you regularly eat so that you consistently lower your calorie intake. If you only eat ice cream once every two weeks, then giving up ice cream won’t have much of an effect. But if you eat two scoops of ice cream every night after dinner, simply choosing a fruit-only dessert instead could knock out 200 to 400 calories a day (depending on the size of your scoop and the flavor).

Look for simple ways to shave off calories. Do you drink one or more sodas or sweetened juice drinks or other beverages every day? Do you have a beer or glass of wine (or more) every evening? Simply substituting a lower-calorie—or no-calorie—beverage choice, such as water, could eliminate the need to diet at all! That’s because if you fill up on liquid calories, you can cut them out but still eat what you normally eat and lose weight.

Other easy ways to reduce calories are to eat smaller portions of what you normally eat, or to choose lower-calorie substitutions. So choose grilled over fried foods, and choose low-fat cheese or skim milk, for example.

What if you’re fit (and heavy), but not fat?

Even if your BMI is above 25, you may not need to lose weight because not everyone who is classified as “overweight” is actually over-fat.

BMI is not a highly accurate measure of fatness, since the formula only takes height and weight into account instead of offering an actual measure of how much body fat you have. Some muscular people can have lower levels of body fat but still weigh a lot. So people who are highly athletic, and therefore have more muscle mass, may creep into the “overweight” category—suggesting that their health risks are increased. In fact, because they are fit and not fat, they may have lower health risks than even a lighter-weight person who carries more body fat or a thinner person who is unfit.

So it may not be necessary or even advisable for you to lose weight if you are in the lower ranges of the overweight category. Other risk factors should be taken into account by your doctor before recommending weight loss.
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Eat and Think Your Way Thin Being Fit and Fat is Healthier Than Being Thin and Unfit.
While other fitness buffs are thinking about toned legs and arms, women doing this plan can revel in their own little secret: Not only will it give you a flat belly, but it'll boost your sex drive—in an hour. Studies show women's sexual satisfaction directly correlates to their exercise quotient.

"Working out boosts endorphins that get you in the mood," says Laura Berman, PhD, founder of the Berman Center, a sexual health clinic in Chicago. She teamed up with Prevention to devise this exclusive libido-boosting routine, based on her new book, The Passion Prescription.

Her Rx: daily Kegels, plus, on alternating days, five more sex-enhancing moves designed to target the pelvic floor and abs. "Increasing the circulation to the pelvic area is a key component of better sex," says Berman. Just be forewarned: The aphrodisiac effect of this plan might kick in immediately.

Pelvic Connecting Crunch

Works your Kegel muscles, transverse abdominals (deeper ab muscles), and inner and outer thighs.

"Combining abdominal and Kegel exercises allows you to squeeze your Kegel muscles in and up and in and back and even side to side—moves that will ultimately help you and your partner experience a broader range of sensations," explains Berman. To begin, lie back with knees bent, feet flat on floor. Place a pillow between knees and let hands rest at sides, palms down. Engage your Kegel muscles, focusing on squeezing them in, up, and back. Engage abs to lift head and shoulders several inches off floor. Hold for three deep breaths, expanding your stomach as you breathe in, contracting as you breathe out. Do 10 reps.

The (Private) Move You Need Daily: Kegels

Improves blood circulation to the genitals, which makes you more aroused; increases vaginal response and bladder control.

To locate your pelvic floor muscles, imagine trying to interrupt your urine stream. Slowly tighten and hold for 10 seconds; then relax for 10 seconds. Repeat 10 times. Next, try a quicker squeeze and release of the same muscles-a faster move that works different muscle fibers. Squeeze and release in rapid succession 10 times. Do one set of fast and one set of slow Kegels each day, working up to three sets of both daily.

The Windmill

Increases flexibility and works abs and thighs. You'll need a scarf or a band to assist with stretching. (Skip this exercise if you have sensitive hips or knees.)

Lying on back, bring right knee to chest and place scarf in middle of foot. Holding ends, extend right leg up toward ceiling. Squeeze pelvic floor muscles while lowering right leg out to side toward floor. Hold for 10 breaths, using inner and outer thighs and pelvic floor muscles to keep pelvis anchored on floor. Slowly return to start, then switch sides.

The Belly Dancer

This move starts with a set of Kegels to help you engage your pelvic floor and then works your butt and abs, giving you full range of motion in your pelvis.

Kneel so torso and lower legs form a right angle. (Place pillow under knees, if more comfortable.) Place hands on hips and do one set of Kegels, keeping butt relaxed. Next, squeeze butt muscles, tuck tailbone in underneath hips, and do Kegels while tilting pelvis forward. Relax rear and allow pelvis to move backward, letting rear come slightly up toward ceiling. Next, move pelvis side to side, engaging Kegel muscles and lower abs. (To move to the right, engage right side butt muscles as you do Kegels.)

Couples Straddle

Increases flexibility.

For this beginner partner move, sit on floor, facing each other, with legs open in straddle position and feet touching, knees and toes facing up. (If he's much taller, press your feet against his legs.) Grasp each other's forearms as you press backs of knees toward floor, lengthen spine, and breathe in and out while holding pose for 1 minute. (To further increase the stretch, scoot slowly toward your partner.

Nighttime Goddess

Teaches you to relax your pelvic floor, which helps with pain prevention and muscle control (you should be able to relax and tighten at will), and loosens your hips, which will give you more flexibility during sex.

Lie on back with knees bent, feet flat on floor, and arms overhead with elbows slightly bent and palms up. Open knees to sides and as they drift toward floor, bring soles of feet together. (If necessary, place a pillow beneath each knee for support. For a deeper stretch, bring feet in closer to groin.) Feel the release in your chest, hips, thighs, and pelvis as you take three deep breaths.

Get sweaty for better sex.

Forget dinner and a movie. Whether you bike, run, or play tennis, aerobic exercise is a great way for couples to connect, turn on—and get in shape. "Watching your partner get sweaty can ignite sparks," says Becky Jeffers, fitness director at the Berman Center in Chicago. Choose a cardiovascular activity you can do for at least a half-hour 3 to 5 days a week.

Studies show women's sexual satisfaction directly correlates to their exercise quotient.

"Working out boosts endorphins that get you in the mood," says Laura Berman, PhD, founder of the Berman Center, a sexual health clinic in Chicago. She teamed up with Prevention to devise this exclusive libido-boosting routine, based on her new book, The Passion Prescription.

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ورجوع ألرحم ألى وضعة ألطبيعي
مريضة ألسرطان ترضع مريضة ألأيدز ترضع
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About 10 million of the world's children die every year before they reach their fifth birthday. That is, over 27,000 per day, or over 1100 per hour. Of these, over a third - more than 450 - are less than a month old. Growing evidence tells us that good breastfeeding practices can save thousands of these babies.

Unfortunately, not even half the women of the world can carry out adequate breastfeeding. 135 Million, babies are born every year. Only 64 million women can initiate timely breastfeeding. Only 48 million women can practise exclusive breastfeeding for six months.

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GOOD BREASTFEEDING PRACTICES --

initiation of breastfeeding within one hour of birth,
exclusive breastfeeding for six months, and
introducing healthy nourishing foods while continuing to breastfeed thereafter :
Save children's lives
Prevent killer diseases during childhood
Improve IQ levels of children, as well as makes them more emotionally secure
Strengthen family bonds
Protect children against high blood pressure, cardiac

Thousands of babies fell seriously ill in China because the milk they drank was contaminated with melamine. Some even died. These babies were not breastfed because

baby milk companies convinced parents that their products were better than breastmilk
women lacked adequate support to breastfeed their babies at the work place
women lacked correct information about infant feeding
Evidence points out how vital breastfeeding is to infant survival with health. Women are being forced to stop breastfeeding and give their babies infant milk powders because of lack of facilities and support to women to breastfeed and increasing commercial interference in infant feeding.

Potential disasters are waiting to happen across the world.

We’ll deliver our call to world leaders to implement the International Code for Marketing of Breastmilk Substitutes and subsequent relevant World Health Assembly Resolutions, ensure breastfeeding friendly workplaces for women at the World Health Assembly in May 2009.

RAISE YOUR VOICE TO SUPPORT WOMEN TO BREASTFEED --
Why should babies bebreastfed?
What are good breastfeeding practices?
Why is breastfeeding the baby within one hour of birth important
How can a woman start breastfeeding within an hour after a Cesarian?
What is colostrum and how does it help the baby?
What is exclusive breastfeeding?
What about water?
What if the baby continues to be hungry after breastfeeding?
What about sore breasts, cracked nipples, etc.?
Will exclusive breastfeeding for six months weaken the mother?
Can a woman breastfeed if her breasts are small?
Does breastfeeding make breasts sag?
How can a working woman exclusively bring up her baby on breastmilk?
What about infant formula and other baby milk produced by companies? Are these as good as breastmilk?
Is it safe to take medications while breastfeeding?

Kind of support breastfeeding women need inaccurate
Support with care, nutrition and information during pregnancy.
Support at delivery to start breastfeeding as early as possible.
Support to carry out exclusive breastfeeding.
Support in the form of Maternity Leave.
Support in the form of crèches and nursing breaks at the work place.
Support in the form of Restricting Unethical Marketing and Advertising of Breastmilk Substitutes.
Protesting the use of women's bodies as sex objects.

1. Why should babies be breastfed?

Breast milk is the most complete form of nutrition for infants. Breast milk has just the right amount of fat, sugar, water, and protein that is needed for a baby's growth and development. Most babies find it easier to digest breast milk than they do formula.
There are health risks to the baby if it is not breastfed. Breast milk has agents (called antibodies) in it to help protect infants from bacteria and viruses. Babies who are not exclusively breastfed for 6 months are more likely to develop a wide range of infections diseases including ear infections, diarrhea, and respiratory illnesses. They are sick more often and have more doctor's visits.
Breastfed babies score higher on IQ tests in childhood, especially babies who were born prematurely.
Nursing uses up extra calories, making it easier to lose the extra weight gained during pregnancy. It also helps the uterus to get back to its original size and lessens any bleeding you might have after giving birth.
Breastfeeding lowers the risk of breast and ovarian cancers and possibly the risk of hip fractures and osteoporosis after menopause.
Breastfeeding can help women bond with their babies. Physical contact is important to newborns and can help them feel more secure, warm and comforted.

BENEFITS OF BREASTFEEDING ---

Benefits for Infant Benefits for Mother
Perfect food for infant
Guarantees safe, fresh milk
Enhances immune system
Protects against infectious and noninfectious diseases
Protects against food allergies and intolerances
Decreases risk of diarrhea and respiratory infections
Promotes correct development of jaw, teeth, and speech patterns
Decreases risk of childhood obesity
Increases cognitive function
Increases bonding with mother
Promotes faster shrinking of the uterus
Promotes less postpartum bleeding
Promotes faster return to pre-pregnancy weight
Eliminates the need for preparing and mixing formula
Saves money not spent on formula
Decreases risk of breast and ovarian cancer
Increases bonding with infant
Enhances self-esteem in the maternal role
Delays the menstrual cycle

2. What are good breastfeeding practices?

Good breastfeeding practices include:

Starting to breastfeed within one hour of birth
Feeding the baby breastmilk and nothing else, not even water, for the first six months of life
Introducing other appropriate and adequate foods thereafter while continuing to breastfeed the baby for as long as possible

3. Why is breastfeeding the baby within one hour of birth important

The breasts make milk only if they are stimulated by suckling. A baby just born needs only a few drops of milk, and the mother's breasts have this. When the baby suckles, the breast is stimulated to produce more milk. The baby will go to sleep with the just the few drops, but when he/she wakes up, the mother's breast will be full of milk for the next feed. The first few drops of milk, called colostrum, protects the baby from infections. Feeding within one hour of birth can reduce the risk of illness by 6 times.

4. How can a woman start breastfeeding within an hour after a Cesarian?

Initiation of breastfeeding is often delayed after a cesarian section. However, the woman can start breastfeeding as soon as she is fully conscious and alert. Women who have epidural anesthesia are generally able to hold the baby sooner and nurse for a longer period initially, than those who have general anesthesia. It is important that the woman breastfeeds the baby during the first day.

5. What is colostrum and how does it help the baby?

Colostrum is the thick, yellowish milk that the mother's breast produces for the first few days after delivery. It is rich in antibodies against several common diseases. When the baby drinks colostrum, the antibodies pass into its body and help to protect the baby against these infections, which can be life threatening for the baby

6. What is exclusive breastfeeding?

Exclusive breastfeeding means giving the baby only breastmilk and nothing else. Any other fluid or foods, even water, can interfere with the milk supply.

7. What about water?

During the six months of exclusive breastfeeding, the baby does not require anything else,not even water. Breastmilk aloneissufficientto meetall its needs. During this period, the baby should not be given any water, other milks, juices, teas, soups, or any other kinds of liquids and solids, other than immunization (drops, such as Oral Polio Vaccine), any medication as part of a treatment prescribed by aqualifiedhealth worker.&amp;amp;lt;&amp;amp;lt;8. What if the baby continues to be hungry after breastfeeding?

All women can produce enough milk for their babies. Only extremely malnourished womenmayhave difficulty in doing so. The amount ofmilkproduceddependson how often the baby suckles and for how long. The flow of milk from the breast to the baby is dependent upon the woman's state of mind. If she is depressed or worried, the milk that is already in her breasts may not flow to the baby's mouth. She may then get the feeling that her breasts arenotproducing enough milk for the baby. Atrainedcounsellor can help the woman with herstress andfears,so that the milk will flow from her breast to the baby.

9. What about sore breasts, cracked nipples, etc.?

These problems are usually caused when the milk produced by the breast does not reach the baby. They can be easily treated by a health worker. A trained counsellor can help the woman to relax and enjoy breastfeeding. As the baby continues to suckle and draw out the milk, the problems will disappear

10. Will exclusive breastfeeding for six months weaken the mother?

A breastfeeding woman requires some extra nutritious food everyday as milk production requires about 800 calories daily. An extra helping of wholesome fruits, vegetables, whole grains, protein, and calcium-rich foods such as an extra glass of milk will meet her needs. She must drink plenty of water during the day while breastfeeding;

11. Can a woman breastfeed if her breasts are small?

Of course! Breast size is not related to the ability to produce milk. Breast size is dependent on the amount of fatty tissue in the breast, and not the amount of milk.

12. Does breastfeeding make breasts sag?

Several studies have shown that breastfeeding does not cause breasts to sag. Sagging is a natural and inevitable process that happens because of age, number of pregnancies and smoking. Diet and genetics may also play a role. Sagging of breasts is not related to breastfeeding in any way.

13. How can a working woman exclusively bring up her baby on breastmilk?

Today, several governments and private sector institutions offer maternity leave to women, when the women can recuperate from child birth and breastfeed the baby. When women do have to go to work, they can express their breastmilk either by hand or by using a breastpump. This milk can be stored, warmed as needed and fed to the baby by the care giver.

14. What about infant formula and other baby milk produced by companies? Are these as good as breastmilk?

Breastmilk is the best milk for babies. No other milk, whether fresh, or powdered, can meet their needs fully. Even the most hygienically manufactured milk is not as good as breastmilk for the baby. However, several times, the manufactured milks may be contaminated with bacteria, chemicals, toxics, etc. Or the water that is used for mixing the milk may be contaminated with these substances even if it is boiled, making other milks doubly dangerous for the baby

15. Is it safe to take medications while breastfeeding?

Always tell the health worker that you are breastfeeding before taking any medication. The health worker will advise you on the need, the dosage and the precautions you may need to take
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Kind of support breastfeeding women need

1. Support with care, nutrition and information during pregnancy

Care and support from the family, friends, and community as well as adequate nutrition help the pregnant woman deal with stress and anxiety, and helps her maintain her health. Unbiased and accurate information will prepare her and her family to take good feeding decisions.

Possible Actions:

Petitions for including good breastfeeding practices in national health policy

Petitions to prevent the spread of inaccurate information

Petitions for nutritional support for pregnant and lactating women in food insecure nations and populations

Rallies, etc. for above

2. Support at delivery to start breastfeeding as early as possible.

Women may feel tired after giving birth. They need support from trained health workers to start breastfeeding within the first hour. Ideally, the baby should get its first feed even before it has been washed.

If the baby is laid face down on the mother's stomach, its natural tendency is to crawl up and reach the mother's breast within fifteen minutes or so. It then takes the nipple in the mouth and suckles. The mother does not have to exert at all to help the baby take its first feed.

Possible Actions

Petitions for implementing the Baby Friendly Hospital Initiative

Petitions for training of health workers of all levels in assisting mothers to initiate breastfeeding early

3. Support to carry out exclusive breastfeeding.

Adequate breastfeeding depends upon two factors - baby's suckling, which helps to produce more milk, and the mother's state of mind - if she is free from stress, anxiety and fear and is confident, the milk will flow easily from the breast to the baby. If any of the two factors are missing, the mother may experience problems in breastfeeding, and the baby may not get enough breastmilk. This will further the stress and anxiety in the mother, cause problems such as breast engorgement, painful breasts, ulcers, etc., which in turn will cause further stress and anxiety. A supportive family and friends can do much to help women who are facing such problems.

Sometimes, women who face problems during breastfeeding may need the help of counsellors who are trained in providing emotional support and accurate information. These can be Mother Support Groups, lactation counsellors, health workers trained in counselling skills. They may also need treatment for problems such as painful breasts, cracked nipples, ulcers, etc. For more information on training, see

Possible Actions

Petitions demanding that health workers are trained in skilled counselling in breastfeeding

Petitions demanding that all women have affordable access to the health care system

Creating mother support groups

Demonstrations, rallies, sit ins demanding that all public places such as restaurants, shopping areas, airports, railway and bus stations, conference facilities, theatres, etc. have designated areas for breastfeeding

4. Support in the form of Maternity Leave

While several countries have laws and policies related to maternity leave, most are not adequate for exclusive breastfeeding. Some countries do not have any specific laws to deal with this. In other countries, the laws apply only to the government, and the private sector, contract workers and the unorganised sector are not covered. Read more…

Possible Actions

Petitions for legislation Maternity Leave to cover all working women, including those working as contract workers and those employed in the private and unorganised sectors

Petitions demanding financial support to pregnant/lactating women in poor and food insecure households to help cope with reduced income
Developing and publicising a Hall of Fame - list of those employers in all sectors who give adequate maternity leave, and Hall of Shame - those employers who do not

Taking out rallies, breastfeeding sit ins, etc. to pressurise employers to provide adequate maternity leave

5. Support in the form of crèches and nursing breaks at the work place

Several employers do not provide adequate crèche facilities or paid nursing breaks for women to continue to breastfeed their babies when they return to work. During the first six months, when the baby is being exclusively breastfed, women need to stay close to the babies, as well as plenty of breaks to feed the baby adequately. However, even those employers who provide crèche facilities, often restrict the breaks to one or two paid breaks. Again attendants at many crèches are untrained in infant and young child feeding, and are not able to help women cope with breastfeeding.

Facilities such as creches are rarely provided to contract workers and women in the unorganised sector. The current rising unemployment and changes in labour laws has made women's income important to the survival of the family. More and more women are becoming the primary breadwinners in the family, getting either contract work, or work in the unorganised sector, where there are rarely any rules and regulations to assist them to breastfeed.

Possible Actions

Petitions for legislating adequate crèche services at all worksites.

Developing and publicising a Hall of Fame - list of those employers in all sectors who encourage women to breastfeed at work, and Hall of Shame - those employers who do not

Taking out rallies, breastfeeding sit ins, etc. to pressurise employers to provide adequate crèche facilities and nursing breaks

6. Support in the form of Restricting Unethical Marketing and Advertising of Breastmilk Substitutes

Recognising the dangers of giving babies breastmilk substitutes, the World Health Organisation adopted the International Code for Marketing of Breastmilk Substitutes in 1979. All countries of the world, except the US, have endorsed the Code. Read the history of the how the Code was developed….
Several countries have legislated the Code, or have made it into policy. Read more about the status of the Code in various countries….

However, the implementation of the Code or domestic law is still very weak, and corporations manufacturing breastmilk substitutes find ways and means to subvert it. Advertising practices range from free tins of milk powder and gifts to mothers, doctors and health workers, to hosting scientific seminars and workshops where doctors are enticed into prescribing breastmilk substitutes. To know more about how companies advertise breastmilk substitutes, visit ……

Possible Actions

Petitions to legislate/strengthen legislation based on the International Code, and its strict implementation

Investigation into how companies violate the Code, publicising the violations and demanding action

7. Protesting the use of women's bodies as sex objects

The female breasts represent this nurturing and caring. Their natural curves remind us of comfort. Their delicate softness invites the warmth of a giving touch. In many societies, however, the breast has become a taboo organ with tremendous power and expectation. The size and shape of the breast is supposed to fit a predetermined form. The breast is glorified as a sex object and exploited for money. In some cultures, men compete with the baby for women's breasts. In others, women may not be allowed to breastfeed in public, because the breast is seen as a sex object first and milk-maker as a distant second. As a result, women may get serious doubts about what will happen to their sexuality, their sexual attractiveness if they breastfeed.

Possible Actions

Petitions, demonstrations, rallies, to allow breastfeeding in public
Petitions, demonstrations, rallies against using women's bodies as sex objects

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ألمثل يقول .. ( .. مخ بقر .. ) للناس البلدا .. ألاغبياء و التي تكون ألامور أمامهم أوضح من وضوخ عين ألشمس ومع هذا لايستطيعون ألتصرف
.. !!! .. و ألسبب أنهم رضعوا في طفولتهم حليب ألأبقار ..حتى أذا كانت بقر أوربية

... صوتوا للرضاعة ألطبيعية من ألأم بدلا; من ألبقر ..
... لكي لا يكون أطفالنا مثل .. ألبقر ...

.. dummy COW ..is un Expression For A Person acting Real Stupid ( .. Tending to make poor decisions or careless mistakes.)
.. baby COW Milk drinker Mostly Become .. dummy COW

SO ... Your Baby Brain And Head Will Funcation And Think Like A COW
.. لا يشرب أطقالك حليب ألبفر ..لكي لاتكون عقولهم عقول بقر ...
.......... do not Let Your baby drink COW Milk

.... VOTE .. ... صوتوا للرضاعة ألطبيعية .....
.... VOTE .. ... صوتوا للرضاعة ألطبيعية من حليب ألأم....
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فتوى في رضاع الكبير

عبد الرحمن بن عبد الله السحيم
عضو مركز الدعوة والإرشاد بالرياض

فضيلة الشيخ عبد الرحمن
ظهرت فتوى في مصر تجيز رضاع البنت الكبيرة لزميلها بالعمل ليصبح ابنها من الرضاعة ويصبح محلل عليها
فما هو رأي الشرع بذلك ؟؟

الجواب: أعانك الله .

أكثر الصحابة وأكثر أمهات المؤمنين وجماهير أهل العِلْم من بعدهم على أن الرَّضَاع الْمُحَرِّم ما كان في الْحَوْلَين ، أي : خلال السنتين الأوليين .

وحَمَلوا حديث سهلة بنت سُهيل – زوجة أبي حذيفة – في رضاع سالم – مولى أبي حذيفة – على الخصوصية ، أو على النَّسْخ .

وذهب بعض أهل العِلْم إلى أن رَضَاع الكبير يُحَرِّم ، وتحصل به الْمُحْرَمِيَّة ، وقَيَّدُوا هذا بِقيود ، منها : أن تقوم الحاجة الماسة لِمن ابتُلِي بمثل حال سالم مع أبي حذيفة . فلا يكون عامًّا لكل أحد . وأن لا يكون الرضاع مُباشِرا ، لأن المرأة قبل الرضاع أجنبية عن الْمُرتَضِع .

قال شيخ الإسلام ابن تيمية رحمه الله بعد أن ذكر قول أم سلمة لعائشة : إنه يدخل عليك الغلام الأيفع . قال :

وهذا الحديث أخَذَت به عائشة وأَبَـى غيرها من أزواج النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم أن يأخذ به ، مع أن عائشة رَوَتْ عنه عليه الصلاة والسلام أنه قال : الرَّضاعة مِن الْمَجَاعة ، لكنها رأت الفرق بين أن يقصد رضاعة أو تغذية ، فمتى كان المقصود الثاني لم يُحَرِّم إلاَّ ما كان قبل الفطام ، وهذا هو إرضاع عامة الناس ، وأما الأول فيجوز أن احتيج إلى جَعله ذا مَحْرَم ، وقد يجوز للحاجة مَا لا يَجُوز لِغيرها ، وهذا قول متوجِّـه . اهـ .

فقوله : وأما الأول ، يعني به أن يُقصد بالرضاع : الرضاع لذاته لا للتغذية .

وقال ابن القيم في أوجه حَمْل أهل العلم لحديث سهلة بن سُهيل : المسلك الثالث : أن حديث سهلة ليس بمنسوخ ولا مخصوص ، ولا عام في حق كل أحد ، وإنما هو للحاجة لمن لا يَستغني عن دخوله على المرأة ، ويَشُقّ احتجابها عنه ، كحال سالم مع أبي حذيفة ، فمثل هذا الكبير إذا أرضعته للحاجة أثَّـر رَضَاعه

وأما مَن عداه فلا إلاَّ رَضَاع الصغير ، وهذا مسلك شيخ الإسلام ابن تيمية رحمه الله تعالى ، والأحاديث للرَّضَاع في الكبير إما مُطْلَقة ، فَتُقَيَّد بحديث سَهْلة ، أو عامة في الأحوال ، فتخصيص الحال مِن عمومها ، وهذا أولى من النسخ ودعوى التخصيص بشخص بعينه ، وأقرب إلى العمل الأحاديث من الجانبين ، وقواعد الشرع تشهد له . والله الموفق . اهـ .

وقال ابن عبد البر : هكذا إرضاع الكبير كما ذُكِر يُحلب له اللبن ويُسقاه ، وأما أن تُلقمه المرأة ثديها كما تصنع بالطفل فلا ؛ لأن ذلك لا يحل عند جماعة العلماء . اهـ .

وقال النووي رحمه الله : قوله صلى الله عليه وسلم &amp;quot; أرضعيه &amp;quot; قال القاضي : لعلها حلبته ثم شربه من غير أن يمس ثديها ولا الْتَقَتْ بشرتاهما ، وهذا الذي قاله القاضي حَسَنٌ ، ويحتمل أنه عُفي عن مسه للحاجة ، كما خص بالرضاعة مع الكبر ، والله أعلم . اهـ .

أقول : ما قاله القاضي هو المتعيِّن ؛ لأن الكبير قبل الرضاع بمنـزلة الأجنبي عن المرأة .

فمن قال به مِن أهل العِلْم لم يُطلِقه كما في هذه الفتوى ، ولم يفتحوا الباب على مصراعيه ، ولم يُعالِجوا فسَادا بِفسَاد آخر !

تنبيه : إذا سأل سائل فلا يسأل عن حُكم الشرع ، ولا عن حُكم الله في مسألة مُعينة ؛ لأن الذي يُفتي في مسألة قد يُصيب حُكم الله ، وقد لا يُصيبه ، وقد يُواِفق الشرع ، وقد لا يُوافِقه ، ولذلك قال عليه الصلاة والسلام :

وَإِذَا حَاصَرْتَ أَهْلَ حِصْنٍ فَأَرَادُوكَ أَنْ تُنْزِلَهُمْ عَلَى حُكْمِ اللَّهِ فَلا تُنْزِلْهُمْ عَلَى حُكْمِ اللَّهِ ، وَلَكِنْ أَنْزِلْهُمْ عَلَى حُكْمِكَ ، فَإِنَّكَ لا تَدْرِي أَتُصِيبُ حُكْمَ اللَّهِ فِيهِمْ أَمْ لا . رواه مسلم .

والله أعلم .

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يموت حوالي 10 ملايين طفل في العالم كل عام قبل بلوغهم السنة الأولى من العمر. وهذا يوازي وفاة أكثر من 27 ألف طفل يومياً، أو أكثر من 1100 طفل كل ساعة. وأعمار أكثر من ثلث هؤلاء الأطفال الموتى (أي أكثر من 450 طفلاً) أقل من شهر واحد. وتشير البراهين المتزايدة إلى أن ممارسات الإرضاع من الثدي good breastfeeding practices يمكنها إنقاذ آلاف الأرواح من الرضع.

من المؤسف، أن حوالي نصف الأمهات في العالم لم يتمكن من الإرضاع من الثدي رضاعة كافية. ومن بين 135 مليون طفل يولدون سنوياً، لن تتمكن سوى 64 مليون أم من بدء الإرضاع من الثدي مبكراً في وقت مناسب، ولن تنجح سوى 48 مليون أم من ممارسة الإرضاع المقتصر على الثدي طوال الشهور الستة الأولى.

إن حملة المليون لدعم المرأة في الإرضاع من الثدي تتيح فرصة لإيصال وإسماع صوتك لدعم الأمهات في الإرضاع، ولإحداث التغيير المأمول. شارك معنا وكن عضواً فاعلاً في موجة التغيير. انضم إلى حملة المليون،ووقع على الالتماس الآن

أوقفوا فظائع الحليب الصناعي
لندعم الأم في الإرضاع الطبيعي
لقد أصيب الآلاف الأطفال الرضع بأمراض خطيرة في الصين لأنهم شربوا حليبا ملوثاً بمادة الميلامين، وقد توفي بعض منهم. هؤلاء الأطفال حرموا من الرضاعة الطبيعية:

• لأن الشركات المنتجة للألبان الصناعية تحايلت وأقنعت الآباء بأن منتجاتها أفضل من لبن الأم.
• ولأن الأم العاملة لم تحصل على الدعم الكافي لإرضاع طفلها في عملها
• ولأن الأم لم تحصل على المعلومات الصحيحة عن تغذية الرضع
تشير الأدلة العلمية المتزايدة إلى أهمية الرضاعة الطبيعية في الحافظ على حياة الطفل وصحته. ولكن تضطر أمهات كثيرات إلى التوقف عن الإرضاع من الثدي واللجوء إلى اللبن الصناعي بسبب عدم وجود تسهيلات أو دعم كاف لهن حتى يستطعن الإرضاع بنجاح، وكذلك بسبب التأثير الجارف للإعلانات التجارية عن أغذية الرضع. ونتيجة لذلك هناك كوارث عديدة تهدد الرضع من المحتمل وقوعها في جميع أنحاء العالم.

سنقوم بتسليم دعوتنا إلى كافة قادة العالم في أيار/مايو 2009، أثناء اجتماع جمعية الصحة العالمية، لنناشدهم الالتزام بتطبيق المدونة الدولية لتسويق بدائل لبن الأم وتأمين أماكن عمل صديقة للأمومة.

ارفع صوتك عالياً، وطالب بدعم الأمهات في الرضاعة الطبيعية. وقع معنا على عريضة الالتماس الآن...

يا زعماء العالم: نحن المواطنون، ندعوكم إلى العمل على إيقاف تداخل المصالح التجارية وتأثيرها الضار على تغذية الرضع، ونطالبكم بالتنفيذ الصارم للمدونة الدولية لتسويق بدائل لبن الأم، وبضمان توفير الدعم اللازم لجميع الأمهات في الإرضاع الطبيعي. ونحثكم على إعداد وتنفيذ التشريعات التي تغل أيدي المصنعين والمنتجين من الترويج لمنتجاتهم من بدائل لبن الأم وأغذية الرضع وصغار الأطفال، ونناشدكم رسم الخطط ورصد الميزانيات المناسبة لتعزيز ودعم الأمهات حتى ينجحن في إرضاع أطفالهن طبيعياً ولفترة مثالية، مع ضمان مراعاة حقوق الأمومة في جميع مواقع العمل، وأن تحصل الأمهات العاملات على الفترات الكافية لاستراحة الإرضاع، سواء في القطاع العام أو القطاع الخاص، وذلك حتى لا تضطر الأم العاملة تحت أي ظرف من الظروف إلى التخلي عن الإرضاع من الثدي وحرمان طفلها من هذه النعمة التي وهبها الله لكل أم

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إن حملةَ المليون لدعم المرأة في الإرضاع الطبيعي حملةٌ عالمية تتبناها الحركة العالمية للرضاعة الطبيعية، ومهمتها تعبئة الرأي العام من خلال حشد مليون توقيع للمطالبة بدعم المرأة في الإرضاع الطبيعي.

يظن غالبية الناس أن الرضاعة الطبيعية شيء يقتصر على المرأة وطفلها: وأن قرار الإرضاع من الثدي قرار شخصي لا يجوز الخوض فيه. إلا أن هناك عوامل متعددة تؤثر على نجاح المرأة في الإرضاع من الثدي مثل: التقاليد والمعتقدات الخاطئة، ووضع المرأة في الأسرة والمجتمع، وعبء العمل الذي تؤديه، وثقة المرأة في طبيعة جسدها وجنسها وقدرتها على الإرضاع، ومدى مراعاة احتياجاتها الاقتصادية، وملاءمة قوانين العمل لحقوق الأمومة، وظروف العمل في المنزل أو خارجه، وما قد تتعرض له المرأة من عنف ومضايقات، وتوفر خدمات الدعم، وتأثير الإعلانات التجارية عن الأغذية المصنعة للأطفال، وغير ذلك...

لقد أتاحت التقنيات الحديثة مثل الإنترنت قدرة هائلة لإسماع أصواتنا، والمطالبة بسياسات تلبي طموحات الشعب. فقد هيأت لنا القدرة على تغيير العالم وضمان مراعاة حقوق الإنسان لكل فرد، وكل رضيع، وكل امرأة.

إن حملة المليون لدعم المرأة في الإرضاع الطبيعي تجمع الناس من جميع الأعمار ومن كل مناحي الحياة لحشد الدعم اللازم للمرأة حتى ترضع طفلها بنجاح. وذلك من خلال المشاركة في حملات التأييد، وتقديم الالتماسات لراسمي السياسات على الأًصعدة المحلية والوطنية والدولية، والانخراط في المناقشات الجماعية، وتبادل المعلومات المسندة بالأدلة والبراهين العلمية، والقيام بالأعمال على جميع المستويات، وبإمكانك جذب الانتباه على الصعيدين الوطني والعالمي حول العديد من التحديات التي تعيق نجاح الرضاعة الطبيعية، وأن تساهم في حلها..
انقر هنا للاطلاع على المزيد عن الرضاعة الطبيعية وكيفية دعم المرأة
انضم إلينا، وشاركنا في حملة المليون، شارك بفعالية في موجة التغيير. وقّع على عريضة الالتماس الآن.

فريق عمل حملة المليون فريق حملة المليون يساعد أعضاء الحركة العالمية لدعم الرضاعة الطبيعية في تحديد القضايا التي تمثل تحديا لنجاح الرضاعة الطبيعية، ويساعد في تنظيم الحملات الوطنية والإقليمية والعالمية. ويعمل الفريق من مقر أمانة الحملة في نيودلهي بالهند، بجانب عمل المنسقين الدوليين في الأقاليم المختلفة.
حملة المليون قد بدأتها الشبكة الدولية لأغذية الرضع (إيبفان - IBFAN)، الحائزة على جائزة "الحياة القويمة لعام1998". وتضم الشبكة أكثر من 200 جماعة ذات اهتمامات مجتمعية عامة في جميع أنحاء العالم، وتسعى الشبكة لتحسين ممارسات تغذية الرضع وإنقاذ حياة الرضع والأطفال الصغار. وتسعى شبكة إيبفان إلى التنفيذ الشامل والكامل لبنود المدونة الدولية لتسويق بدائل لبن الأم، والقرارات اللاحقة ذات الصلة الصادرة عن جمعية الصحة العالمية.

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DREAMMAKER777 — Fri, 08 May 2009 13:11:35 UT

فضيلة الشيخ عبد الرحمن
?ظهرت فتوى في مصر تجيز رضاع البنت الكبيرة لزميلها بالعمل ليصبح ابنها من الرضاعة ويصبح محلل عليها فما هو رأي الشرع بذلك ؟؟
الجواب: أعانك الله .
أكثر الصحابة وأكثر أمهات المؤمنين وجماهير أهل العِلْم من بعدهم على أن الرَّضَاع الْمُحَرِّم ما كان في الْحَوْلَين ، أي : خلال السنتين الأوليين .
وحَمَلوا حديث سهلة بنت سُهيل – زوجة أبي حذيفة – في رضاع سالم – مولى أبي حذيفة – على الخصوصية ، أو على النَّسْخ .

وذهب بعض أهل العِلْم إلى أن رَضَاع الكبير يُحَرِّم ، وتحصل به الْمُحْرَمِيَّة ، وقَيَّدُوا هذا بِقيود ، منها : أن تقوم الحاجة الماسة لِمن ابتُلِي بمثل حال سالم مع أبي حذيفة . فلا يكون عامًّا لكل أحد . وأن لا يكون الرضاع مُباشِرا ، لأن المرأة قبل الرضاع أجنبية عن الْمُرتَضِع .

قال شيخ الإسلام ابن تيمية رحمه الله بعد أن ذكر قول أم سلمة لعائشة : إنه يدخل عليك الغلام الأيفع . قال :
وهذا الحديث أخَذَت به عائشة وأَبَـى غيرها من أزواج النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم أن يأخذ به ، مع أن عائشة رَوَتْ عنه عليه الصلاة والسلام أنه قال : الرَّضاعة مِن الْمَجَاعة ، لكنها رأت الفرق بين أن يقصد رضاعة أو تغذية ، فمتى كان المقصود الثاني لم يُحَرِّم إلاَّ ما كان قبل الفطام ، وهذا هو إرضاع عامة الناس ، وأما الأول فيجوز أن احتيج إلى جَعله ذا مَحْرَم ، وقد يجوز للحاجة مَا لا يَجُوز لِغيرها ، وهذا قول متوجِّـه . اهـ .

فقوله : وأما الأول ، يعني به أن يُقصد بالرضاع : الرضاع لذاته لا للتغذية .

وقال ابن القيم في أوجه حَمْل أهل العلم لحديث سهلة بن سُهيل : المسلك الثالث : أن حديث سهلة ليس بمنسوخ ولا مخصوص ، ولا عام في حق كل أحد ، وإنما هو للحاجة لمن لا يَستغني عن دخوله على المرأة ، ويَشُقّ احتجابها عنه ، كحال سالم مع أبي حذيفة ، فمثل هذا الكبير إذا أرضعته للحاجة أثَّـر رَضَاعه

وأما مَن عداه فلا إلاَّ رَضَاع الصغير ، وهذا مسلك شيخ الإسلام ابن تيمية رحمه الله تعالى ، والأحاديث للرَّضَاع في الكبير إما مُطْلَقة ، فَتُقَيَّد بحديث سَهْلة ، أو عامة في الأحوال ، فتخصيص الحال مِن عمومها ، وهذا أولى من النسخ ودعوى التخصيص بشخص بعينه ، وأقرب إلى العمل الأحاديث من الجانبين ، وقواعد الشرع تشهد له . والله الموفق . اهـ .

وقال ابن عبد البر : هكذا إرضاع الكبير كما ذُكِر يُحلب له اللبن ويُسقاه ، وأما أن تُلقمه المرأة ثديها كما تصنع بالطفل فلا ؛ لأن ذلك لا يحل عند جماعة العلماء . اهـ .

وقال النووي رحمه الله : قوله صلى الله عليه وسلم " أرضعيه " قال القاضي : لعلها حلبته ثم شربه من غير أن يمس ثديها ولا الْتَقَتْ بشرتاهما ، وهذا الذي قاله القاضي حَسَنٌ ، ويحتمل أنه عُفي عن مسه للحاجة ، كما خص بالرضاعة مع الكبر ، والله أعلم . اهـ .

أقول : ما قاله القاضي هو المتعيِّن ؛ لأن الكبير قبل الرضاع بمنـزلة الأجنبي عن المرأة .

فمن قال به مِن أهل العِلْم لم يُطلِقه كما في هذه الفتوى ، ولم يفتحوا الباب على مصراعيه ، ولم يُعالِجوا فسَادا بِفسَاد آخر !

تنبيه : إذا سأل سائل فلا يسأل عن حُكم الشرع ، ولا عن حُكم الله في مسألة مُعينة ؛ لأن الذي يُفتي في مسألة قد يُصيب حُكم الله ، وقد لا يُصيبه ، وقد يُواِفق الشرع ، وقد لا يُوافِقه ، ولذلك قال عليه الصلاة والسلام :

وَإِذَا حَاصَرْتَ أَهْلَ حِصْنٍ فَأَرَادُوكَ أَنْ تُنْزِلَهُمْ عَلَى حُكْمِ اللَّهِ فَلا تُنْزِلْهُمْ عَلَى حُكْمِ اللَّهِ ، وَلَكِنْ أَنْزِلْهُمْ عَلَى حُكْمِكَ ، فَإِنَّكَ لا تَدْرِي أَتُصِيبُ حُكْمَ اللَّهِ فِيهِمْ أَمْ لا . رواه مسلم .
..والله أعلم .. .فتوى في رضاع الكبير
عبد الرحمن بن عبد الله السحيم
عضو مركز الدعوة والإرشاد بالرياض

ألمثل يقول .. ( .. مخ بقر .. ) للناس البلدا .. ألاغبياء و التي تكون ألامور أمامهم أوضح من وضوخ عين ألشمس ومع هذا لايستطيعون ألتصرف
.. !!! .. و ألسبب أنهم رضعوا في طفولتهم حليب ألأبقار ..حتى أذا كانت بقر أوربية
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... صوتوا للرضاعة ألطبيعية من ألأم بدلا" من ألبقر ..
... لكي لا يكون أطفالنا مثل .. ألبقر ...

أذا حصلت على ألرضاعة ألطبيعية ..
تحصل على أطفال أصحاء
و مناعة قوية ضد الأمراض
وهذة مسئولية عظيمة
و أمانة في أعناقنا
نحاسب عليها بوم ألقيامة
.. ومن اجل
-- أن نتخلص من الأرضاع من حليب ألبقر
.......... للحصول على عقول سليمة ______ ألعقل ألسليم من ألحليب ألسليم
,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,
أحصلوا على ألأجر أنشاء أللة لمساعدتكم ألأطفال أذا أضفتوا صورة ألموقع , ألرابط او أذا كتبتوا مقالة عن ألرضاعة وفوائدها ألعظيمة
.. لا يشرب أطقالك حليب ألبفر ..لكي لاتكون عقولهم عقول بقر ...
.... VOTE .. ... صوتوا للرضاعة ألطبيعية .....
.... VOTE .. ... صوتوا للرضاعة ألطبيعية من حليب ألأم....

.. dummy COW ..is un Expression For A Person acting Real Stupid ( .. Tending to make poor decisions or careless mistakes.)
.. baby COW Milk drinker Mostly Become .. dummy COW

SO ... Your Baby Brain And Head Will Function And Think Like A COW

.. لا يشرب أطقالك حليب ألبفر ..لكي لاتكون عقولهم عقول بقر ...
.... VOTE .. ... صوتوا للرضاعة ألطبيعية .....
.... VOTE .. ... صوتوا للرضاعة ألطبيعية من حليب ألأم....

.......... do not Let Your baby drink COW Milk
... Your Baby Brain And Head Will Function And Think Like A COW ...

أنشاء أللة سوف ترى ألمزيد
........... دعم ألرضاعة , مهم جدا
للي يريدون أطفال أصحاء
و أذكياء وناجحين
ذكاء ألمجتمع ككل يرتفع
كما يمنع سرطان ألثدي
والي
يريدون تخفيف وزنهم بعد الولادة
ورجوع ألرحم ألى وضعة ألطبيعي
يوجد ألكثير أنشاء أللة
ألمهم ... عدم ألآستماع الى محاربي الرضاعة ,خاصة شركات ألحليب والتي تتبرع للمستشفيات بالمال و ألحليب لكي يوسعوا معدة الرضيع ويذوقوة ألسكر .. بحيث يبقى يبكي كثير ...ا ولا يقبل أللباء ألقليل ألذي هو بداية حليب ألأم قبل نزول حليب ألأم بغزارة .. ألذي يعطي ألرضيع ألمناعة و ألغذاء ,ألحنان وألأمومة
....... راضعي حليب ألبقر .. أمراض خطيرة مع ألزمن . ذهاب ألى ألمستشفبات أكثر , يستفذون طاقة ووقت ألوالدين ألى درجة كبيرة كبيرة جدا مقارنة بالرضاعة من حليب ألأم
و ألتي تعني .. صخة أفضل , زيارات أقل للمستشفيات و الأطباء و راحة وهدوء و حياة هنيه للوالدين
مريضة ألسرطان ترضع مريضة ألأيدز ترضع
ألميضة على فراش ألموت ترضع
ألبنات ألبالغات ولم يتزوجون يرضعون
ألجدات يرضعون
متبنايت ألأطفال يرضعون
كل ألنساء يرضعون

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BreastFeeding - رضاعة

Hayek Breastfeeding: Why Do We Care?
Some Say the USA Is Unique in Its Breastfeeding Issues
Actress Salma Hayek breastfeeds another mother's son in Sierra Leone to tout the benefits of breastfeeding in a country where it is frowned upon after the first few months of a baby's birth.
(ABC News)
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ألممثلة ألعالمية ألشهيرة سلمى حايك ترضع أبن أحدى ألسيدات فديو - ألممثلة ألعالمية ألشهيرة سلمى حايك ترضع أبن أحدى ألسيدات

ألمثل يقول .. ( .. مخ بقر .. ) للناس البلدا .. ألاغبياء و التي تكون ألامور أمامهم أوضح من وضوخ عين ألشمس ومع هذا لايستطيعون ألتصرف
.. !!! .. و ألسبب أنهم رضعوا في طفولتهم حليب ألأبقار ..حتى أذا كانت بقر أوربية
صوتوا للرضاعة ألطبيعية من ألأم -
أضيفوا ألموقع و الصور الى صفحتكم
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فديو ألممثلة ألعالمية ألشهيرة سلمى حايك ترضع أبن أحدى ألسيدات

فديو رائع VERY GREAT VIDEO

.. LoVe The Way YOU LoVe Me

DREAMMAKER777 — Thu, 07 May 2009 09:26:44 UT

My Love
An empty street, an empty house
A hole inside my heart
I'm all alone, the rooms are getting smaller.
I wonder how, I wonder why, I wonder where they are
The days we had, the songs we sang together

And all my love, I'm holding on forever
Reaching for the love that seems so far

So I say a little prayer
And hope my dreams will take me there
Where the skies are blue, to see you once again... my love.
All the seas from coast to coast
To find the place I Love The Most
Where the fields are green, to see you once again... my love.

I try to read, I go to work
I'm laughing with my friends
But I can't stop to keep myself from thinking. (oh no)
I wonder how, I wonder why, I wonder where they are
The days we had, the songs we sang together

And all my love, I'm holding on forever
Reaching for the love that seems so far

So I say a little prayer
And hope my dreams will take me there
Where the skies are blue, to see you once again... my love.
All the seas from coast to coast
To find the place I Love The Most
Where the fields are green, to see you once again...

To hold you in my arms
To promise you my love
To tell you from the heart
You're all I'm thinking of

Reaching for the love that seems so far

So I say a little prayer
And hope my dreams will take its there
Where the skies are blue, to see you once again... my love.
All the seas from coast to coast
To find the place I Love The Most
Where the fields are green, to see you once again... my love.

Say it in a prayer (my sweet love)
Dreams will take it there
Where the skies are blue (woah yeah), to see you once again my love. (oh my love)
All the seas from coast to coast
To find the place I Love The Most
Where the fields are green, to see you once again.... My Love.

عدة ألمرآة .. أكتشاف علمي

DREAMMAKER777 — Thu, 07 May 2009 02:15:03 UT

فسر العلماء فتــرة (العدة) للنساء للتأكد من خلو الرحم من جنين وإنها مؤهله للصلح بين الزوجين وهذا صحيح ولكن هناك سببا آخر اكتشفه العلم الحديث
وهو:
إن السائل الذكري يختلف من شخص إلى آخر كما تختلف بصمة الإصبع وان لكل رجل شفرة خاصة به.
((((((وان جميع ممارِسات مهنة الدعارة يصبن بمرض سرطان الرحم.))))
وان المرأة تحمل داخل جسدها كمبيوترا يختزن شفرة الرجل الذي يعاشرها. وإذا دخل على هذا الكمبيوتر أكثر من شفرة كأنما دخل فيروس إلى الكمبيوتر ويصاب بالخلل والاضطراب والإمراض الخبيثة ومع الدراسات المكثفة للوصول لحل أو علاج لهذه المشكلة اكتشف الإعجاز واكتشفوا............. إن الإسلام يعلم ما يجهلونه.
»إن المرأة تحتاج نفس مدة العدة التي شرعها الإسلام حتى تستطيع استقبال شفرة جديدة بدون إصابتها بأذى».
كما فسر هذا الاكتشاف لماذا تتزوج المرأة رجلا واحدا ولا تعدد أزواج
وهنا سأل العلماء سؤالا لماذا تختلف مدة العدة بين المطلقة والأرملة
أجريت الدراسات على المطلقات والأرامل فأثبتت التحاليل أن الأرملة تحتاج وقتا أطول من المطلقة لنسيان هذه الشفرة وذلك يرجع إلى حالتها النفسية حيث تكون حزينة أكثر على فقدان زوجها إذ لم تصب منه بضرر الطلاق بل توفاه الله.
فلذلك هي لا تستطيع نسيان ذلك الزوج الذي عاش معها حياة السعادة حياة الفرح
حياة الحب لأن من طبع المرأة الغريزي الوفاء والإخلاص لذلك الرجل
وأن الخيانة طبع دخيل على صاحبة القلب الكبير ............... المرأة
--- إن في ذلك عبرة لمن أراد أن يعتبر

أكتشاف علمي لماذا عدة ألمرآة
عدة ألمرآة .. أكتشاف علمي

........... دعم ألرضاعة , مهم جدا
للي يريدون أطفال أصحاء
و أذكياء وناجحين
ذكاء ألمجتمع ككل يرتفع
كما يمنع سرطان ألثدي
والي
يريدون تخفيف وزنهم بعد الولادة
ورجوع ألرحم ألى وضعة ألطبيعي
يوجد ألكثير أنشاء أللة
ألمهم ... عدم ألآستماع الى محاربي الرضاعة ,خاصة شركات ألحليب والتي تتبرع للمستشفيات بالمال و ألحليب لكي يوسعوا معدة الرضيع ويذوقوة ألسكر .. بحيث يبقى يبكي كثير ...ا ولا يقبل أللباء ألقليل ألذي هو بداية حليب ألأم قبل نزول حليب ألأم بغزارة .. ألذي يعطي ألرضيع ألمناعة و ألغذاء ,ألحنان وألأمومة
....... راضعي حليب ألبقر .. أمراض خطيرة مع ألزمن . ذهاب ألى ألمستشفبات أكثر , يستفذون طاقة ووقت ألوالدين ألى درجة كبيرة كبيرة جدا مقارنة بالرضاعة من حليب ألأم
و ألتي تعني .. صخة أفضل , زيارات أقل للمستشفيات و الأطباء و راحة وهدوء و حياة هنيه للوالدين
مريضة ألسرطان ترضع مريضة ألأيدز ترضع
ألميضة على فراش ألموت ترضع
ألبنات ألبالغات ولم يتزوجون يرضعون
ألجدات يرضعون
متبنايت ألأطفال يرضعون
كل ألنساء يرضعون

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BreastFeeding - رضاعة

Bad Marriages Take Health Toll on Women

DREAMMAKER777 — Sat, 02 May 2009 09:40:34 UT

Study Shows Marital Discord Hurts Women's Physical Health More Than Men's
March 4, 2009 -- Women in tense, strained marriages are more likely than men to suffer from mental problems like depression, but also dangerous physiological conditions, such as high blood pressure and obesity, a new study shows.
Strained marriages also cause depression in men, says study researcher Nancy Henry of the University of Utah.
But she says that men in such relationships, unlike women, aren't at increased risk of developing the physiological conditions of metabolic syndrome. Aside from having excess belly fat and elevated blood pressure, other characteristics of metabolic syndrome include elevated triglycerides, elevated blood sugar, and low levels of HDL "good" cholesterol.
If you have at least three of the five characteristics, you qualify as having metabolic syndrome, which is known to increase risk of heart disease, stroke, and diabetes.
For the study, Henry and her colleagues recruited 276 couples married an average of two decades, in which men and women were between 40 and 70 years old. Participants filled out questionnaires that covered positives, such as emotional warmth and mutual support; and areas of tension, such as frequency of arguments and extent of disagreements over issues like sex, kids, and money.
Participants also had medical screening that included blood tests and measurements of blood pressure and waist circumference.
The researchers found:
Women reporting more marital strain were more likely to report depressive symptoms.
Women with marital strain had more metabolic syndrome symptoms.
Men in bad marriages reported depressive symptoms unrelated to any signs of metabolic syndrome.
Why Bad Marriages May Affect Women's Health
"Women seem to be more relationship oriented," says Henry, a doctoral student at the University of Utah who also works at the Veteran Affairs Salt Lake City Medical Center. "We know by research that women tend to base their self-concept on relationships, how they are doing, how things are going for them. And we think that's the reason we've shown that negative relationship issues seem to take a greater toll on women emotionally and physically."
Tim Smith, PhD, a professor of psychology at the University of Utah, tells that although bad marriages can contribute to depression in men, the physiological problems seem to show up only in women.
"It's not like men were not troubled in our study. But the results were clear that women in this situation were more likely to gain weight. Stress hormones facilitate depositing of intra-abdominal fat, so the stress might make them heavier, and also raise cholesterol," he says.
A large body of research shows that divorce is associated with coronary calcification in both men and women, but "in our data, it's clear that the association of stress and heart health is stronger in women," Smith says.
Viola Vaccarino, MD, PhD, director of the cardiovascular outcomes program at Emory University in Atlanta, tells that it's just as likely that metabolic syndrome difficulties cause depression, rather than the other way around.
"We can clearly say that people with depression are more likely to have a metabolic syndrome, and vice versa," she says. "People with depression may be more likely to develop metabolic syndrome due to lack of physical activity, or inability to choose a healthy diet. But this is the first time I have seen this gender difference, that depression can affect women more than men."
Henry and Smith are to present the study March 5 at the American Psychosomatic Society's annual meeting in Chicago

Are Bad Marriages More Stressful for Women?
Henry says the gender difference they found is important because heart disease is the biggest killer of women, as well as men, and "we are still learning a lot about how relationship factors and emotional distress are related to heart disease."
Smith, who is heading a larger University of Utah study on the role of marriage quality in heart disease, says it's too soon to conclude that stress may make women more vulnerable to physical problems than men, but that's what this latest research suggests.
However, he adds, "it's a little premature to say they would lower their risk of heart disease if they improved the tone and quality of their marriages, or dumped their husbands."
Other studies, he says, are trying to determine whether improving marriage might boost the health of marital partners.

Bad Marriages Take Health Toll on Women

- LiVing LiFe Let it be YOU-.عيش حياتك

DREAMMAKER777 — Fri, 01 May 2009 07:06:16 UT

When One door of happiness Closes, another Opens but OFten We
Look so Long at the Closed door that We don't See the One which has
been Opened for us.
the happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of
everything; they just make best of the most of everything that comes along
their way

don't go for Looks' it can deceive; don't go for Wealth - even
that Fades away. go for Someone who Makes you Smile because' Only a
Smile makes a dark day seem bright. hope you find that person.

the brightest future will always be based on a forgotten
past, you can't go on well in life until you let go of your past
failures

You cant make footprints in the sands of time by sitting on your butt.
And who wants to leave buttprints in the sand of time !!!

---------- Keep a very Firm grasp on Reality, so You Can Strangle it at any Time -----

------- Great Things , great Love and great Achievements involve great Risk -------

---------- Life is like a Mirror, if you Frown at it, it Frowns back; if you Smile, it returns the greeting --------

----- In light, Everything will Follow U. In dark,
even Your Own Shadow
will not Follow U ... This is Life

___ always put yourself in other's shoes. if you feel that it hurts
you, it probably does hurt the person, too

----------------------(.. The only thing Lazy People do Fast is get Tired ..)-----------------------

___ it's better to lose a lover than to love a loser

----- Marry a man/woman You Love to Talk to. As you get Older
, their Conversational Skills will be as important as any other _______

-------------(..God made Relatives..... Thank God we Can Choose Our LoVer and ... Friends ..)------------
------ Don't judge People by their Relatives.Race, color and Country ... ____
-- Judge Them by their Actions and their Friends -----

--- LiFe Insurance: A contract that Keeps You Poor All Your LiFe So that You Can die Rich
.... is This ... The Kind OF LiFe To LiVe ...

----- LiVe PeacFully With YourseLF , beFore You ask Others To do So ---

---------- Never deprive Someone of Hope; it may be ALL they have ---------

------ If you are living on the edge, make sure you're wearing your seat belt.

----- You can't have everything --- where would you put it...!!!

--------- IF we don't Control Our Money, ... it will Control Us. ..!!!

------- Learn from other people's Mistakes,......
LiFe isn't Long enough to make them ALL YourseLF ----
------------------- .. When you Lose,,, don't Lose the Lesson... ------------

--------- Everyone has a photographic Memory... Some don't have Film_______

----( .. ------ Minds, like Parachutes, only Function when they are Open___ ...)-----

------------- Silence is the Only Thing that can't be Misquoted!

--------------------- One thing you can give and still keep is your word --------

_______ Spend Time With Yourself , ... Nobody Can do it For YOU

-------(.. More doors are opened with 'please' than with keys .. )------

------- Three R's = Respect for Self; Respect for Others; and Responsibility for ALL Your Actions --------

___ Never hold something in your Arms that you could NOT hold in your Heart

---------------------- Goodness is the Only investment that never Fails ---------------------
_________ Be Positive ,Even Negative Things has A Positive Side __________

------ There are people Who Speak to Us
and we do not Listen to Them,
There are people Who Hurt Us
and they do not Leave a Scar,
but..there are people Who simply Appear in our life
and they Mark us Forever."

____

------Time is very Slow for those Who Wait,
very Fast for those Who are Scared,
very Long for those Who Lament,
very Short for those Who Celebrate,
but..for those Who LoVe, Time is Eternity."

--------

Let it be YOU ..
We all have one life to live, so lets us live it to be best, as it were our last day. At the end, I wish for a life of health , wealth and happiness a life in which we give to ourselves ... the gift of patience ............ , the virtue of reason, the value of knowledge, and the influence of faith in our own ability to dream about and to achieve worthy rewards...........
" Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are, and your reputation is merely what others think you are ... !!! ... DREAMMAKER777 ...
------------

If you born Poor
It"s not Your Mistake,
But iF You die Poor
It"s Your ... Mistake
-----------

In a day , when you don't come acroos any problems
- you can be sure that you r traveling in a wrong path
-----------

Three sentences for getting SUCCESS
- know more than other
- Work more than other
- Expect less than other
----------

If you win you need not explain .....
But if you lose you should not be there to explain
------------

Don't compare your self with anyone in this world. if you do so,
you are insulting yourself
----------

If we can't love the person whom we see ,
how we can we love god,
whom we cannot see ?
----------

Winning doesn't always mean being first ,
winning means you're doing better than you've done before
----------

I will not say i failed 1000 times , I will say that I discovered there
are 1000 ways that can cause failure
--------

Everyone thinks of changing the world,
but no one thinks of changing himself.....
--------

Believing everybody is dangerous;
believing nobody is very dangerous
----------

If someone feels that they had never made a mistake in their life,
then it means they had never tried a new thing in their life
---------

Never break four things in your life -
Trust,Promise , Relation & Heart because
when they break they don't make nosie but pains a lot ?
-------

If you start judging people you will be having no time to love ...
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The greatest thought : GOD
The greatest puzzle : LIFE
The greatest mystery : DEATH
The greatest blessing : GOOD HEALTH
The greatest sin : FEAR
The greatest mistake :GIVING UP
The greatest law of nature : CAUSE AND EFFECT
The greatest need : COMMON SENSE
The greatest joy : BEING NEEDED
The greatest victory : VICTORY OVER YOURSELF
The greatest opportunity : THE NEXT ONE
The greatest comfort : THE KNOWLEDGE THAT YOU HAVE DONE YOUR WORK WELL
The greatest gamble : SUBSTITUTING HOPE FOR FACT
The greatest handicap : EGOTISM
The greatest loss : LOSS OF SELF-CONFIDENCE
The greatest bore : ONE WHO KEEPS TALKING AFTER HE HAS MADE HIS POINT
The greatest invention of the devil : WAR
The greatest secret of production : SAVING WASTE
The greatest waste : ALL THE TALENT AND ABILITY THAT MOST OF US HAVE BUT
NEVER QUITE GET AROUND TO USING

The greatest thing, bar none, in the whole world: LOVE, LOVE FOR FAMILY, HOME,
FRIENDS, NEIGHBOURS.. . AND FOR THE LAND IN WHICH WE ENJOY OUR FREEDOM
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A small truth to make our Life
100% successful....

(if)
A = 1
B = 2
C = 3
D = 4
E = 5
F = 6
G = 7
H = 8
I = 9
J = 10
K = 11
L = 12
M = 13
N = 14
O = 15
P = 16
Q = 17
R = 18
S = 19
T = 20
U = 21
V = 22
W = 23
X = 24
Y = 25
Z = 26
---------------------- Then
H = 8
A = 1
R = 18
D = 4
W = 23
O = 15
R = 18
K = 11

= Makes 98%
______

K = 11
N = 14
O = 15
W = 23
L = 12
E = 5
D = 4
G = 7
E = 5

= Makes 96%
_____

L = 12
O = 15
V = 22
E = 5

= Makes 54%
_____

L = 12
U = 21
C = 3
K = 11

= Makes 47%

____________ (None of them makes 100%)

Then what makes 100%??

Is it Money? ..... NO

Leadership? ..... NO

Every problem has a solution,
only if we perhaps change our "ATTITUDE".

It is OUR ATTITUDE towards
Life and Work that makes
OUR Life 100% Successful..

A = 1
T = 20
T = 20
I = 9
T = 20
U = 21
D = 4
E = 5
======== ___ Makes 100%

........ Live the LiFe that You LoVe
------------- LoVe the LiFe You LiVe
'' Live LiFe to its Fullest .... Appreciate LiFe''----
---------- حب البشر دون أحترام يعني .. أعتبار هم حيوانات مفضله. ......
..........وأطعامهم دون حب يعني معاملتهم كحيوانات حقيره ---------

----------- السهم يغرز بالجسد ولكن الأهانه تخترق الروح -----
------ بين جميع المشاعر يبقى الألم مربي الأنسان الأكبر _____
---------- أن تكون أنسانا أمر سهل أما أن تكون رجل فهذا صعب ----------

..... في معظم الأحيان يضيع الحاضر بين ذكريات الماضي و أحلام المستقبل ... فنعيش حاضرنا تائهين بين رؤية بعيدة و ذكرى أبعد ----
____ يجب أن تعلم أن الإنسان الأغنى ليس من يملك الأكثر، بل هو من يحتاج الأقل ______

_____ يجب أن تعلم أن شخصين يمكن أن ينظرا إلى نفس الشيء و يَرَيَانِه بشكلٍ مختلف '

_____ يجب أن تعلم أن هناك أشخاص يحبونك جداً ولكنهم لم يتعلموا كيف يظهروا أو يعبروا عن شعورهم
_____ يجب أن تتعلم ألاّ تقارن نفسك مع الآخرين

_____ يجب أن تعلّم أنك لا تستطيع جَعل أحدٍ يحبك ،كل ما تستطيع فعله هو جَعل نفسك محبوبا '

_____ يجب أن تعلم أنك قد تسبب جروحاً عميقةً لمن تحب في بضع دقائق فقط، لكن قد تحتاج لمداواتهم سنوات ٍطويلة

____ يجب أن تعلم أنه لا يكفي أن يسامح أحدهم الآخر، لكن عليهم أن يسامحوا أنفسهم كذلك
_____يجب أن تتعلم التسامح و تجرّب الغفران
جرح اللسان أقسى من جرح الأبدان <><><>
*** " الأصدقاء جواهر نادرة فاحرص على بقائها براقة ولا تخدشها ~ ،،،،، ّ فيخفت بريقها

_____البشر) _______________ يملّون من الطفولة ، يسارعون ليكبروا ، ثم يتوقون ليعودوا أطفالاً ثانية )

________ يضيّعون صحتهم ليجمعوا المال ،ثم يصرفون المال ليستعيدوا الصحة ***

____ يفكرون بالمستقبل بقلق ، وينسَون الحاضر، فلا يعيشون الحاضر ولا المستقبل

____ يعيشون كما لو أنهم لن يموتوا أبداً ، و يموتون كما لو أنهم لم يعيشوا أبداً

__ الأمس هو شيك تم سحبه ، والغد هو شيك مؤجل ،
الحاضر هو السيولة الوحيدة المتوفرة

---------------- الإيجابي يفكر في الحل‎
والسلبي يفكر في المشكلة

__ الإيجابي لا تنضب أفكاره‎
والسلبي لا تنضب أعذاره

الإيجابي يهتم بإيجابيات الآخرين ومزاياهم‎

والسلبي تشغله عيوب الناس وسلبياتهم

--- الإيجابي يتذكر ويحفظ للأخريين أعمالهم الطيبة
والسلبي يتذكر ويحفظ للآخرين إسآئاتهم فقط
الإيجابي يعطي للآخرين أعذارهم عند حصول خطأ
منهم ويسامحهم ولا يلومهم
والسلبي يعتقد أنهم أساءوا عمداً وبنية سيئة ويحقد عليهم

........ الإيجابي يسارع للاعتذار للآخرين عند حصول خطأ منه ..... <

والسلبي يتأخر في الاعتذار وقد لا يعتذر اعتقاداً منه أن في ذلك تنقيصا من شخصيته

الإيجابي دائم الابتسامة
والسلبي دائم العبوس

الإيجابي يساعد الآخرين‎
والسلبي يتوقع المساعدة من الآخرين

--- الإيجابي يرى حل لكل مشكلة‎
والسلبي يرى مشكلة في كل حل

___ الإيجابي الحل صعب لكنة ممكن‎
والسلبي الحل ممكن لكنة صعب

---- الفاشلين من يفكر دون تنفيذ ، و من ينفذ دون تفكير

----- الإيجابي يعتبر الإنجاز التزاما يلبيه‎ .
والسلبي لا يرى في الإنجاز أكثر من وعد يعطيه

الإيجابي لديه أحلام يحققها
والسلبي لديه أوهام وأضغاث أحلام يبددها
النجاح لا يحتوي على كلمتي "إذا" و “لكن

الإيجابي عامل الناس كما تحب أن يعاملوك

والسلبي يرى في العمل ألم

الإيجابي ينظر إلى المستقبل ويتطلع إلى ما هو ممكن‎
والسلبي ينظر إلى الماضي ويتطلع إلى ما هو مستحيل

الإيجابي يختار ما يقول‎
........
والسلبي يقول ما يختار

الإيجابي يناقش بقوة وبلغة لطيفة ‎

والسلبي يناقش بضعف وبلغة فظة

الإيجابي يتمسك بالقيم ويتنازل عن الصغائر‎
والسلبي يتشبث بالصغائر ويتنازل عن القيم

الإيجابي يصنع الأحداث
..........
والسلبي تصنعه الأحداث
-------------
..- - - - - الإيجابي ينظر للدنيا بمنظار ابيض ---- .والسلبي ينظر للدنيا بمنظار اسود

ليس خطأك ان تولد فقيرا, ولكنه خطأك ان تموت فقيرا )كله بمشيئة الله
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في اليوم الذي لا تواجه فيه أية مشاكل, تأكد أنك في الطريق الغير صحيح
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ثلاثة عبارات للحصول لتحقيق النجاح:

1- كن أعلم من غيرك

2- أعمل أكثر من الآخرين

3- توقع أقل مما يحصل عليه الآخرون
----------

اذا حققت النصر فليس مطلوبا منك أن تبرر ذلك

ولكنك ان هزمت فمن الافضل ان لا تكون موجودا لتبرر ذلك
---------

لا تقارن نفسك مع أي شخص في العالم, ان فعلت ذلك فانك تهين نفسك
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الفوز لا يعني دائما أنك الأول, ولكنه يعني أنك أفضل من قبل
-------

لن أقول اني فشلت 1000 مره,

ولكني اكتشفت ان هناك 1000 طريقة تؤدي الى الفشل
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الجميع يفكر في تغيير العالم, ولكن لا أحد يفكر في تغيير نفسه
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أن تعتقد ان الجميع خطرين, يعني أنهم غير خطيرين جدا
---------
اذا أحس أحد انه لم يخطأ ابدا في حياته, فهذا يعني أنه لم يجرب أي جديد في حياته
--------

4 أشياء في حياتك لا تفعلها

فقد الثقة ونكث الوعد وتحطيم العلاقات وكسر القلب

لأنها لا تحدث صوتا ولكنها تحدث الكثير من الألم
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اذا بدأت بتقييم الناس, فانك لن تجد الوقت لتحبهم

_____ من يبني آماله على الأوهام يجدها تتحقق بالأحلام
لا نحقق الأعمال بالتمنيات وأنما بالأراده نصنع المعجزات
غير اتجاهك أوانطباعك أو وجهة نظرك
؛ انظر إلى الهزيمة على أنها نصر،
وإلى المحنة على أنها منحة،
وابحث عما في الانتصارمن خلل وتقصيروسلبيات،

__ إذا حصل لك شيء ما غير جيد فكر فى الأشياء الإيجابية التي تعلمتها
وإذا حدث لك انتصار كبير فكر فى الأشياء السلبية التي حدثت حتى لا تتكررمرة أخرى.

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---------- ونصادف مشاعر بين صادق وخوّان -----------

-------------- وناس احلى من ورود الاغصان .. وكل ٍ يروح وتطويه جرة النسيان ----------

------------- """ ومايبقى غير ذكر "" -----------

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Stuff in Your House Hurting Your LoVe Life

DREAMMAKER777 — Thu, 30 Apr 2009 13:49:18 UT

Stuff in Your House Hurting Your Sex Life
Your body absorbs them through the skin and soft tissue membranes of the eyes, nose, mouth, throat, and lungs. Manufacturers use these chemicals in literally thousands of plastic products because they make it clear, soft, and durable.

Two of the worst pthalates (pronounced "thall–ates" and bisphenol-A are hormone-like chemicals called "endocrine disruptors." For instance, they can fool your body into thinking they're estrogen, the female hormone.

They can cause severe and irreversible physical deformities in animal studies, especially in the developing reproductive systems of young males.1 Some of these included undescended testes, malformed or undeveloped genitals or prostate glands, reduced sperm counts, and even permanent damage to the nervous system.

These things spell trouble… Not just for kids, but for your sex life too.

What To Look For In Your Home
So what should you look out for? This is an easy answer.

Since World War II, manufacturers and chemical companies have introduced about 72,000 new chemicals into everything from carpets and cleaners to medical equipment. Less than 2% of them have been studied for potential health problems.

It takes time to figure out how dangerous these chemicals are. And there are no incentives for companies to do that. Studies show that we're now at a point where the average home contains 62 toxic chemicals.

Here's a shortlist of some of the most dangerous household chemicals my Wellness Research Foundation has identified over the years. They're in more places than you'd think: your kitchen, your living room, your bathroom, your bedroom, and your children's playroom.

Chemical Products Found Health Hazard
Poly-brominated flame retardants Pajamas, furniture, crib linings, bedding, carpeting, consumer electronic Cancer
Perfluorinated chemicals Water and stain repellents, non-stick cookware Liver, thyroid, and nerve damage
Bisphenol A Water bottles, plastic food containers and food packaging, baby bottles, dental fillings Prostate cancer, birth defects, reproductive abnormalities, brain damage
Pthalates Toys, rattlers, teethers, car interiors, medical devices such as tubing, catheters, intravenous bags Infertility, sterility, genital defects, reproductive cancers
Lindane Pesticides Breast and other cancers
Limonene, pinene Perfumes, cosmetics, lotions, soaps and other scented products Cancer
Perchloroethylene Dry cleaning Cancer
Formaldehyde Home insulation Cancer
Glyphosphate Pesticide found in many foods Organ damage, sore throat, intestinal bleeding

Even Babies Found to Carry Toxins
The presence of so many chemicals in nearly everything in our lives has led to a new science called "bio-monitoring." What it means is simple: we're trying to figure out which chemicals the body absorbs, and what effects they might have on health.

So far, the news isn't good. One group of government experts estimated that the average American is carrying around 700 chemicals in their bodies.2 The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention screened 2,500 Americans for 148 different toxic chemicals. They found amounts of all of them in the bloodstreams of everyone tested.

Even newborn infants are loaded with trace amounts of these poisonous substances. The CDC found an average of over 200 chemicals in the tissue of newborns, including flame retardants, pesticides, and the chemical perfluorooctanoic acid (PFOA) a cancer-causing agent used in non-stick cookware.

Many of these enviro-toxins cause cancer. Others have been linked to Parkinson's and Alzheimer's Disease. If you suffer from unexplained symptoms like chronic asthma, coughing fits, nose bleeds, or even flu-like symptoms, there may be a connection to these "everywhere chemicals."

Because so many of them penetrate the skin and the soft tissues of your body, it's hard to keep track of which one might be causing a particular health problem. It'll be years before we have all the information, simply because of the sheer number of "everywhere chemicals" out there.

I've always known that the rising rates of prostate cancer in this country are at least in part caused by these "endocrine disruptors" driving down testosterone and causing prostate cells to grow.

Ten Steps to Take Right Now
You have to do your best with the information we currently have. Here are 10 things you can do right now to help protect yourself and your family:

Use only stainless steel, glass, or cast iron in the kitchen. Avoid plastic cooking utensils and all "non-stick" cookware.
Never store food in plastic containers. Remove plastic wrapping from foods immediately.
Buy toys made of natural materials – wood is best.
Don't let your child chew on plastic teethers, rattles,
or pacifiers. Buy glass baby bottles and use them with care rather than risk exposing your children to plastic.
Look for clothing, bedding, carpeting and furnishings made from unprocessed, natural fibers whenever possible. Don't use stain-repellents like "Scotch Guard."
Choose cleaning products that specifically use natural ingredients only. Many health food stores carry them these days. Or you can buy them on line.
Avoid bleached paper products – these contain chlorine, a noxious chemical that irritates the eyes and lungs.
Buy a water filter. Most municipal water systems have
toxic substances, including chlorine, which has also been linked to colon cancer.
Go organic. There are fewer pesticides in organic foods. If that's not an option, wash produce thoroughly or remove the skins. And with meat, trim the fat off. That's where a lot of enviro-toxins are stored.
Purify the air in your home with plants. They absorb a lot of potentially poisonous gases and replace them with oxygen.
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1. Moore et al. "Abnormalities of sexual development in male rats with in utero and lactational exposure to the antiandrogenic plasticizer Di(2-ethylhexyl) phthalate." Environmental Health Perspectives, 2001. 109(3): 229–237.
2. Onstot J, Ayling R, Stanley J. "Characterization of HRGC/MS Unidentified Peaks from the Analysis of Human Adipose Tissue." Volume 1: Technical Approach. Washington, DC: U.S. Environmental Protection Agency Office of Toxic Substances (560/6-87-002a), 1987.

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..In Relationship How to deal with Anger !!!

DREAMMAKER777 — Wed, 29 Apr 2009 14:47:53 UT

Options to deal with anger:
- Write it out: Work through your anger by keeping a journal or
by writing letters BUT don"t mail them. It"s a way of putting down
what you think and feel and standing back and looking at what you
have written.

- Shout it out: Wind up the windows in your car or put your head
in a pillow, and scream. It helps to get rid of the negative energy in y
our body.

- Talk it out: Instead of directing your anger at your ex, talk to
a friend or seek help with a professional who specialises in anger
management.

Take responsibility for your part of the relationship break-up: It"s rare that only one partner is solely at fault. Recognising what makes you angry can help to fi nd the triggers and old patterns so that you can take steps to stop repeating them. Think about the important issues: Talking about every little irritation provokes resentment: let go of the small stuff.

Over the years, I’ve had a number of baby boomer clients (and friends) go through the process of getting back into the dating game after a long layoff. The layoff usually occurs after a divorce or other breakup and seems to average about 7 years in length, although I’ve had some clients with layoffs off 20 years or more! But then something happens, and the individual in question starts craving romance, companionship, intimacy, and relationship. The process of finding someone with whom one can meet needs for intimacy and connection after a long period of singlehood seems to be similar from person to person and so I thought I’d share a few thoughts on how the process usually seems to go and how it relates to astrology. So below are 4 not-so-easy steps to finding love after a layoff.

Step 1: Wake-up Attraction/Starter Transit. The first thing that usually seems to kick off the process of getting back into a relationship is, quite frankly, a failed attraction. Suddenly, Mr. or Ms. Single For a Long Time And Not Really Complaining About It, develops a crush on someone. He or she meets someone through work, connects while traveling, runs into an old flame, or develops a yen for a new neighbor.

This attraction very often coincides with a square between Neptune and the Moon or Venus, or a transit of Uranus to the Moon, Venus or Neptune. Every once in awhile, the attraction will coincide with a secondary progression or some other indicator instead. Sometimes, a transit to the 5th house of love affairs will be the indicator, including transits to Chiron in that house. Whatever the transit may be, it comes with an expiration date, an obstacle, a delusion, or some element of futility. Whoever it is that the person has a crush on–it just won’t work. The person is unavailable, doesn’t reciprocate the feelings, is soon to move out of town or something else equally heartbreaking.

But that doesn’t mean this step/transit is irrelevant or negative. Just the opposite. It’s crucial. It wakes up the individual’s capacity to love, stirs up hormones, revives hopes, awakens the heart, tugs at sensual memories and makes the person realize why love and relationships are such good and desirable things. It makes the person want to establish an exclusive romantic commitment again. These transits are gifts.

Step 2: Grieving/Clearing. The failed attraction then sets off a period of doubt and self-questioning, loneliness and difficult feelings. Starter transits with Neptune are often followed by Saturn transits or even Pluto transits to the Moon or Venus or planets in the 5th house. These heavy planets in square, opposition or conjunction to the feeling-oriented planets like the moon or Venus stir up all kinds of uncomfortable but incredibly valuable emotions and memories. The person, consciously or not, grieves the lack of relationship in his or her life.

Furthermore, the person often questions the relationship patterns they’ve exhibited thus far. Negative assumptions get dragged up and pushed toward the light. "I’m too old and fat now;" "It’s always been so hard for me to meet people," "sometimes I think like there is something really wrong with me," "I have a great personality but men never seem to go for me." It is during this part of the process–the questioning, lonely, sometimes semi-despairing part that people most often seem to rouse themselves to seek help, formal or informal.

This is time when I most often hear from clients; Saturn square Moon for example can push even tough-minded folks to ask for a bit of assistance. Other people don’t think to talk to an astrologer but they mention their renewed desire for a partner to friends or bemoan the lack of companionship in their lives out loud. The hitherto sleeping powers of desire begin to really stir at this stage.

Again, although these transits are considered "difficult," they are crucial, as is this portion of the process. This is the time when fallacies and fears are confronted and laid to rest; old wounds are grieved and cleared. It is possible during this portion of the process to discover an almost entirely new way of and capacity for relating. Difficult transits to the personal planets can help you learn to stop telling yourself that you are fat and unattractive or that there’s something wrong with you–because you experience with such emotional vividness exactly how much these ideas do not serve you.

People often seem to think that they are the only ones who harbor these doubts and fears when in practice they seem to be nearly universal. Perhaps they are just part of the human condition. At any rate, as long as these thoughts remain below the surface they block relationship; the often painful process of becoming aware of them is the beginning of a liberation.

Step 3: Taking Action/Becoming a Butterfly. The third step of the process involves taking the motivation that the previous difficult transit provided (and nothing motivates like emotional pain) and doing something with it. For women at least, a key part of the taking action process seems to be reconnecting with girly desires to be attractive and beautiful. A new haircut, a new haircolor, new shoes, new underwear, a nice dress, a pretty piece of jewelry. I often see helpful transits or progressions to Venus after a difficult transit in people who are undergoing this process. Venus signifies both love and beauty, and a helpful sextile, trine or conjunction often indicates that the person’s chart (and the person herself) is ready and williing to attract someone again. I also see helpful transits to Mars for both men and women in many cases.

At any rate, reconnecting with a desire for physical attractiveness and taking action on it seem to be important for many people. Taking action on this desire (e.g., by going to gym to get in better shape) often seems to begin a snowball process of other actions that lead to more opportunities to meet and/or date people. The person, consciously or not, responds to a desire to get out more. He or she joins an online community, takes an adult education class, signs up for a sports league, takes a vacation with a group. The person switches up his or her routine and in the process starts emitting a "vibe" that indicates he or she is open to connecting with someone new.

Step 4: It Always Happens When You Least Expect It. The process of becoming a butterfly, getting in shape or more attractive, doing things to have more fun often opens the door to a new relationship but strangely enough it doesn’t usually seem to seal the deal. What usually happens instead, and it is almost eerie to me how frequently it does happen, is that the person gets hit by another hairy, unrelated transit. Pluto opposes Uranus and the person finds himself in a protracted struggle with the IRS. A business partner absconds with a bunch of money. The family home has to be sold and the adult siblings are bitterly squabbling. Whatever it is, it’s unexpected, distracting and rather emotionally upsetting. The person no longer has the time or energy to obsess over finding a partner or mate because the person has his or her hands full. The self-consciousness that once dogged the person’s mind as she contemplated navigating the intricacies of a new relationship has gone by the wayside under the pressure of circumstances.

It’s right around then, that bam! the last hurdle to a relationship is cleared. Somehow you’re spending a lot of time at the law firm that’s handling your IRS case and somehow it seems natural that you should end up going to dinner with one of the lawyers from another division and somehow it seems natural that you really like each other a lot and…

And so it goes. It happens, as the saying goes, when you least expect it. Except that I’ve come to expect it by now. I half think the universe itself has a plan for each and every one of us that cares to take advantage of it. Someone calls in the midst of their Pluto square Venus transit, tells me about the heartache of their Neptune opposition Moon transit, and I say to myself "that’s great!" I check their upcoming transits for a little bit of help and something traditionally considered ugly (e.g., Pluto square Saturn) and think to myself "even better!" Because I know the person is on the road, if they choose to travel it, to finding a special someone in the not too distant future.

That puts me in the paradoxical position of telling people that everything that seems bad is actually quite good–but I’ve learned that’s often the way the universe does things. I went through this process; my boyfriend went through this process; my friends have gone through this process and myclientshavegonethroughthisprocess.AndI’ll bet that one day, some of you who are reading this will go through it too.Divorcecan beadevastating ordeal,andrecoveringfromdivorcecanbeadifficult, treacherous road. Sometimes people don’t recover at all. Others, although appearing to be past their divorce, still carry the pain of the breakup and the fear of getting close to a partner again.

A breakup of a non marital relationship can be just as devastating as a divorce. The pain can be intense even if the relationship did not last a long time.

Below are 10 ways to help you recover from a divorce or breakup, get your life back on track, and guarantee a bright relationship future for yourself. These steps will show you how to heal deeply and re-create your life and your relationships to be far more fulfilling then before the breakup.

1. Grieve deeply and completely.

Many times people are terrified of their dark feelings, such as sadness, depression, anger, etc. The intensity of these feelings can seem strong enough to take hold of your soul completely. But you need to know that although these feelings are indeed strong, they will not last forever. Nor will feeling these feelings in some way damage you or destroy you. You will feel better once you allow yourself to feel.

On the other hand, if you do not feel the dark feelings arising in you as a result of the breakup, they will last forever and will deeply affect your life and future relationships.

Go ahead and feel your feelings. Feel the anger, the sadness, the betrayal, the confusion. Avoid going into your head and obsessing instead of feeling. Avoid overeating or using other addictions to escape your feelings.

This is your dark night of the soul, the time to dip into your feelings. Feel your feelings now, and you will be free to move on with your life post-divorce or post-breakup.

2. Grieve for the future of your marriage/relationship, which now will never be.

When people come together in a commitment, many dreams and hopes are created. These are not simple to let go of, because we use dreams and hopes to guide us to our future. Look into what dreams and hopes you had created for your relationship. Then separately grieve for each one.

Know that your dreams and hopes are not dead. You will re-create them again with someone else, or even alone.

3. Spend time with people who will listen to your feelings with love and acceptance.

When recovering from breakup or any devastating loss, it is critical for you to be allowed to speak your mind as much and as often as you need to. Many people are not comfortable listening to others’ dark emotions.

Listening to someone else’s anger, fear, or grief often makes us afraid that their emotions will overtake us. This is why seemingly loving, caring people often try to “fix” us when we share our painful feelings. It is important that you are not interrupted or given advice – sharing your feelings is how you will heal.

4. Understand what happened in your relationship/marriage.

In order for you to be able to come to terms with the breakup and to move onto creating a wonderful life, you need to understand what happened. This is the part of your journey in which you will have to be extremely honest with yourself. It will do you no good to blame your ex or yourself. You need to clearly understand the dynamic you and your partner created together. You need to clearly trace the events that led to the animosity or the cooling off in the relationship.

You will have to find your part in what happened to the marriage or the relationship. You will have to look back and recognize the signs that your relationship was headed for trouble. You will have to look back and look for critical decision points for both you and your partner, at which another road could have been taken that might have led to a different outcome.

This introspection is not for the purpose of blaming yourself. It is for the purpose of returning your power to you. You are not a victim, and seeing yourself as such will only cause you more pain. When you see how you contributed to the demise of your relationship, you will begin to heal from the current breakup and gain insight that will save your next relationship.

5. Understand why you chose your former partner.

People choose relationships for many different reasons and call it being “in love.” But what many consider to be love has nothing to do with love at all. Here are few of the reasons people choose each other:

Deep need to be wanted, or wanting someone to make you feel good, loved, adored, etc.
Lifelong struggle to meet someone like his/her parents and save them or change them so as to heal childhood pain
Fear of being alone
Infatuation or chemistry, attraction
Security, support, etc.
Someone to have a family with
Wanting to stop feeling lonely
None of these reasons are bad in and of themselves; they are just not good enough reasons to end up in a relationship with someone. Why? Because they are not about connecting, having a relationship, they are about meeting your needs. When you choose partners out of need the relationship usually does not work out.

See if one of the primary reasons for getting into the relationship you are now in the middle of a break-up from is on this list. Which needs above, or other needs were you trying to get met?

If you can honestly examine and understand why you chose your partner, you will also start to build understanding to be able to choose differently the next time around.

6. Forgive your partner, forgive yourself.

Now it’s time to forgive. Understand that you and your ex-partner did the best both of you could. Understand that even when you were doing things to hurt each other, it was still the best you could do at the time. Perhaps the painful actions came out of self-defense or self-preservation.

Perhaps they came out of revenge for the pain you felt the other was inflicting. Forgiveness is a sure way to free yourself up to have a wonderful life in the future.

Do not expect forgiveness to come easily, and do not expect yourself to want to forgive. Forgiving your ex-partner is something you may have work on again and again. Forgiveness is an action you will need to take daily, or even many times a day. Think of your ex-partner and forgive, again and again.

7. Create distance between you and your ex- partner. Spend three to six months with no contact.

One thing that is so difficult about breakup is no longer having another person around, no longer having your best friend and confidant. It is difficult to let go of the everyday interactions and the friendship. And yet, if you are to heal well, you must sustain three to six months of no contact with your former partner (or as little contact as possible in case you have children together). This will give you the opportunity to grieve and work through your anger. It will also allow the relationship between you and your ex-partner to begin again (if at all) on a different footing.

The kind of contact you specifically want to avoid altogether is having your partner meet your needs or you meeting his or her needs. If you are to successfully heal and move on, your ex-partner must cease to be a source of need fulfillment for you.

Think twice about getting your ex to help you with anything or helping him or her. You may feel better temporarily, feel less lonely in knowing there are still feelings between you, but you will feel worse in the aftermath. You will feel the old pangs of attachment and the feelings of loneliness will redouble their strength.

8. Create a supportive community.

You need to be listened to. You need to know that you are wanted and loved. For these reasons, having a supportive community is critical to your recovery. A community can be a religious/spiritual group, an online community, or a group of friends you ask to support you. Make sure your community clearly knows you need support and how you need to be supported.

9. Resolve to learn everything about you and relationships.

If you are to create a better relationship in the future without repeating the same mistakes, you need to understand and examine yourself in regard to relationships. You need to know what you want in a relationship, what kind of partner would be best suited for you, what you absolutely need in order to feel satisfied, and what you absolutely will not accept.

You also need to look at your behavior in past relationships and start looking for what and how you need to change so that your next relationship can be happy, healthy and lifelong.

It is never a bad idea to set yourself on a course of relationship education. Relationship skills are not taught in school, and they very much should be. Given that you ended up losing your relationship to breakup or divorce, you most definitely could use more healthy relationship skills. Throw yourself into the study of relationship skills with determination to learn all there is to know, and you will reap the rich reward of an emotionally healthy you and later a healthy, loving relationship.

10. Take great care of yourself in the process.

Divorce or breakup recovery is a stressful, painful and life-changing process. When people are going through fundamental life changes, they must take care of themselves extremely well. A good rule of thumb is to treat yourself as if you have a cold – delegate or reduce your workload, eat well, exercise gently and get lots of rest. To nourish your spirit, add in extras like a massage, taking a creative class, doing activities that you consider fun, reading, going for walks, laughing, etc.

Although recovering from divorce or breakup is not easy, you can do it. Take it gently, one step at a time, but do move yourself forward. You will succeed and come out of the process healed and eventually be ready for a healthy relationship

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Pill Users Choose 'Wrong' LOVE Partners

DREAMMAKER777 — Sun, 26 Apr 2009 14:44:09 UT

Pill Users Choose 'Wrong' Sex Partners
Women on Birth Control Pill May Be Attracted to 'Wrong' Sex Partner
-- A woman is sexually attracted to men who smell like a good genetic match, but birth control pills make her desire the wrong men, a U.K. study shows.
Who is the right man? Studies suggest women are attracted to men whose genetic makeup differs from their own. Having a genetically different mate increases the chances for a healthy pregnancy and a healthy baby.
If this really happens in the real world, women on the pill would end up choosing a more genetically similar mate than she would otherwise choose and the implications go on from there study researcher S. Craig Roberts, PhD,
Roberts notes that in an earlier U.S. study, women who were genetically similar to their partners reported being less satisfied in their sexual relationship with their partner -- and were seeking more new sex partners -- than were women with genetically dissimilar partners.
Animal studies show that female mammals can smell out males whose MHC genes are different from their own. MHC genes affect important immune responses. By mating with males who have different MHC genes, females give their offspring a better disease-fighting repertoire.
It's true of humans, too. In laboratory studies, women who sniff men's sweaty T-shirts find them more attractive when they come from men whose MHC genes don't match theirs. It's not that certain MHC genes smell better to women -- it's the difference that counts.
Rachel Herz, PhD, author of The Scent of Desire and a faculty member at Brown University, says there is a real connection between body odor, MHC, and the mates a woman chooses.
My own research says the way a man smells to a woman is the main determinant of sexual attraction
In earlier T-shirt-sniffing studies, women taking birth control pills seemed to be attracted to the wrong men. Intrigued, Roberts and colleagues took a closer look.
They paid 37 women to smell men's T-shirts before and after going on the pill. Then they compared the women's before- and after-pill ratings of the odors to those of 60 women who did not use oral contraceptives.
The result: After taking the pill, women shifted toward preferring genetically similar men. Women who did not take the pill slightly increased their preference for genetically different men.
Why? Roberts notes that when they become pregnant, female animals switch to preferring the scent of genetically similar males. This may allow them to seek out males that will help them protect and raise the baby. Claus Wedekind, PhD, who performed the original T-shirt-sniffing studies, has suggested that birth control pills somehow mimic this process.
The question, of course, is what happens when a woman taking birth control pills marries a man to whom she's attracted -- and then stops taking the pill.

Herz says marriage counselors who have never heard about these studies tell her that the No. 1 complaint among women no longer sexually interested in their husbands is that they can no longer stand how he smells.
If you can't stand how someone smells, you cannot become intimate Herz says.
Does this mean the birth control pill is a divorce pill? Herz says it's not that simple.
A woman's response to a man's natural body odor will be colored by her feelings for him she says. So if you fell in love with a man online, it would be hard to be repelled by his smell
Roberts and colleagues report their findings in the Proceedings of the Royal Society B: Biological Sciences.

The Biology of Love: Your Brain in Love
More Clues than Ever about the Biology of LoVe -- Why We're Attracted, Why We FaLL so Hard, and What Makes Us Stay
Scientists peeking inside our brains and psyches have more clues than ever about the biology of love -- why we're attracted, why we fall so hard, and what makes us stay

analytical, driven, not very verbal, and not always compassionate.
She's gregarious, intuitive, whimsical, warm, and compassionate.

Before you say "not a chance," hear another view.

It's probably a good match, says Helen Fisher, PhD, a cultural anthropologist from Rutgers University and a leading researcher on love, attraction, and romance. One of her findings: Biology matters, and these two people's biology -- their chemical "profiles" -- may complement each other nicely.

In recent years, Fisher and a host of other researchers have been looking deep into our psyche and brains -- helped by high-tech imaging and genetic analysis. They've come up with some intriguing information about what makes us become attracted to someone, what underlies the crazy-in-love feeling, what's up with the transition from butterflies to a more comfortable relationship, and what keeps us attracted.

"It's all much less of a mystery than it was five years ago and certainly 30 years ago," says Arthur Aron, PhD, a professor of psychology at the State University of New York at Stony Brook and another top researcher in the field. The science of the biology of love is relatively new. Research picked up steam in the 1980s, Aron says, and since then experts have made multiple discoveries. Here's a sampling of their findings:

The Biology of Love: Biology Matters
When it comes to whom you are attracted to, "your biology plays a role,'' says Fisher, who wrote Why We Love and several other books. It's not only a similar socioeconomic status, level of education and family backgrounds that make people attractive to you, she says, but also hormones -- ones that differ from your own.

We're attracted, Fisher says, to those with a chemical "profile" for estrogen, testosterone, dopamine, and serotonin that's different from our own, yet complements it. For instance, she says, "If you tend to be high estrogen, you will gravitate to the high testosterone type.''

That explains why Mr. Analytical and Driven and Ms. Gregarious and Warm are a match. He's probably a ''high testosterone'' type, Fisher says, and she is probably a "high estrogen" type. "For good Darwinian reasons, they are very complementary," says Fisher. She can likely see many ways of doing things and become indecisive. To the rescue, the analytical man. Likewise, she might inspire more compassion in him.

The Biology of Love: Your Brain in Love
Love involves three basic brain circuits, according to Fisher. There's the sex drive, which motivates us to seek out partners; romantic love, the in-the-clouds feeling when you first fall in love; and the attachment phase, the comfortable-but-fewer-fireworks stage.

"The sex drive is a very simple drive," Fisher says. "It's simply the craving for sexual gratification, driven largely by testosterone in both men and women."

The Biology of Love: Your Brain in Love
The three brain systems, however, don't always come into play in any kind of order. They can kick in separately of be intertwined. Or they can trigger each other. For instance: you can have sex with someone but not fall in love, of course; you can be in love with someone with whom you've never had sex.

"Of these three systems, in many respects I think the most powerful one is intense romantic love," Fisher says. With Aron and others, Fisher has used functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRIs) to examine the brains of people in love and get clues about romantic love.

In one study, 17 people who were newly in love and asked to look at a photo of their beloved showed intense activity in two brain regions associated with reward and motivation -- called the ventral tegmental area and the right caudate nucleus. The findings led Fisher's team to suggest that the crazy-in-love feeling is more a motivation system than an emotion. The report was published in 2005 in The Journal of Comparative Neurology.

"Both the VTA and the caudate nucleus are part of the brain reward system," Fisher says. And the VTA, she says, is a "mother lode" for cells that make dopamine, a brain chemical important for controlling emotional response and the ability to feel pleasure and pain. As dopamine levels in the madly-in-love increase, she says, it accounts for focused attention on the new partner, motivation to get the reward -- and the lover's high.

In this romantic love phase, Fisher says, lovers are motivated to win each other over. Obsessive thinking is part and parcel.

"What we are seeing is activation in the same area as when you expect to receive a large reward," Aron says. It's the same area that "lights up" in cocaine users, he says, as they anticipate using the drug.

"What we think is what's going on when one falls in love is, one perceives incredible opportunities for one's life to be enriched," Aron says. "Perhaps the most important reward for most people is falling in love."

The Biology of Love: Smell Counts
Aside from biology and brain activity, body odor is important and help may dictate who we are attracted to and our romantic behavior. "It may be one of the first things that inspires us to say yes or no," says Charles Wysocki, PhD, a researcher at Monell Chemical Senses Center in Philadelphia.

Preference for human body odors is influenced by both gender and sexual orientation, Wysocki and his colleagues found in their research, published in 2005 in Psychological Science. When his study participants of different orientations and genders were asked to choose between distinct odors -- straight men, gay men, straight women, lesbian women -- each picked the odor of a partner of the preferred gender and orientation.

''A person's body odor is determined by anumber of factors," Wysocki says," and among them is a set of genes that regulate the immune system." This cluster of genes is called the major histocompatibility complex or MHC. "This MHC confers on an individual an odor print," says Wysocki, citing others' research. And experts have found that a person will seek out a partner with an MHC different than his or her own. "MHC is so variable, no two are alike," Wysocki says

The Biology of Love: The Script Counts
Once you're initially attracted to someone -- helped along by hormones, odor, or other unconscious factors -- what the other person does or doesn't do counts, too. "You become more attracted to people who are attracted to you," Fisher says.

For instance, one research participant told Aron: "I sort of liked this woman and she came over and sat by me." Things developed.

A woman told Aron she was talking to a friend about her piano instructor and the friend said, "You know he likes you." At that moment, the woman told Aron, she realized she had feelings for him, too.

"When people fall in love, that is the most common scenario," Aron says. "We are looking for the opportunity to love and be loved back."

The Biology of Love: From Butterflies to Comfortable
After people have been in love a while, the activity in the brain reward areas wanes, Fisher has found in further research. "As the relationship matures, it links in new brain areas associated with emotion," she says. "We aren't exactly sure what is going on, but everyone knows romantic love changes over time."

Still, she says, "chemistry" can persist. "We have started a new study, of those in long-term marriages," she says. Only five people have undergone the fMRI imaging so far, but it looks promising for those who yearn for long-term chemistry. "They still show activity in some brain regions associated with romantic love and also with some associated with attachment," Fisher says.

Two other hormones -- oxytocin and vasopressin -- may come into play once you are settling into a more comfortable relationship. At least it's true in small rodents called prairie voles, according to Sue Carter, PhD, a professor of psychiatry at the University of Illinois at Chicago, who has studied the monogamous animals for decades. Both hormones seem important in the animals' attachments to one other vole, she says.

Oxytocin, sometimes called the hormone of love, is plentiful in women in labor and in lactating women and is released by men and women during orgasm. Some human studies have suggested it plays a role in maintaining interpersonal relationships. Vasopressin is released by the pituitary gland.

In voles, at least, Carter says, the hormones seem to play a role in social bonding, and perhaps in reducing fear, making them feel less anxious. So that may play a role in the voles' decision to mate with just one other vole.

The Biology of Love: Making it Last
Avoiding boredom is crucial for the health of a relationship, In a study, he randomly assigned couples to participate in activities both considered highly exciting but moderately pleasant or highly pleasant but moderately exciting.

"The group who did highly exciting but only moderately pleasant activities had a much bigger increase in marital satisfaction," he says. The study was published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.

Meanwhile, another expert is tracking the long-term effect of picking a partner with a different major histocompatibility complex. Martie Haselton, PhD,apsychologist and researcher atthe University of California LosAngeles,isworkingtotracknewlyweds,noting the effect of different MHC patterns between partners.

"There is some evidence that fertility is higher in those with dissimilar MHC genes," says Haselton. And children who inherit different MHC genes from each parent are thought to have broader immunity, she says. She also wants to determine if picking someone with different MHC genes than your own bodes well for the relationship long term.

Women in a relationship with a man with very different MHC genes are more sexually responsive to that partner and less likely to be attracted to other men than are women who pair up with a guy with not-so-different MHC genes, says Haselton, citing a study by other researchers published in 2006 in Psychological Science. How that plays out long term will be Haselton's focus as she follows couples for five years or so.

The Biology of Love: What Part Chemistry?
So how much of a role does all this chemistry going on in our brains play in all this? "Chemistry isn't quantifiable," Fisher says. In the making of a relationship, she says, several variables come into play -- such as personality, which includes your character and your temperament. "Your character is formed by everything you grew up with," she says. "And your temperament is built by your biology. Together they create who you are."

So it's difficult to put a percent or a number on the role of chemistry in a relationship. And like some of us, it can be fickle. "One moment chemistry rules and the next moment your upbringing will rule," Fisher says. As in: "I'm madly in love with this guy." to "What I am thinking? He's a different religion."

One thing's for sure. There's much more to discover about the biology of love, guaranteeing that relationship scientists will have jobs for years to come.

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معنى السياسه .....؟

DREAMMAKER777 — Sat, 25 Apr 2009 19:50:44 UT

- سأل طفل والده : ما معنى السياسه .....؟
- فأجابه : لن أخبرك يا بني لانه صعب عليك في هذا السن ، لكن دعني أقرب لك الموضوع ، انا اصرف على البيت لذلك
فلنطلق علي اسم الرأسمالية …وامك تنظم شؤون البيت لذلك سنطلق عليها اسم الحكومة …وانت تحت تصرفها لذلك فسنطلق
عليك اسم الشعب …واخوك الصغير هو املنا فسنطلق عليه اسم المستقبل …اما الخادمة التي عندنا فهي تعيش من ورائنا
فسنطلق عليها اسم القوى الكادحة …
اذهب يا بني وفكر عساك تصل الى نتيجة .....

وفي الليل لم يستطع الطفل ان ينام .. فنهض من نومه قلقآ وسمع صوت أخيه الصغير يبكي فذهب اليه فوجده تبول في حفاضته..
فذهب ليخبر امه فوجدها غارقة في نوم عميق ولم تستيقظ ، وتعجب أن والده ليس نائما بجوارها .. فذهب باحثآ عن أبيه ..
فنظر من ثقب باب غرفة الخادمة فوجد أبوه معها

وفي اليوم التالي ،
قال الولد لابيه : لقد عرفت يا أبي معنى السياسه ..
فقال الوالد : وماذا عرفت ...؟ .. !

__ فقال الولد :
عندما تلهو الرأسمالية مع القوى الكادحة
تكون الحكومة نائمة في سبات عميق
فيصبح الشعب مهملاً تماماً
.... و يصبح المستقبل غارقا في القذارة

معنى السياسه .....؟

The Biology of Love: Your Brain in Love

DREAMMAKER777 — Sat, 25 Apr 2009 09:59:06 UT

Pill Users Choose 'Wrong' Sex Partners
Women on Birth Control Pill May Be Attracted to 'Wrong' Sex Partner
-- A woman is sexually attracted to men who smell like a good genetic match, but birth control pills make her desire the "wrong" men, a U.K. study shows.
Who is the right man? Studies suggest women are attracted to men whose genetic makeup differs from their own. Having a genetically different mate increases the chances for a healthy pregnancy and a healthy baby.
"If this really happens in the real world, women on the pill would end up choosing a more genetically similar mate than she would otherwise choose and the implications go on from there," study researcher S. Craig Roberts, PhD,
Roberts notes that in an earlier U.S. study, women who were genetically similar to their partners reported being less satisfied in their sexual relationship with their partner -- and were seeking more new sex partners -- than were women with genetically dissimilar partners.
Animal studies show that female mammals can smell out males whose MHC genes are different from their own. MHC genes affect important immune responses. By mating with males who have different MHC genes, females give their offspring a better disease-fighting repertoire.
It's true of humans, too. In laboratory studies, women who sniff men's sweaty T-shirts find them more attractive when they come from men whose MHC genes don't match theirs. It's not that certain MHC genes smell better to women -- it's the difference that counts.
Rachel Herz, PhD, author of The Scent of Desire and a faculty member at Brown University, says there is a real connection between body odor, MHC, and the mates a woman chooses.
"My own research says the way a man smells to a woman is the main determinant of sexual attraction,"
In earlier T-shirt-sniffing studies, women taking birth control pills seemed to be attracted to the "wrong" men. Intrigued, Roberts and colleagues took a closer look.
They paid 37 women to smell men's T-shirts before and after going on the pill. Then they compared the women's before- and after-pill ratings of the odors to those of 60 women who did not use oral contraceptives.
The result: After taking the pill, women shifted toward preferring genetically similar men. Women who did not take the pill slightly increased their preference for genetically different men.
Why? Roberts notes that when they become pregnant, female animals switch to preferring the scent of genetically similar males. This may allow them to seek out males that will help them protect and raise the baby. Claus Wedekind, PhD, who performed the original T-shirt-sniffing studies, has suggested that birth control pills somehow mimic this process.
The question, of course, is what happens when a woman taking birth control pills marries a man to whom she's attracted -- and then stops taking the pill.

Herz says marriage counselors who have never heard about these studies tell her that the No. 1 complaint among women no longer sexually interested in their husbands is that they can no longer stand how he smells.
"If you can't stand how someone smells, you cannot become intimate," Herz says.
Does this mean the birth control pill is a divorce pill? Herz says it's not that simple.
"A woman's response to a man's natural body odor will be colored by her feelings for him," she says. "So if you fell in love with a man online, it would be hard to be repelled by his smell."
Roberts and colleagues report their findings in the Proceedings of the Royal Society B: Biological Sciences.

The Biology of Love: Your Brain in Love
More Clues than Ever about the Biology of LoVe -- Why We're Attracted, Why We FaLL so Hard, and What Makes Us Stay
Scientists peeking inside our brains and psyches have more clues than ever about the biology of love -- why we're attracted, why we fall so hard, and what makes us stay

analytical, driven, not very verbal, and not always compassionate.
She's gregarious, intuitive, whimsical, warm, and compassionate.

Before you say "not a chance," hear another view.

It's probably a good match, says Helen Fisher, PhD, a cultural anthropologist from Rutgers University and a leading researcher on love, attraction, and romance. One of her findings: Biology matters, and these two people's biology -- their chemical "profiles" -- may complement each other nicely.

In recent years, Fisher and a host of other researchers have been looking deep into our psyche and brains -- helped by high-tech imaging and genetic analysis. They've come up with some intriguing information about what makes us become attracted to someone, what underlies the crazy-in-love feeling, what's up with the transition from butterflies to a more comfortable relationship, and what keeps us attracted.

"It's all much less of a mystery than it was five years ago and certainly 30 years ago," says Arthur Aron, PhD, a professor of psychology at the State University of New York at Stony Brook and another top researcher in the field. The science of the biology of love is relatively new. Research picked up steam in the 1980s, Aron says, and since then experts have made multiple discoveries. Here's a sampling of their findings:

The Biology of Love: Biology Matters
When it comes to whom you are attracted to, "your biology plays a role,'' says Fisher, who wrote Why We Love and several other books. It's not only a similar socioeconomic status, level of education and family backgrounds that make people attractive to you, she says, but also hormones -- ones that differ from your own.

We're attracted, Fisher says, to those with a chemical "profile" for estrogen, testosterone, dopamine, and serotonin that's different from our own, yet complements it. For instance, she says, "If you tend to be high estrogen, you will gravitate to the high testosterone type.''

That explains why Mr. Analytical and Driven and Ms. Gregarious and Warm are a match. He's probably a ''high testosterone'' type, Fisher says, and she is probably a "high estrogen" type. "For good Darwinian reasons, they are very complementary," says Fisher. She can likely see many ways of doing things and become indecisive. To the rescue, the analytical man. Likewise, she might inspire more compassion in him.

The Biology of Love: Your Brain in Love
Love involves three basic brain circuits, according to Fisher. There's the sex drive, which motivates us to seek out partners; romantic love, the in-the-clouds feeling when you first fall in love; and the attachment phase, the comfortable-but-fewer-fireworks stage.

"The sex drive is a very simple drive," Fisher says. "It's simply the craving for sexual gratification, driven largely by testosterone in both men and women."

The Biology of Love: Your Brain in Love
The three brain systems, however, don't always come into play in any kind of order. They can kick in separately of be intertwined. Or they can trigger each other. For instance: you can have sex with someone but not fall in love, of course; you can be in love with someone with whom you've never had sex.

"Of these three systems, in many respects I think the most powerful one is intense romantic love," Fisher says. With Aron and others, Fisher has used functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRIs) to examine the brains of people in love and get clues about romantic love.

In one study, 17 people who were newly in love and asked to look at a photo of their beloved showed intense activity in two brain regions associated with reward and motivation -- called the ventral tegmental area and the right caudate nucleus. The findings led Fisher's team to suggest that the crazy-in-love feeling is more a motivation system than an emotion. The report was published in 2005 in The Journal of Comparative Neurology.

"Both the VTA and the caudate nucleus are part of the brain reward system," Fisher says. And the VTA, she says, is a "mother lode" for cells that make dopamine, a brain chemical important for controlling emotional response and the ability to feel pleasure and pain. As dopamine levels in the madly-in-love increase, she says, it accounts for focused attention on the new partner, motivation to get the reward -- and the lover's high.

In this romantic love phase, Fisher says, lovers are motivated to win each other over. Obsessive thinking is part and parcel.

"What we are seeing is activation in the same area as when you expect to receive a large reward," Aron says. It's the same area that "lights up" in cocaine users, he says, as they anticipate using the drug.

"What we think is what's going on when one falls in love is, one perceives incredible opportunities for one's life to be enriched," Aron says. "Perhaps the most important reward for most people is falling in love."

The Biology of Love: Smell Counts
Aside from biology and brain activity, body odor is important and help may dictate who we are attracted to and our romantic behavior. "It may be one of the first things that inspires us to say yes or no," says Charles Wysocki, PhD, a researcher at Monell Chemical Senses Center in Philadelphia.

Preference for human body odors is influenced by both gender and sexual orientation, Wysocki and his colleagues found in their research, published in 2005 in Psychological Science. When his study participants of different orientations and genders were asked to choose between distinct odors -- straight men, gay men, straight women, lesbian women -- each picked the odor of a partner of the preferred gender and orientation.

''A person's body odor is determined by a number of factors," Wysocki says," and among them is a set of genes that regulate the immune system." This cluster of genes is called the major histocompatibility complex or MHC. "This MHC confers on an individual an odor print," says Wysocki, citing others' research. And experts have found that a person will seek out a partner with an MHC different than his or her own. "MHC is so variable, no two are alike," Wysocki says

The Biology of Love: The Script Counts
Once you're initially attracted to someone -- helped along by hormones, odor, or other unconscious factors -- what the other person does or doesn't do counts, too. "You become more attracted to people who are attracted to you," Fisher says.

For instance, one research participant told Aron: "I sort of liked this woman and she came over and sat by me." Things developed.

A woman told Aron she was talking to a friend about her piano instructor and the friend said, "You know he likes you." At that moment, the woman told Aron, she realized she had feelings for him, too.

"When people fall in love, that is the most common scenario," Aron says. "We are looking for the opportunity to love and be loved back."

The Biology of Love: From Butterflies to Comfortable
After people have been in love a while, the activity in the brain reward areas wanes, Fisher has found in further research. "As the relationship matures, it links in new brain areas associated with emotion," she says. "We aren't exactly sure what is going on, but everyone knows romantic love changes over time."

Still, she says, "chemistry" can persist. "We have started a new study, of those in long-term marriages," she says. Only five people have undergone the fMRI imaging so far, but it looks promising for those who yearn for long-term chemistry. "They still show activity in some brain regions associated with romantic love and also with some associated with attachment," Fisher says.

Two other hormones -- oxytocin and vasopressin -- may come into play once you are settling into a more comfortable relationship. At least it's true in small rodents called prairie voles, according to Sue Carter, PhD, a professor of psychiatry at the University of Illinois at Chicago, who has studied the monogamous animals for decades. Both hormones seem important in the animals' attachments to one other vole, she says.

Oxytocin, sometimes called the hormone of love, is plentiful in women in labor and in lactating women and is released by men and women during orgasm. Some human studies have suggested it plays a role in maintaining interpersonal relationships. Vasopressin is released by the pituitary gland.

In voles, at least, Carter says, the hormones seem to play a role in social bonding, and perhaps in reducing fear, making them feel less anxious. So that may play a role in the voles' decision to mate with just one other vole.

The Biology of Love: Making it Last
Avoiding boredom is crucial for the health of a relationship, In a study, he randomly assigned couples to participate in activities both considered highly exciting but moderately pleasant or highly pleasant but moderately exciting.

"The group who did highly exciting but only moderately pleasant activities had a much bigger increase in marital satisfaction," he says. The study was published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.

Meanwhile, another expert is tracking the long-term effect of picking a partner with a different major histocompatibility complex. Martie Haselton, PhD,apsychologist and researcher atthe University of California LosAngeles,isworkingtotracknewlyweds,noting the effect of different MHC patterns between partners.

"There is some evidence that fertility is higher in those with dissimilar MHC genes," says Haselton. And children who inherit different MHC genes from each parent are thought to have broader immunity, she says. She also wants to determine if picking someone with different MHC genes than your own bodes well for the relationship long term.

Women in a relationship with a man with very different MHC genes are more sexually responsive to that partner and less likely to be attracted to other men than are women who pair up with a guy with not-so-different MHC genes, says Haselton, citing a study by other researchers published in 2006 in Psychological Science. How that plays out long term will be Haselton's focus as she follows couples for five years or so.

The Biology of Love: What Part Chemistry?
So how much of a role does all this chemistry going on in our brains play in all this? "Chemistry isn't quantifiable," Fisher says. In the making of a relationship, she says, several variables come into play -- such as personality, which includes your character and your temperament. "Your character is formed by everything you grew up with," she says. "And your temperament is built by your biology. Together they create who you are."

So it's difficult to put a percent or a number on the role of chemistry in a relationship. And like some of us, it can be fickle. "One moment chemistry rules and the next moment your upbringing will rule," Fisher says. As in: "I'm madly in love with this guy." to "What I am thinking? He's a different religion."

One thing's for sure. There's much more to discover about the biology of love, guaranteeing that relationship scientists will have jobs for years to come.

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